Anyone elses partners feel funny about doing the deed cause your pregnant?

[ShanandBoc]

Im always up for it, but DH says he feels weird about having sex cause im pregnant and because of my bump. He said its cause he knows she is in there

I cant help but feel kind of rejected by it......its hasnt slowed my sex drive....wel still do it here and there but its always me that initiates it

Has anyone else had this issue with their OH's? did it make u feel the same way.......or am i just being an over sensetive pregnant woman ???

 

[SRTBaby]

Both my DH and myself have been abstaining for months, we are now desperate to see our LO that we are willing to give it a try.

 

[NetsaBaba]

Our situation isnt exactly the same but he does get nervous sometimes especially when i yelp if we do something wrong and it hurts.

But we are still having sex as much as ever, although i do have to initiate it sometimes. I think all normal men have some reservations, if they didnt they would just be completely sex mad, and not thinking at all. Because if you think about it is strange how your baby is in there and when you finally look them in their little eyes you cant help but think 'my baby was present when me and mummy were DTD'

So i think it will range in men how much they worry about it but i could bet the vast majority do. The reson we dont worry as much is because we know how having the baby inside us feels, they dont and for that reason it is kinda like venturing into something unknown.

 

[Eskimobabys]

i have NO sex drive! my Dh use to want it all the time no matter how big my bump was but now its kinda slowed down bc he's nervous about breaking my water during Sex(should of never told him the story about that happening on here!) but he hasn't rejected my advances its just he hasn't made any of his own lately :/ and he's being "careful" during sex and its Driving me crazy lol i just wanna yell "Put Your back in to it!"

but i would feel rejected and prolly cry if he turned me down im very sensitive about things theses days! but dont worry ok guys just tend to get freak out about "knocking on the babies door" so to speak lol

 

[ShanandBoc]

I cry and get offended over everything, i dont think ive ever felt so vunerable in all my life.

Ive turned into a big baby. Im surprised DH hasnt run for the hills!!

 

[NetsaBaba]

i have NO sex drive! my Dh use to want it all the time no matter how big my bump was but now its kinda slowed down bc he's nervous about breaking my water during Sex(should of never told him the story about that happening on here!) but he hasn't rejected my advances its just he hasn't made any of his own lately :/ and he's being "careful" during sex and its Driving me crazy lol i just wanna yell "Put Your back in to it!"

but i would feel rejected and prolly cry if he turned me down im very sensitive about things theses days! but dont worry ok guys just tend to get freak out about "knocking on the babies door" so to speak lol

Okay that made me laugh xD
@ShanandBoc:- And thats the best sign of all hun, just because he wont have sex he has proven he loves you as he hasnt run for the hills. Dont worry just buy some handcuffs and have your way, he will soon cooperate

 

[ShanandBoc]

Thanks NetsaBaba.... i have thought about drugging him, tying him up or just giving him a swift plonk over the head haha jk's

He still does it but i have make the moves all the time!!! And then i will be breastfeeding afterwards which poses more problems re - contraception.

I feel like our sex life will never be back to normal!

 

[PrayinForBaby]

my hubby didnt touch me after 25 wks until i was full term (trying to move things along is the only reason he gave in then) because once during sex Haley kicked him lol

 

[Eskimobabys]

Thanks NetsaBaba.... i have thought about drugging him, tying him up or just giving him a swift plonk over the head haha jk's

He still does it but i have make the moves all the time!!! And then i will be breastfeeding afterwards which poses more problems re - contraception.

I feel like our sex life will never be back to normal!

I feel this way also my DH is a boobie man and is gonna have a hard time sharing!

 

[NetsaBaba]

Thanks NetsaBaba.... i have thought about drugging him, tying him up or just giving him a swift plonk over the head haha jk's

He still does it but i have make the moves all the time!!! And then i will be breastfeeding afterwards which poses more problems re - contraception.

I feel like our sex life will never be back to normal!

I arent breast feeding after but i feel this way too. Like sex after baby will be really rare.
But im going to make it so we get back to normal asap.
I think i want the relationship with us to remain but another one added like mummy and daddy and then wife and husband. Because even if we split(which i doubt will ever happen and i dont want it too obv.)
the relationship of mummy and daddy will always remain.
And i do understand how when you make the moves and they just go along its like they dont want it but will do it for a quiet life.
Hope i make sense

 

[baajee]

Yes completely ! I'm still rearing to go but OH is a bit psyched out like he's worried the baby will know what we're up to or something. I've reassured him the kid has no idea and logically he agrees but mentally he still can't get over it. It was easier in the first or second trimester when the bump wasn't so obvious.

I've taken to attacking him first thing in the morning when he's still snoozing and don't know what's going on. Or wearing a big t shirt to hide the bump (unsexy i know) but a girls got needs !!

 

[ShanandBoc]

haha Baajee, resorting to attacking the poor fella when his defenses are down hey lol!! Good work!

My husbands excatly the same, no matter what i say he says it just makes him feel wierd 'cause she's in there'

I was like 'in where? shes not in my V-jay 'hahaha

 

[cdj1]

My DH hasnt gone near me since I was 3 months pregnant! He says my unstable mood puts him off me! Charming! I'd like to see him carry a baby for 9 months +! If things dont go back to normal after baby comes, I'll be fuming! My sex drive is outta control!

 

[newmommy23]

my oh was pretty weird about it for awhile, but then my libido came back and i jumped his bones so often he just got used to it lmao

 

[newmommy23]

I think its harder for guys when they're having a daughter lol

 

[ShanandBoc]

^ yeah for sure x

 

[baajee]

Hey Shan, I know it dosen't feel very complimentary and we're all hormonal at the moment, but try not to take it personally when he's got these issues. Its not his fault - the silly fool just has premature paternal instincts !

 

[butterbaby76]

we did all the time but i had a sweep on Thursday an when i told him she touched wiggles head he won't! lol he said if her fingers reach he could an poor wiggle gonna get it in the head !!! lol xx

 

[Cocobelle]

Mine was fine until he got a huge kick just as we were getting jiggy, that kind of put him off his stride

 

[Ice Cold Cube]

Yea my OH is too scared he'll hurt the baby now. It's another reason for me to look forward to baby being evicted, as I'm desperate to DTD!

Laura x