anyone else content with just having one LO?

[amber1533]

Hiya gals,

I am an "only child" in a way and I loved it. Although I did get to experience life with an older sister (its a long story) that wasn't until I was 11 years old. I've heard people say that its great having a sibling and they loved it like my DH.

Personally I only want one child. I've always wanted only one. But DH wants three or four (thats not gonna happen lol) he says he will settle with just two.

So i was wondering if anyone only wants one child and what their reasons are.

Or even if you want more i was curious as to why?

 

[xprincessx]

I would be happy with just the one but i think it would just happen to be honest...i'm only going to be 18 when beanie is born so there is a long time where it could happen even with contraception (that's how Beanie came about!! haha) so who knows but i would like two or three but would be happy with just the one =)

 

[SRTBaby]

I am scared of only one child, what if anything happens, what if they are sick who will be there for them without a sibling. I grew up the oldest of 6 girls, i couldn't imagine life without my sisters. I am paying for two of them doing their university degree, there is no way my parents could afford it. We grew up sharing everything and we had very little, i learned a lot about family and we are very close. I delayed having my own family because i wanted to make sure everyone had education.

My hubby on the other hand is okay with one, not happening minimum of 2 and max of 3 for me.

 

[Csunshine013]

I have a DD that's 11 and this past year my mom passed away and I leaned on my sister and brother so much! I never want my DD to have to go through that experience alone! My BFF was an only child and I watched her loose both her parents and she told me she was so alone. Now this isn't my ony reason for having another baby but its one of them.

 

[bfphopeful]

I am seriously contemplating having just one. My main reason is that I'm not sure I love being pregnant. The sickness, the lack of normal mobility, tiredness etc. I'm so excited about having my baby however i physically feel horrible. I would have liked 2 or 3. They say you forget the pains of being pregnant soon after giving birth, will wait and see.

 

[rainbows_x]

I would be happy with one tbh. I would prefer 2/3 but I would rather have one than none at all!

 

[kfarb]

I REALLY REALLY want two, but this pregnancy has been hard. Nothing has taken it easy on me. Exhaustion was terrible. As soon as the MS let up, it was followed closely by terrible indigestion which made me continue throwing up. I'm on a prescription now, but it doesn't really do all that much. I don't know if I can do another pregnancy, but we'll see after the baby is born. I'll probably change my mind.

 

[CameraGirl]

I grew up with a brother and life was great, even to this day, 24 years and we ALWAYS hang out.

I would be happy with one, having another would mean moving houses and we just moved into this house 2 months ago and love it. I am more than content with one but would be happy to have 2. No more though!.

 

[Ladybug2009]

Hi all.

Reading some of your posts on this matter is very intresting. I always growing up as a child wanted 3 bbys and my DH wants about 4. When i was pregnant with my first i has sooooooo many problems while pregnant and i swore i would never have any more kids. We where happy with this decission until september 2009 we where told if we wanted any more children we would have to have them now due to problems i have been having and this changed everythink we whent from being happy with one child to wanting another 2 children asap but whats ment to be is ment to be after trying we concived after 1 month and was amazed although i hated being pregnant 1st time around its much harder this time and im getting braxton hicks and things more with second bby but i love being pregnant this time and watching my bump grow.

So my advise to you all would be.... Be open minded and Remember 2 bbys are never the same as with 2 pregnancys are never the same also.

 

[ohmybabybump.]

i was an only child and i enjoyed. my hubs wasn't so he wants a big family (not happening ) lol i only want one bc i don't know if i can go thru all of this again. lol. but i compromised on 2, having a second one about 7-10 years from now lol (i'm only 20)

 

[kmac625]

I'd be happy to have another but my dh only wants to have one (originally he didn't want any but he knew it was important to me so here we are and now he's happy - and scared lol). Due to finances and my age this will likely be the only one we have and I can be happy with that. Just means she'll get to be that much more spoiled hehehe.

 

[Ladybug2009]

I sed that before i got preg with my first id have a big age gap here i av 3years later with bby number 2 on the way haha!

i was an only child and i enjoyed. my hubs wasn't so he wants a big family (not happening ) lol i only want one bc i don't know if i can go thru all of this again. lol. but i compromised on 2, having a second one about 7-10 years from now lol (i'm only 20)

 

[amber1533]

i was an only child and i enjoyed. my hubs wasn't so he wants a big family (not happening ) lol i only want one bc i don't know if i can go thru all of this again. lol. but i compromised on 2, having a second one about 7-10 years from now lol (i'm only 20)

Yeah I think if I have another one it won't be for a few years, maybe 3, cause I want potty training and all that out of the way before another child. Although hubby says if he has to go thru another pregnancy like this he'll cry (lol poor guy) He hears me complain and throwing up and all that he thinks its hell tbh.

I loved being an only child when I was younger i had a lot of people who had big families feel sorry for me because I was alone. But when my sister moved in with us I absolutely hated it!

 

[rubixcyoob.]

I'm definately content with one after LO is born. I'll only be 17 and need to finish my degree. There may be a 4 year age gap between any children I have in the future and my first but I don't mind.

One if definately plenty for me just now lol

 

[vkj73]

great thread! i was just thinking about this on the way home from work today.
i'm turning 37 next month (baby due in june) and wonder about my age and another lo.

i've heard so many people say it's really challenging to have 2 lo's under the age of two. unless i push it past age 40, we would have 2 lo's under the age of two.

i have an older sister, so i know the pros and cons of siblings.
i'd love to hear more about the pros and cons of being an only child.

 

[mommy2bej]

im not to fond of my siblings or the fact that my mom favors certain kids.. thats why i plan to only have one.. i never want to choose because i know how it feels not to be chosen..

 

[venusrockstar]

We are definately having more than one child. I loved having a sister around when I was growing up...we're best friends to this day..we're very close and I can share anything with her. My hubby was an only child and he always said he wished he had siblings. He hated being an only child....so that's why we want at least 2....maybe 3 lol

 

[amber1533]

im not to fond of my siblings or the fact that my mom favors certain kids.. thats why i plan to only have one.. i never want to choose because i know how it feels not to be chosen..

Oh that was another reason for me to only want one. I used to think that if I had two or more children that i wouldn't love them each enough to not feel left out. Although I've seen plenty of mother adore their children.

I say now that I only want one. But friends and family tell me that in a few years it will kick in to want more. I guess we will see.

 

[vermeil]

I might have just one pregnancy - and then adopt I feel there are plenty of kids out there already who need some love

I've always wondered why adoption is just never discussed here - you're just as much a mommy, with as much love to give, it's a great joy that can replace the pain of parents having trouble TTC Yet it's never brought up, never mind having a whole section or something.

Aaanyway don't want to derail the conversation, carry on!

 

[RHR]

Ideally I would love to have two children. However, If we're only able to have one child I'll be happy with that. I will at least have one beautiful son or daughter.

Ideally two kids so that they have someone to play with and also for in the future, if anything happens to me or my OH they will have each other.

My oh has two younger brothers and they've always been close and pretty much had the same friends and would hang out together, Even now they're really close. I know they'd be lost without each other.