Any advice on stopping driving yourself mad?!

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Hi ladies.
Just wondering if any of you could give me any advice / peace of mind.. Got a BFP on Sunday, tested again Tuesday - much darker line. Tested again just now because I can't stop worrying and it's much lighter.
I know that this can happen,and to be fair the other ones were first pee of the day whereas this one obviously wasn't. Nevertheless, I can't stop worrying and driving myself mad!
Has anyone got any tips on just learning to relax / enjoy it / not acting like a crazy anxious person 100 times a day>?!
I'm only a couple of weeks along and can't help worrying something could go wrong.

Thanks.
 
Hiya,
I am 5wd and found out two weeks ago. And i had really bad anxiety thinking am i, what if, waiting...and the only thing that i could do was to try to calm down and let it pass. Sometimes you want something so bad that you think youre going to loose it, i think its only natural and I can only wonder if its the hormones.
Try to be calm and rest up :)
 
Well, first, testing every few days is going to drive you NUTS. Don't do it. Put the tests away. You'll go crazy comparing colors. The intensity of the lines can vary, even if the tests are the same brand and everything, because they're not all made with a consistent amount of dye.

With my son, I tested every week, and every week my tests got a little lighter... Well, I was also drinking more, and I was being stupid by testing, but boy did I scare myself.

I helped the time pass in the first trimester of my first pregnancy by researching all the best brands of baby stuff, deciding on themes for a nursery, deciding on everything I'd buy and creating an online registry of all the fun things I'd love to have. I seriously spent every free moment of my first trimester working on this... and it kept me from stressing out because I kept busy.

This time, I've got a baby; there's no free time anywhere. lol
 
True! Wish I could enjoy it more but at the moment it's more panic over whether it's going to really happen. Got BFP pretty much immediately after starting TTC & was told i'd have problems conceiving.. so it's all a bit of a whirlwind and feels too good to be true.
Suppose i'll just keep my mind off of it (if i can!) and hope that time goes quickly so that i'm further along and hopefully more confident!
 
xdxxtx : thanks! I thought about doing that, might be the best idea actually, been to look at some things this morning with OH but as soon as he went off to work & i saw some posts on here and thought 'what if..' Need to stop driving myself mad and trust it!
 
I drove myself mad googling all the things that could go wrong and reading some not so positive threads on here about miscarriages etc. It really messed me up for a few days and I avoided B&B for a while because it was making me worse hearing all these tragic loss stories.

Then I really prayed about it just heard the words 'don't worry about tomorrow' in my head. And it's true. Worrying will do neither you nor your baby any good and wont change anything. Give yourself the permission to enjoy it. All the odds are stacked in your favour so keep your glass half full and enjoy this wonderful time. You're pregnant! What a beautiful early Christmas gift. Congratulations xxx
 
It's really hard not to stress and I am in the same boat as you at the minute. Got my BFP on Monday and have done 3 tests since then. 2 FRERs and 1digi and I have 3 more in my bathroom. I know I will use them and drive myself nuts today.

Wish we could both relax.
 
I keep waking in the night with my stomach churning with anxiety!! And spend the days analysing symptoms and googling!! I only got my bfp on Monday!! Currently feeling quite nauseous on and off but no sore boobs yet...but fretting as I'm not having hardly any cramping like I did last time. I wish I could switch off but as you say, when it's the most important thing in your life and so precious to you, the thought of losing it is terrifying. Every woman's experience with first trimester is so different too. Googling really stresses me out so I'm just sticking to looking for any replies I get on here from my posts! X
 
Ps I've done 6 tests and am tired of analysing the difference in the lines! But having my second beta hcg levels drawn tomorrow to see if they are doubling x
 
I am on my forth pregnancy now (2 miscarriages, 1 sucessful but difficult pregnancy) and the one thing that I have learnt is that, providing you are doing what you should be doing in terms of not drinking, not smoking, taking your vitamins etc, you can't change the outcome! So it's time to give yourself a bit of a talking to and stop doing the tests. Get whatever tests you have out and do them all at once, then don't buy any more. What will be will be!
 
It's so hard!
The last 2 weeks for me have dragged immensely and will do I think up until my 12 weeks scan.
I can't even bring myself to look at baby stuff as I think I'll jinx it!
It's natural to worry though x
 
I helped the time pass in the first trimester of my first pregnancy by researching all the best brands of baby stuff, deciding on themes for a nursery, deciding on everything I'd buy and creating an online registry of all the fun things I'd love to have. I seriously spent every free moment of my first trimester working on this... and it kept me from stressing out because I kept busy.

This is what I'm doing :) Every time I start stressing abt possible miscarriage or whatever, I just occupy my mind researching things about actual babies, not pregnancy (that just scares you with all the horror stories lol)
 
I keep waking in the night with my stomach churning with anxiety!! And spend the days analysing symptoms and googling!! I only got my bfp on Monday!! Currently feeling quite nauseous on and off but no sore boobs yet...but fretting as I'm not having hardly any cramping like I did last time. I wish I could switch off but as you say, when it's the most important thing in your life and so precious to you, the thought of losing it is terrifying. Every woman's experience with first trimester is so different too. Googling really stresses me out so I'm just sticking to looking for any replies I get on here from my posts! X

I agree. Google is toxic. Trawling through it can only come to no good. Keep away from it and focus on the positives. 80% of pregnancies DON'T end in miscarriage in the first trimester. That's something to be encouraged by xx
 

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