ANY ADVICE PLEASE x

[bumski]

Hi am am getting really frustrated as i dont know where to go with this trying to concieve any more and was wondering if any one had any advice, basically i have not been on the pill since just after i had my daughter nearly 9 yrs ago, now me and my husband have been trying properly to get pregnant for about 3 yrs but only recently using opks and temping which just seems to stress us so we decided on the every day all the way through my cycle as more fun, I have very irregular cycles and the only advice my doctor will give me is KEEP TRYING! can anyone tell me what i should tell my doctor to make her listen, i have been to c her about this atleast 10 times in the past year and im still no further forward. i feel like its never gonna happen

 

[FunnyBunny]

Can't you try and see another doctor as yours doesn't seem very helpful or sympathetic? Have you tried asking to be referred to a fertility clinic?

 

[pink_glitter]

Gosh after 3 years you should be further down the line than your doctor telling you just to keep trying!

After 1 year of me trying my doctors kept telling me your young keep trying, i got so fed up that i changed my surgery and straight away they got me to go to a fertility clinic, and although its just been two years now ihave had all the tests and realise i am not ovulating every month and have started my first cycle of clomid.

i would defo ask to see another doctor if not change your surgery!....hope you get a bit further soon as i know its stressful when they say keep trying!!

 

[Farie]

I would suggest goign to see the Dr agin, but ask for a different one. explaine that you have irregular cycles, you have been using OPK's/charting and have been trying for nearly 3 years without success.
As a 1st step you can ask for day 21 and day 3 bloods and possibly an ultrasound to have a look at your uterus and may be mention a HSG? Your OH could also have a SA.

I found that when I went into the Dr and laid it all down .. trying for nearly 12 months, charting, CBFM etc etc they were happy to send me for some basic tests. But you have to have an idea of what to push for I think.

 

[maz]

Go back and see your doc - if needs be a different one - and ask them to refer you to a specialist. Tell them how frustrated and upset you are that you can't conceive a brother or sister for your daughter. If needs be, start with the tears. Ask for day 21 blood tests, get DH to have a SA, and then ask for your referral.

Good luck hun

 

[rachelle1975]

Oh hun that sucks i'm sorry.

I would suggest seeing your doctor or another GP.

Tell them that you have been TTC for 3 years, that you have been temping and OPKing and that you know you are ovulating according to the paperwork but that you would like blood tests done and for your DH to have an SA.

Tell them you have been covering all bases, having sex at the right times etc. so you want tests and you want them now!

Alternatively you could pay for a SA privately?? Believe it's around £60 and then when that is done go to the doctors with the results?

Fingers crossed you get a good response

 

[Angeldust]

Hiya hun
After 12mths of trying they should be doing some research on the both of you
they should take some blood from you to see if your ovulating and maybe do a lap and die incase you have any blockages in your tubes,

Then they should also ask your oh to do a semen sample and have that tested cause maybe he might need some tamoxifen to help strengthen the swimmers
also you maybe be given icsi/ivf if oh swimmers arnt the best

Alos may i suggest a tip we was told by fertility doctor is that if you have sex everynight then your just weakining the sperm so the best thing to do is ....
you should ovulate 12 to 16 days before your period is due but some start testing from day 10 if using ovulation kits.....

You should not have sex for a week so that its stronger the sperm then have intercourse do a day miss a day and try putting a pillow underneith your bum

Good luck hun and make a appointment at gp and ask to be seen at your fertility clinic
tell them you want to be checked over as soon as possible

 

[bumski]

Had a scan done about 2 yrs ago because had very irregular periods since i started when i was 14 and i was told everything was fine.all the pushing i have done since has got them to send me 4 blood tests but they didntknow where in my cycle i was and it was only 1test.(thought this was right at the time) the doctor then told me im not ovulating and stupid me said "oh i must be iv had a pos opk" I have seen both doctors at the surgery and even took my DH with me last time as feel im being brushed off, Doctors reply was" here is a phne number 4 a sperm test, i believe its £120! WTF? They have refused to do anything else until we pay for this. Needed advise becausenot sure at this stage what i am entitled to. sorry 4 the rant and thanks 4 all your help everyone, feel like im banging my head against a wall with the doctors xx

 

[natthecat]

could you try a different tack....

not really sure how you approached it before, but maybe the next appointment needs to be your OH, surely if he telss his GP onan appointment for HIM and says he is concerned about it then as a "health worry" from him they should do it on the NHS??

i am sure i read somewhere that if you have been ttc for 18 months or more that your entitled to investigation on NHS...

also just found this... dont know how good they are though...!

https://www.accessdiagnostic.co.uk/acatalog/FertilityScore.html

 

[bumski]

I thought we were entitled to this on NHS as my SIL friends have had this done within a yr!! annoys me because ironicly they are both pregnant now with no help needed. Sorry if i sound like im being bitchy. i dont mean to. Do you think i have a right to demand to be seen by a fertility expert or do you think changing doctors is the best option?

 

[natthecat]

I would challenge your doc and then say if he is not prepared to help then you'll find a GP who is.

He is paid to keep patients on his books and loosing someone can be the kick up the arse he needs.

I got fobbed off the other week and came home distraught and my bloke asked my why the hell I was putting up with it cos if it was anything else I would have gone to town on him, now my GP calls me the ball breaker! lol!

I went from thee doc saying come back when you've lost more weight

to

chart your temps and CM for 12 weeks combined with weightloss persistance and in the meantime he'll book an FS referral for me.

You do have to put your foot down.

continually book appointments with him, fill his diary till he gives you some help.

Tell him your not some kid who has decided to do it over a burger and an alchopop, you've been trying and need more help!

I know my GP has kids (photo on his desk) and I asked him if he was allowed a family why should I not be?

speak up for yourself and argue your case then if not even compromise tell him you will be sigining on to another GP.