Hollynesss
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I am still on the WTT side, but as our TTC date comes closer I wanted the opinion of some ladies already TTC. Does anybody else out there have a DH who has low sex drive?
My poor DH is so embarrassed about this, and its so hard to talk to him about it because his immediate response is "I get it, I'm a disappointment" and then shuts down. That is not how I feel at all....I love him dearly, and I just want to help him. Every once in a while he feels frisky and initiates, but that is not very often, and he doesn't like it when I initiate because he can't stand to see me hurt when he just isn't in the mood...or can't get it up. He swears up and down that it isn't me, he just doesn't know what is wrong. He just got a promotion and we are in a great financial place, so stress really isn't a factor. He is a smoker, which I know can effect libido, but I wouldn't expect it to go down to nothing. He has an appointment with his regular doctor in two weeks, and I asked to please, please mention it so they can see if there is a hormonal factor.
It wasn't always like this, either, it has slowly declined in the 3 years we've been together until its become pretty much dwindled down to nothing. We are due to TTC in December, so I am really desperate for advice!
Thank you
My poor DH is so embarrassed about this, and its so hard to talk to him about it because his immediate response is "I get it, I'm a disappointment" and then shuts down. That is not how I feel at all....I love him dearly, and I just want to help him. Every once in a while he feels frisky and initiates, but that is not very often, and he doesn't like it when I initiate because he can't stand to see me hurt when he just isn't in the mood...or can't get it up. He swears up and down that it isn't me, he just doesn't know what is wrong. He just got a promotion and we are in a great financial place, so stress really isn't a factor. He is a smoker, which I know can effect libido, but I wouldn't expect it to go down to nothing. He has an appointment with his regular doctor in two weeks, and I asked to please, please mention it so they can see if there is a hormonal factor.
It wasn't always like this, either, it has slowly declined in the 3 years we've been together until its become pretty much dwindled down to nothing. We are due to TTC in December, so I am really desperate for advice!
Thank you