pradabooties
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Sorry in advance for the rant but I don't know any other pregnant ladies and I really need to vent this!
So a bit of background - my fiancé and I have been staying with my Mother for about 3 months now. Partially so I'd have someone to keep me company in the evenings because my fiancé works nights and also because her rent is very high so it's helpful for her that we stay and pay her a weekly board amount. It was always just a short term thing so now we are house hunting for our own place again.
My mum and I have a very close relationship but these past few weeks she is driving me CRAZY! I think it is quite a lot due to my hormones (now 31 weeks) but I work from home so I spend the whole week basically alone from 8am to 6pm then she comes home and we chat / have dinner for a couple of hours then she tends to go to bed before my fiancé comes home around 11pm. I think due to my hormones I've been getting quite depressed and anxious being home all day every day by myself. I just get worried and stressed about everything. Then I find it very hard to perk up and be in a chatty mood when my mother gets home and basically if I'm not in a great mood I feel like she gets annoyed that I'm moody. She also obviously sees it as a reason for her to also get stressed out which in turn makes me feel WAY more anxious.
On top of that she's just impossible to please. She's always telling me to put my feet up and rest / if my fiancé so much as goes to the bathroom before cleaning up after I've made dinner she asks why he isn't helping and gets all judgemental towards him. But the rest of the time she points out any household thing she thinks I do wrong and gets cold and shuts me off if for example I sleep in and when I get up she's cleaning.
Basically every day she nags me about everything... She wants me to exercise more, she doesn't like the way I clean the kitchen, I need to write a weekly schedule because I need to be achieving more, my fiancé isn't helpful or caring enough in her eyes etc etc
My fiancé can basically do no right in her eyes and she is constantly nagging me about him and although she's pleasant enough to him she's definitely not in the least bit warm. I've been with him for over 7 years so it's pretty much only since we moved in shes been like this to him. I know it all comes from her feeling protective of me but I'm on my last nerve and just want to tell her to back off! Is anyone else feeling this way about their parents?
Up until these past few weeks she's been great and really supportive and positive but I think now the nagging is just wearing me down and it's too much. She's taking a month off work after bub arrives to help out which I was happy about but now I'm worried that she's going to be judgemental and try to interfere with our first weeks as parents
Ps. My fiancé lost his mother when he was young so please don't think I am taking my mum for granted or anything like that, I just really needed to vent before I explode!
So a bit of background - my fiancé and I have been staying with my Mother for about 3 months now. Partially so I'd have someone to keep me company in the evenings because my fiancé works nights and also because her rent is very high so it's helpful for her that we stay and pay her a weekly board amount. It was always just a short term thing so now we are house hunting for our own place again.
My mum and I have a very close relationship but these past few weeks she is driving me CRAZY! I think it is quite a lot due to my hormones (now 31 weeks) but I work from home so I spend the whole week basically alone from 8am to 6pm then she comes home and we chat / have dinner for a couple of hours then she tends to go to bed before my fiancé comes home around 11pm. I think due to my hormones I've been getting quite depressed and anxious being home all day every day by myself. I just get worried and stressed about everything. Then I find it very hard to perk up and be in a chatty mood when my mother gets home and basically if I'm not in a great mood I feel like she gets annoyed that I'm moody. She also obviously sees it as a reason for her to also get stressed out which in turn makes me feel WAY more anxious.
On top of that she's just impossible to please. She's always telling me to put my feet up and rest / if my fiancé so much as goes to the bathroom before cleaning up after I've made dinner she asks why he isn't helping and gets all judgemental towards him. But the rest of the time she points out any household thing she thinks I do wrong and gets cold and shuts me off if for example I sleep in and when I get up she's cleaning.
Basically every day she nags me about everything... She wants me to exercise more, she doesn't like the way I clean the kitchen, I need to write a weekly schedule because I need to be achieving more, my fiancé isn't helpful or caring enough in her eyes etc etc
My fiancé can basically do no right in her eyes and she is constantly nagging me about him and although she's pleasant enough to him she's definitely not in the least bit warm. I've been with him for over 7 years so it's pretty much only since we moved in shes been like this to him. I know it all comes from her feeling protective of me but I'm on my last nerve and just want to tell her to back off! Is anyone else feeling this way about their parents?
Up until these past few weeks she's been great and really supportive and positive but I think now the nagging is just wearing me down and it's too much. She's taking a month off work after bub arrives to help out which I was happy about but now I'm worried that she's going to be judgemental and try to interfere with our first weeks as parents
Ps. My fiancé lost his mother when he was young so please don't think I am taking my mum for granted or anything like that, I just really needed to vent before I explode!