Anyone been team yellow for first baby but found out gender for second?

[PhoenixN]

I am just so flippin' curious! I was with DD but agreed with OH that we would stay team yellow. And it was nice having the surprise but THB I was so exhausted, so long as the baby was out and healthy I didn't really care if it was a boy or girl

Now, OH still wants to be team yellow but he says that if I really want to know we can find out. I thought it might be more practical to know but even DD (3 and a half years old) says she wants to wait until baby is born! Lol.

This is our last baby so I think I might like to experience both ways but am worried that it will feel like a bit of an anti-climax finding out before the birth.

Just interested to know of opinions from ladies who have done it both ways.

 

[BellaPrincesa]

I've been team yellow twice now! but i've always said i would like to experience it both ways so decided to find out this time and i'm not disappointed i did at all. It's so lovely to be able to imagine my family for what it's going to be in 4 months time and i definitely feel like i've bonded with this baby in a completely different way than in previous pregnancies, where baby has been just that - "the baby". I now know i'm carrying a girl and she has a name and i love to be able to shop for girl clothes and not just buy white and creams.. it's a special feeling finding out! i know how special it is to keep it a surprise as well since i've done that twice and it truly is special but i have to say i'm a bit of a convert and if i go on to have another baby after this i will definitely find out again

 

[SeaThreePeeO]

When I had my first daughter 13 years ago, it was hospital policy not to tell the sex of the child.

When I had my second daughter my husband and I asked as my eldest has autism and we thought knowing would help her get used to what was happening. We were told we were having a girl and with that knowledge my eldest was able to help name her before she was born. I felt it helped me bond better with my youngest as I already knew her before she arrived.

We will be finding out with this one as well, so we know whether to dig out the pink stuff or buy new.

 

[G2501]

Keeping an eye on this thread as if we have another we may find out after being team yellow first time round, interesting to hear of others experiences!

 

[tiggerz]

With my first I didn't want to know and even at the birth I was handed my baby and nobody said which gender and I forgot to look lol - it was probably 10 mins until I knew he was a little boy - it was exciting and I did not regret not finding out!!

With my second we all wanted to know what we were having, I think this was because I suffered secondary infertility and a mc - this pregnancy took 5 yrs to achieve and I wanted to know everything!! This baby was a girl - I throughly enjoyed shopping for my baby girl and loved that she wasn't in White, or lemon for months and loved buying bedding etc in a colour!!

So IMO both ways are exciting - it wasn't an anti-climax for us we loved knowing what she was!

This time we are finding out too as we have lots of things for a girl but nothing for a boy as our son is now 11 yrs old and most of his baby things were given to charity when I was down about not being able to fall pg again. So practically and financially we want to know x

 

[kristen77]

I'm the same as G2501, loving reading these posts & thinking we might find out now

X

 

[Lara310809]

We were team yellow with our first baby, and we found out at the 20 week scan with our second. I don't regret finding out, and actually it's quite exciting knowing the sex, just as it was exciting not knowing with our other baby. We also wanted to be able to experience it both ways.

 

[PhoenixN]

Ooh, I think I really want to know now but don't want to feel bad for making OH find out too

 

[Lisa83]

This is my 3rd pregnancy, my first two who are 9 & 10 I found out what they both were, however their daddy died in a terrible accident in work .. I am now engaged to a wonderful man & almost 20 weeks with baby number 4 !! Anyways ....

With my last little girl which was my Oh's first child he wanted a surprise so we stayed team yellow, and it was great going through labour not knowing what she was, however with this baby ( which will be our last ) we have decided to find out, as from experience you can be a little more organised, and having experienced it both ways I can safely say knowing if your team pink or blue does not take anything away from the wonderful experience of bringing a little life into the world ...

Everyone has a personal opinion about this and you will know whats right for you to do xxxx

 

[mamawannabee]

I'll be keeping an eye on this thread too, I promised OH we could find out with our second as I wanted to be team yellow for our first. I would stay team yellow for all our children, but he would find out everytime, so we have to compromise. Though I'm hoping he enjoys finding out at birth enough to want to do it again! But it will be whatever he wants to do next time.

 

[Glowstar]

I have been team yellow twice...but then I had my DD's in the mid 1990's and they didn't tell you the sex then

I am feeling the urge to find out with this one though. I'd really love a little boy but have a feeling it will be another girl. I will NOT be disappointed though. I'm finding it really hard to decline finding out...whereas years ago it didn't bother me because you were never told anyway

 

[kristen77]

Great thread Anyone else??! X

 

[rivanprincess]

My Dh and I are just to impatient to wait we have found out with both pregnancies. I like being able to get the nursery all ready and have gender specific clothes and such. Most of our friends though have been team yellow with their first and found out with their second. This was usually because one wanted to know and the other didn't, so they compromised. I think its easier finding out with the second because they you can prepare the older sibling for the new arrival of the new baby sister or brother. And get everything ready before hand when you don't have quite as much time to do things once the new baby gets here.
I also have a few friends that didn't find out with either, so it's really a personal choice.

 

[LilianA]

Please don't mind me nosing around already in the 2nd trimester.. I Have a friend who is pregnant for the second time and with their first daughter they didn't find out but now with this one her husband didn't want to find out but she did so she asked the doctor and found out what she's having and her husband still doesn't know what it is. she doesn't tell anyone the sex though so that it doesn't somehow accidentally get to her husband.

 

[PhoenixN]

Please don't mind me nosing around already in the 2nd trimester.. I Have a friend who is pregnant for the second time and with their first daughter they didn't find out but now with this one her husband didn't want to find out but she did so she asked the doctor and found out what she's having and her husband still doesn't know what it is. she doesn't tell anyone the sex though so that it doesn't somehow accidentally get to her husband.

No one minds you nosing around!

OMG, I'm not sure I could keep the secret. I'd accidentally refer to baby as 'he' or 'she'.

Mind you, the way he's behaving OH will be lucky if I let him come to the scan!

 

[myasmumma]

we found out both times

 

[Ellie Mary]

It's really interesting to read your experiences. We were team yellow with DS (now 4 1/2) and I was so excited about having a surprise.
This time round, DH wanted to find out and I talked him into not doing so. Our 20 week scan is on Friday and I now quite like the idea of finding out, but DH is now set on not finding out. I did too good a job of convincing him in the beginning!
My sister had a little girl, then with her second her husband really wanted a boy so they decided to find out the sex so that he could deal with the disappointment before the birth. Their second is a girl and there was quite a bit of heartache at and after the scan and I felt so sorry for them both. I wonder whether if they had waited until the birth they would have just fallen instantly in love with their daughter, been so grateful that she was healthy and not been in the least disappointed.
I personally don't have a preference and neither does DH. We had to have fertility treatment and wait a year and a half to fall pregnant. The most important is that he or she is healthy so we wouldn't be disappointed either way.
I guess I have three and a bit more days to decide if I really do want to know and work on DH!

 

[Jembug]

I did mine the opposite... First pregnancy we found out we was having a girl.
Second pregnancy my oh didn't want to find out..... He believed 'my bump' was a boy and I felt that's it was another girl...... And I did have another girl
I felt that the suprise was more exciting than finding put the sex and choosing a name before we met. My OH was initially disappointed that we had a girl as he had convinced himself she was a boy.... Obvously he wouldn't change her for the world.

Next time I fall pregnant we will be finding out the sex, just for pratical reasons as I have soooo many girl clothes..... Although the surpise was amazing. X

 

[marley2580]

We were yellow for both our girls and we're staying yellow for this one. We really like the surprise and the private moment where we find out for ourselves