Anyone else absolutely terrified

[jools21]

or everything? Now I have told my parent its suddenly seeming very real and I have now realised just how scared I am of birth, labour and pregnancy itself and being a mother. I have so many what ifs going around my head. What if I'm not ready, what if I am rubbish, what if I cant cope with the pain, what if I decide at 7 months I don't want this, what if I don't love the baby properly, what if I end up alone. The list is endless. I have gone from excited to petrified in the space of a day, I have gone silent to the point where OH is worrying. Anyone else out there?

 

[jenp86]

Oh darling breathe! Take it all one day at a time and don't freak out about the future that hasn't happened yet!

Enjoy your pregnancy!

 

[jools21]

I am just very anxious at the moment! my final year at uni starts next week, I am trying to find somewhere to live with OH (living on my mums sofa at the moment) moving away from all my family and getting my head around this pregnancy! I am sure I will chill out...eventually

 

[Akinesia]

Aw, I think it's normal to have these worries, especially with your hormonal changes in first trimester. I'd recommend not giving OH the silent treatment when it comes to what's on your mind. He's a part of this too, and he probably shares some of your concerns. Be open with him, you may find it comforting to discuss all of these things with him.

I'm scared too sometimes, especially of the birth because I might have a collagen disorder that could put me in danger. Just make sure everyone involved in your care is well aware of your feelings and fears. They'll likely be able to put your mind at ease by explaining everything well, and giving you plenty of options and advice. You have lots of time to prepare for this baby, just take things one step at a time. Good luck!

 

[Ceejay123]

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[jenp86]

I am just very anxious at the moment! my final year at uni starts next week, I am trying to find somewhere to live with OH (living on my mums sofa at the moment) moving away from all my family and getting my head around this pregnancy! I am sure I will chill out...eventually

I hear you, I'm still living with my parents as well, my bf and I have been looking for a house for months and haven't been able to find anything yet and I'm pretty positive that everything will happen all at once as things usually do.

BUT, this is my second pregnancy, first one was a mc, and I am just super over joyed and blessed to have the feeling of being pregnant again. So all that stress can wait til it comes I'll worry about it all when I have to.

 

[jools21]

I have just blurted out to OH about how scared I am and he gave me some chocolate and a cup of orangeade (massive craving of mine) and told me that he would look after me. I am very lucky to have him considering that he never even really wanted children and we have only been together 2 months. I am the most scared of ruining my career as my mum keeps asking me if "I am sure I want to go through with this" and do I want to potentially ruin my career. My career means a lot to me, am I naive thinking I can have it all?

 

[jools21]

I am just very anxious at the moment! my final year at uni starts next week, I am trying to find somewhere to live with OH (living on my mums sofa at the moment) moving away from all my family and getting my head around this pregnancy! I am sure I will chill out...eventually

I hear you, I'm still living with my parents as well, my bf and I have been looking for a house for months and haven't been able to find anything yet and I'm pretty positive that everything will happen all at once as things usually do.

BUT, this is my second pregnancy, first one was a mc, and I am just super over joyed and blessed to have the feeling of being pregnant again. So all that stress can wait til it comes I'll worry about it all when I have to.

Sorry to hear about your M/C and I just wanted to wish you a very H&H 9 months xx

 

[jenp86]

I am just very anxious at the moment! my final year at uni starts next week, I am trying to find somewhere to live with OH (living on my mums sofa at the moment) moving away from all my family and getting my head around this pregnancy! I am sure I will chill out...eventually

I hear you, I'm still living with my parents as well, my bf and I have been looking for a house for months and haven't been able to find anything yet and I'm pretty positive that everything will happen all at once as things usually do.

BUT, this is my second pregnancy, first one was a mc, and I am just super over joyed and blessed to have the feeling of being pregnant again. So all that stress can wait til it comes I'll worry about it all when I have to.

Sorry to hear about your M/C and I just wanted to wish you a very H&H 9 months xx

Thank you! You will be fine, if you're on here worrying about the health of your baby and such then you're going to be a wonderful mom, and I know many people who have been able to have a baby and their career as well. It's just going to take time to find a way to juggle everything in a way that works for you.

It's normal to freak out when you've never done this before! But I'm sure you'll find a way to make it work especially if u have such an awesome OH who brings you chocolate!! (So jealous! I want chocolate!)

 

[Mom2mmcjg]

With my first pregnancy I was scared to death more than half the time! Everything I was afraid of boiled down to being afraid of the unknown. Well, my oldest is 13 now and everything is wonderful. God will take care of you, take a deep breath and just keep moving forward.
As to the "having it all" thing, I really can't speak to that. I worked when my oldest two were young and I've always regretted it. I thought I wanted a career, but turns out being a mom to my boys has been the most important thing in my life. I wouldn't trade in being a mom for a career if my life depended on it. But that's me.

 

[YoshiPikachu]

I know how you feel. I feel most of those same things.

 

[Mon_n_john]

You can certainly have it all! It's normal to be scared and this will change your life but it will be for the better. = )

 

[danamm64]

I absolutely feel the same way! So many doubts and worries...I am hoping that it is because of hormones...
All I wanted was to become pregnant, and now I am terrified. I am worried that something bad will happen to the baby or me during delivery, or something will be wrong with the baby, or, or...I could go on and on. I try to talk it out with my husband and he calms me down a bit. I am just worried I might even be a bad mom. I am glad that I am not alone, and know that you are not either! We will get through this=)