Any of you have NO contact with FOB?

[Melissa.Feb12]

Due to mine aaand FOBs past events, we dont have contact, he lives in a different province, doesnt see Mikah or I, doesnt talk to Mikah or I, doesnt play a part in Mikahs or my life.
Do any of you have NO contact with FOB?
Is it hard for you?
How old is your LO?

Mikah is only 7 months, so i dont think he notices he doesnt have a "dad" ?

When hes older what do i tell him?



Love you

 

[divershona]

i have minimal contact with FOB at the moment and he has seen kaya maybe 3 or 4 times if he makes no effort to come and see her by her birthday then i'll be cutting all contact with him. when kaya is older i'll obviously explain to her that OH is her step-dad and that i tried to get her dad involved in her life but he was young so wasn't really interested but it doesnt matter because OH has been there since she before she was born. i'll also tell her that if in the future she wants contact with him then i'll help her with that.

i don't know your situation so I don't really know whether contact with your FOB would be a good thing or not, so good luck sorry i can't be more help

 

[lov3hat3]

I havnt for about 8 weeks now I think. I don't trust him around jamiee, I did, but he fucked that up. I don't know what I'll tell jamiee when he's older, hopefully he will understand i cut contact to protect him. I don't find It hard to not have contact, it's actually easier because I don't have to deal with him and the arguments. It is hard having to look after jamiee on my own though x

 

[QuintinsMommy]

Quins never met FOB , we have no contact , I don't speak to him.
sometimes I wish i had someone to talk to about things like when quins sick or something, but other then that I've never know any other way?

 

[lauram_92]

FOBs never had contact with Oliver. Ol is going to be 8 months on Saturday.

I feel sorry purely for Oliver, I wouldn't want him in my life but I wish Oliver had a Dad. But last night I was speaking to girls who don't have a Dad and they say they don't miss something they didn't know, so they don't feel like they're missing out?

 

[Desi's_lost]

Nope, none! Not even seen him. Syri is 10 months.
honestly doesnt really bother me
Not sure what ill tell her, gotta see what the future looks llike!

 

[kittycat18]

I'm not in the same situation but I am just popping in to say how amazing you all are and how well you are doing to raise your LO's on your own It must be so difficult but everyday is worth it! You are all truly inspiration for being so responsible, mature and loving! xx

 

[Burchy314]

I have had no contact with FOB for the past few weeks and I have a feeling I won't be having contact with him ever again or atleast not for a long time. Its hard because I miss having a relationship, but I'm doing fine. I don't know what I'm going to tell her when she's older though.

 

[rileybaby]

Im back with FOB now but we had broke up for like 4 months. We didnt speak for 8 weeks and he didnt bother contacting me to see how Riley was.. until he decided i had 'stopped him from seeing Riley' and wanted to take me to court. And here we are 6 weeks later back together again! I really dont know how dads can go such a long time without knowing how thier child is, let alone not seeing them!

 

[112110]

I had no contact with FOB from like January through June? I still don't speak to him I only bring Brayden round his Grandparents and he may or may not be there, maybe once a week for 2 hours.

 

[fightchick]

i haven't had connect with FOB in almost 3 years. my son is turning 3 on oct 5th. and no i dont think it's hard, i think lucas is better off. FOB, didn't want anything to do with lucas but a year or so later, i found out he had another son, which of course, he is there for. luckily, i met my OH 2 and a half years ago, and he stepped up and did what the FOB didn't. couldn't be thankful enough.

 

[lauram_92]

I'm not in the same situation but I am just popping in to say how amazing you all are and how well you are doing to raise your LO's on your own It must be so difficult but everyday is worth it! You are all truly inspiration for being so responsible, mature and loving! xx

I'm sure most people would do it if it came down to it?

 

[QuintinsMommy]

I glad you made this thread Melissa, i didn't know so many girls never speak to FOB, people always stare at me when I say quin and I have no contact , and quin never has had contact with FOB, lol

 

[Strawberrymum]

I have none we don't speak at all he never sees LO she's nearly 2. I much prefer it this way. If I could change her dad I'd do it in a heart beat but I can't so I just make it work. I would never want him in her life. One day i hope she understands

 

[faolan5109]

I have no contact with Lane's bio dad either. I know I am not going to lie to him, I am going to tell him when he is old enough and who he is.

 

[Marzipan_girl]

I'm not in the same situatuation either, but would also like to mention it's better to have no dad at all and an awesome mummy than a distraught mummy and a c*nt of a father who just f*cks everything up and makes everyones life a misery!

 

[Marzipan_girl]

I'm not in the same situation but I am just popping in to say how amazing you all are and how well you are doing to raise your LO's on your own It must be so difficult but everyday is worth it! You are all truly inspiration for being so responsible, mature and loving! xx

I'm sure most people would do it if it came down to it?

Haha I thought it sounded a little patronizing too lol

 

[lauram_92]

I'm not in the same situation but I am just popping in to say how amazing you all are and how well you are doing to raise your LO's on your own It must be so difficult but everyday is worth it! You are all truly inspiration for being so responsible, mature and loving! xx

I'm sure most people would do it if it came down to it?

Haha I thought it sounded a little patronizing too lol

I don't want to be a bitch or anything because it was obviously mean't kindly, but I just don't get why people make out we are so amazing. I love my son, and I'd have had him no matter what and I am sure most people would have continued their pregnancy whether they were with FOB or not. And even if people are with FOB it doesn't mean they help out a lot. I think we all have just tried to make the best decisions for our babies.

 

[kittycat18]

I'm not in the same situation but I am just popping in to say how amazing you all are and how well you are doing to raise your LO's on your own It must be so difficult but everyday is worth it! You are all truly inspiration for being so responsible, mature and loving! xx

I'm sure most people would do it if it came down to it?

Haha I thought it sounded a little patronizing too lol

I don't want to be a bitch or anything because it was obviously mean't kindly, but I just don't get why people make out we are so amazing. I love my son, and I'd have had him no matter what and I am sure most people would have continued their pregnancy whether they were with FOB or not. And even if people are with FOB it doesn't mean they help out a lot. I think we all have just tried to make the best decisions for our babies.

Wow, wow, wow. It wasn't supposed to sound patronising at all I just meant that it's amazing what single mummies can do. In most cases, they are better parents to their child than a two parent family are to their child! Me and FOB/OH were apart throughout most of my pregnancy and that didn't mean I loved LO any less or wanted them any less. I just think I would have struggled without him in the picture so I think the girlies on here who can be a mummy and daddy on their own and do a brilliant job are amazing

 

[QuintinsMommy]

I'm not in the same situation but I am just popping in to say how amazing you all are and how well you are doing to raise your LO's on your own It must be so difficult but everyday is worth it! You are all truly inspiration for being so responsible, mature and loving! xx

I'm sure most people would do it if it came down to it?

Haha I thought it sounded a little patronizing too lol

I don't want to be a bitch or anything because it was obviously mean't kindly, but I just don't get why people make out we are so amazing. I love my son, and I'd have had him no matter what and I am sure most people would have continued their pregnancy whether they were with FOB or not. And even if people are with FOB it doesn't mean they help out a lot. I think we all have just tried to make the best decisions for our babies.

I don't know what you are talking about but its rare that I get called amazing, and most times I feel more felt sorry for then anything,
and you know what ? I think I am fucking amazing its hard doing it alone, you have no one to help you with those sleepless nights, no one to share worries you have with, sometimes not even anyone to talk to ! , when I lived with my ex(not FOB) we would take turns he would give the kids a bath one night me the next and that little break was wonderful!
I'm not saying not all FOB are helpful but at least you are not alone

so I am fucking amazing, and I'm proud and I love that kittycat let me know that some people look up to people like me.