Anyone Else In This Predicament...

[Lellow]

....So, here's the scenario!

I am expecting baby number one and very happy and will talk to anyone and everyone about it of they ask however....Ive beeen feeling kind of bad at work lately as there is this lovely lady in my office who has been trying for a baby for many yrs with no success as yet .

I just kind of feel awful taking about baby with other colleagues when shes around as i would hate for her to feel awkward...actually i dont know if awkward is the right word but you know what i mean!

Anyone else had this issue with any of your pregnancies?

Thoughts on how to handle things are much appreciated!!!

 

[Ziggy2]

hey, i'm in a similar situation myself, and i think it's just best to go with what you feel is right, she would probably feel bad if she thought you couldn't share so much as you were worried about rubbing it in. I've got some friends who have been trying for a while and just recently suffered a miscarriage, but they have said they want us to still share our experience with them, but saying that I am cautious about talking about it too much.

 

[holywoodmum]

Kind of know where you're coming from, one of my colleagues has been trying since I pregnant with DD, who will be over 2 when this one arrives. She's had to MC that I know about in the last 6 months, one just a month ago... I didn't know what to say to her, as she hadn't told me about MC but another colleague had, in the end I just said that other colleague had mentioned it, and how sorry I was, which was OK, and we chatted briefly about me being PG again it was a bit weird. Another colleague is also pregnant, 5 weeks behind me, so I guess it's inevitable that talk will turn to babies, not sure how to deal with it, except maybe steer the conversation in another direction when she is around? Tricky one...

 

[loopylou86]

I am in a similar situation.

I work with two women both in their early 40’s and I am in my early 20’s. Neither of them have children but both want them but are not in a relationship to have them. I sometimes feel like I am made to feel bad because I am pregnant and it was unplanned etc... Sometimes I feel they are pushing information on me and I want to just take my time and figure things out for myself. There are also some things I just don’t want to talk about, personal things.

Its difficult, I know. x

 

[Lellow]

Thanks everyone! It is hard but i just figured why do i have to stop being happy about baby just because of others! It isnt my fault shes in the situation shes in i guess!
x

 

[BabyJayne]

It's not her fault she is in the situation she is in either...I think it's best to just bear it in mind when she is about and not make it the only topic of conversation. We may want to talk about our babies and being pregnant 24/7, but not everyone else does.
My friend has been trying for 2 years and has one failed IVF treatment behind her. I can tell that while she is over the moon for us, she is also hurting as she wants a baby so badly. My rule of thumb is to mention it if something important or exciting has happened, and if not, I wait for her to bring baby or the pregnancy up. If she asks, which she usually does, then I know she is quite happy to talk about it.