Anyone bringing OH to 1st midwife appointment?

[I-want-1-2]

ladies

Just a quick one, I had my first appointment with my doctor yesterday, who informed me that most of my antenatal stuff will be with the midwife at the surgery now (obviously fingers crossed, because that means everythings ok!).

My booking-in appointment witht the midwife is on 5th October. My question is, does DH need to come? He's happy to, but I'm thinking is it really worth him coming if the midwife is just starting my notes? I have no idea what to expect, don't want him to be bored, thinking he'd have been better staying in work!!

Is anyone else's OH going along or been already and found it useful?

Thanks

 

[Mari30me]

I do not bring my DH to my appointments. They are usually really quick and not worth it for him to leave work. The only appointment I bring him to is my 20 weeks scan.

 

[mummy2be123]

I didnt take my ex to my midwife appointment it was just loads of notes, pretty boring to be honest! I'd say your 16 week one is better when you can hear babies HB xx

 

[Mid.night]

Hello,

My husband has been to all my appointments so far and we always book them at a date and time he can come too.

He doesn't necessarily need to be there for the booking appointment but it is useful. The midwife will ask about both families medical history and also explain how the antenatal care works. We were asked if we had any questions of which he asked a few! I think it really helped him feel included in the pregnancy as he won't get any of the feelings or symptoms.

also they took my bloods at booking and I am a massive wimp with needle so it was good to have him there to hold my hand, make me laugh and then drive me home after when I felt a little dizzy!

 

[Akinesia]

My OH likes to feel included in anything relating to my pregnancy, so he was more than happy to attend my first appointment knowing it would mostly be a question and answer type visit. It was also nice for me to have him there, given it has turned out that I'm not at all crazy about my midwife and he can see firsthand why that is and be supportive as I search for someone better suited to me. I guess it depends on you and your OH, how important is it to him to attend these sorts of things.

 

[CrazyKitty]

Hi! My DH wasn't able to come to my first appointment but it wasn't such as issue. The woman I booked the appointment with said that this one isn't so important for him to be there but he will definately want to attend all future appointments. At the first appointment, I just had to check my details, asked a few questions(those that I remembered to ask, anyway...) and was given a load of paperwork to take away and fill in for my next appointment. Oh, I nearly forgot the take away pee pot.... I hope that helps!xox

 

[I-want-1-2]

Thanks ladies

 

[roxursox302]

My OH has been to every appt. Though idk if its because he just wants to get off work early or what lol

 

[GirlRacer]

OH has been to pretty much any appointments I've had so far, mainly cos I will sort them for days that he has off. He's happy to come along and any time I suggest going on my own he always insists on coming too!

 

[Sara35]

DH went to all appointments with our first and he wants to go to all of them with this pregnancy too...he just wants to feel included in everything

 

[xAmiixLouisex]

I wouldn't bring OH. First midwife appointment is a load of paper work and pretty boring. They don't say much about your partner tbh. But, completely up to you

 

[Tonka106]

I haven't had my first appt yet but OH will only be coming to the appt where I hear the HB for the first time and to my 20wk scan.. he works way too much and it's hard for him to get days off.

 

[Vicky1982]

I am pregnant with my 2nd baby, my OH didnt come with me to my first appointment with my little girl, and I wished to god he had, I was suffering really bad with morning sickness, and then had to have my bloods done, and was extremely faint and not well afterwards. This time, he is definelty coming to the 1st appointment and any scans.

 

[cowgirl21]

My hubs is coming to all of my appointments. I have a terrible memory sometimes and its so much easier if he comes to ask the questions I forget, or don't think to ask, and then remember the answer! He came with me to the first ultrasound since I was having loads of pain in my ovary. I was so nervous that the baby was in the wrong place or mmc, it was so relieving to have him there.
I'm also not very comfortable going to a doctor in the first place and he puts me at ease
I love him so much and I hope that I tell him enough!

 

[AFwife77]

Hubby came to all of mine so far!

 

[Sew_Sweet]

I had my hubby go to my first scan with me but let him go home for the actual appointment. I am glad too - it really would have been useless for him to be there. Nothing exciting happens during that portion.

 

[katstar]

i would say let him come. My oh was really cross with me when i was pregnant with our son as i did not think he wanted to come but he did. He kept quiet as he's a quiet one but he let it out he wanted to more involved.

And at the first appointment they ask you questions if there are any illnesses such as diabetes in both sides. It is handy for him to answer for his side of the family. xx

 

[libbylou]

I didn't really give hubby a choice!
I was glad he came though as the midwife spent a good long time telling us about her role in the process and going through any questions we had, so I felt it was important for him to hear that, especially since he was a bit skeptical of going with a midwife instead of an OB