We have just learnt that our first IVF has failed so we're currently in that big black hole of grief, dissapointment and despair.....I never knew I could cry so much....... I know I need time to let the dust settle and see whether we can ever do IVF again as we are self funding....... But is there anyone out there who conceived naturally after IVF?? Did it kick start something or was it just because you actually did start relaxing as the stress was too much before?? I have heard stories of this happening and this gives me hope. Any books that anyone can recomend?? I am 42 so not a spring chicken but do believe that my time will come as there are no issues with mine and hubby's fertility. Many thanks.