Anyone LTTTC with no plans for Assisted (IVF/IUI)?

[Titi]

Hi Girls,
I am in this boat, which has been adding to my despair lately that I will never have the joy of having a baby in my womb.

Anyone in this same boat? I'd love to hear from you-I started a new team in TTC Buddies-come on over:

https://www.babyandbump.com/ttc-buddies/315164-ltttc-1-w-o-assisted-teammates-needed.html

Thanks!

 

[CareBear]

I am. The only fertility treatment I have done is 6 cycles of clomid, scana dn HCG jab. I do not and will not go down the IUI or IVF route as I fairmly believe I don't need it. I'm currently on a TTC break as I have pretty much given up but obviously don't use prevention cause there is obviously no point! Have to admit I was surprised to see this thread as I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Will check out the team in the buddies section x

 

[Titi]

I am. The only fertility treatment I have done is 6 cycles of clomid, scana dn HCG jab. I do not and will not go down the IUI or IVF route as I fairmly believe I don't need it. I'm currently on a TTC break as I have pretty much given up but obviously don't use prevention cause there is obviously no point! Have to admit I was surprised to see this thread as I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Will check out the team in the buddies section x

Hi hun-
well I am glad I started it then, as we could def. use support. How long have you been ttc? I don't want to be annoying as I do know 17 cycles is seriously not long at all in the realm of ltttc, but with never a hint of a bfp in my whole life, at 34, and without IVF or IUI as an option-I do get very discouraged from time to time.
And not just to be a bunch of downers-it would be great and positive for us to share the things we do in the meantime or how we cope with other options.
I can see why you would be on a "break". I keep thinking to myself, "next cycle".

I am so sorry you are on this crappy journey too. Hope we can help each other!

 

[babyloulou]

Hi Titi- I am on my 4th cycle of clomid after over 5 years of TTC- and I certainly feel like it will never happen! It is so hard to think of anything else- I think about it every minute of every day!

 

[Titi]

Wow babylou-I feel like I can't barely complain now at 17 cycles. : ( LOTS of hugs to you!!!!!

I don't know if you are planning assisted? Its not an option for us so I started another support thread for ltttc without that option-if you want to check it out!

 

[crystal443]

Hi girls,

I went off BC when I was 18 and had to take Clomid to get preggers with DD now 13 almost 14 years old, I then had to take it again to get preggers with DS 12 years old. I'm currently on my 3rd cycle to get preggers again but all in all ladies I'm 35 years old and have not taken any form of BC since I was 18 and I had to take Clomid to get preggers before.
We won't be going any further then Clomid, I feel blessed to have one of each but it is so discouraging at times.Good luck ladies I wish you all the best!!

 

[Titi]

Hi girls,

I went off BC when I was 18 and had to take Clomid to get preggers with DD now 13 almost 14 years old, I then had to take it again to get preggers with DS 12 years old. I'm currently on my 3rd cycle to get preggers again but all in all ladies I'm 35 years old and have not taken any form of BC since I was 18 and I had to take Clomid to get preggers before.
We won't be going any further then Clomid, I feel blessed to have one of each but it is so discouraging at times.Good luck ladies I wish you all the best!!

I wish you the best too-hope that you get your bfp! I haven't taken any medication. Does the Clomid help any situation or only if you don't ovulate right?

 

[RebaRezzelba]

Hi Titi

Im in similar situation in that even though I have the option of IVF open to me I dont want it - i dont want to put my body through all that, I hate the thought of messing with nature etc. But i suppose if when Im 35 (im 31 now)and i still havent managed to conceive naturally i might consider it then.

It just sucks that some people can get pregnant when they decide too (all my friends have gotten pregnant 1st or 2nd month trying - longest was 6 months) and here I am nearly 3 years later and nothing - not even the faintest hint of a BFP - fxxking sucks (excuse the language but Im p'd off today). So i cant really talk to anyone about it cos they dont understand. At least we all have each other here and we know we are not the only ones desperately TTC.

to us all

 

[Titi]

Hi Titi

Im in similar situation in that even though I have the option of IVF open to me I dont want it - i dont want to put my body through all that, I hate the thought of messing with nature etc. But i suppose if when Im 35 (im 31 now)and i still havent managed to conceive naturally i might consider it then.

It just sucks that some people can get pregnant when they decide too (all my friends have gotten pregnant 1st or 2nd month trying - longest was 6 months) and here I am nearly 3 years later and nothing - not even the faintest hint of a BFP - fxxking sucks (excuse the language but Im p'd off today). So i cant really talk to anyone about it cos they dont understand. At least we all have each other here and we know we are not the only ones desperately TTC.

to us all

Hi hun-I'm sorry you've had to wait so long. I agree-all our friends/family have either gotten pg on accident or planned it and bam next month bfp.

Why don't you join the LLTTC #1 w/o assisted team? It seems like we are all on the same page!!!!!

 

[CareBear]

I am. The only fertility treatment I have done is 6 cycles of clomid, scana dn HCG jab. I do not and will not go down the IUI or IVF route as I fairmly believe I don't need it. I'm currently on a TTC break as I have pretty much given up but obviously don't use prevention cause there is obviously no point! Have to admit I was surprised to see this thread as I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Will check out the team in the buddies section x

Hi hun-
well I am glad I started it then, as we could def. use support. How long have you been ttc? I don't want to be annoying as I do know 17 cycles is seriously not long at all in the realm of ltttc, but with never a hint of a bfp in my whole life, at 34, and without IVF or IUI as an option-I do get very discouraged from time to time.
And not just to be a bunch of downers-it would be great and positive for us to share the things we do in the meantime or how we cope with other options.
I can see why you would be on a "break". I keep thinking to myself, "next cycle".

I am so sorry you are on this crappy journey too. Hope we can help each other!

Hi! I've been TTCing for 3 years next month, I don't know how many cycles that is as mine range from 28 days when I'm clomid to 54 days on occasion! I hope we can all help each other too. Do you mind if I ask why IUI and IVF is not an option for you? Is it an active choice like mine or not available to you? I'm considering looking at fostering in a few years time which I think I will do even if I do get a BFP

 

[twinkle]

Hi there
I would like to join you all....i am 43...will be 44 in August and have been ttc for almost 3 years now.......i met dh late in life after a very abusive marriage. We both have had all the tests...infact i had an hsg test...performed very badly and was told both tubes were blocked...i was devastated...but i ended up seeing another consultant who did a lap and an hsg and it turns out my tubes are perfect!!!! Anyway the only problem that i may have is that i am borderline for ovulation.....my 21 day tests have shown a level of 28 and i am told that it should be 30 to signify ovulation...but i have very very regular periods..every 28 days. I have had clomid and i have 2 cycles levtover from last year..i am unsure wether to take them...it does make me ovulate though...i have had progesterone levels of 68 when i have taken it. I have had a break as my mum died from mad cow disease...and we are just about to move into our new house next week. Anwya enough rambling...good luck to everyone here xxxx

 

[Titi]

I am. The only fertility treatment I have done is 6 cycles of clomid, scana dn HCG jab. I do not and will not go down the IUI or IVF route as I fairmly believe I don't need it. I'm currently on a TTC break as I have pretty much given up but obviously don't use prevention cause there is obviously no point! Have to admit I was surprised to see this thread as I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Will check out the team in the buddies section x

Hi hun-
well I am glad I started it then, as we could def. use support. How long have you been ttc? I don't want to be annoying as I do know 17 cycles is seriously not long at all in the realm of ltttc, but with never a hint of a bfp in my whole life, at 34, and without IVF or IUI as an option-I do get very discouraged from time to time.
And not just to be a bunch of downers-it would be great and positive for us to share the things we do in the meantime or how we cope with other options.
I can see why you would be on a "break". I keep thinking to myself, "next cycle".

I am so sorry you are on this crappy journey too. Hope we can help each other!

Hi! I've been TTCing for 3 years next month, I don't know how many cycles that is as mine range from 28 days when I'm clomid to 54 days on occasion! I hope we can all help each other too. Do you mind if I ask why IUI and IVF is not an option for you? Is it an active choice like mine or not available to you? I'm considering looking at fostering in a few years time which I think I will do even if I do get a BFP

Wow I think all you girls that are over 2 or 3 years definitely deserve a bfp before me. Now that is LT LTTTC.

Assisted reproduction beyond taking a medicine or having a surgery to fix an underlying problem that will then help you conceive naturally is against our religion. Basically because it can cause loss of life (IE they put extra fertilized eggs in you knowing some will die, I think is how that goes).

I don't want anyone to think I think this is immoral or that I judge anyone for it because I don't. And I can't even be sure that if I have to go through this another decade that heartbreak wouldn't cause me to change my mind........it just is not on the table now for us. Also, it is really cost prohibitive. Here in the states, its out of pocket. My friend that had 3 IVFs (first one unsucessful, second one led to misscarriage of twins, and third one that resulted in a premature DD resulted in 2 stillborns at same time : ( : (
told me that it was between $12,000-$18,000 said & done EACH time....for drugs, check ups, procedures, etc.

I was surprised that there wasn't adoption forums/threads on here.

I would also like to adopt or foster but dont have any idea how to go about it. I am daunted by that too though, I googled it the other day only to find out it is an average cost of $10,000-$20,000 and generally takes about 2 years?!? That is worse cost wise and timewise than assisted!!!

How about you?

 

[RebaRezzelba]

Hi Titi

Im in similar situation in that even though I have the option of IVF open to me I dont want it - i dont want to put my body through all that, I hate the thought of messing with nature etc. But i suppose if when Im 35 (im 31 now)and i still havent managed to conceive naturally i might consider it then.

It just sucks that some people can get pregnant when they decide too (all my friends have gotten pregnant 1st or 2nd month trying - longest was 6 months) and here I am nearly 3 years later and nothing - not even the faintest hint of a BFP - fxxking sucks (excuse the language but Im p'd off today). So i cant really talk to anyone about it cos they dont understand. At least we all have each other here and we know we are not the only ones desperately TTC.

to us all

Hi hun-I'm sorry you've had to wait so long. I agree-all our friends/family have either gotten pg on accident or planned it and bam next month bfp.

Why don't you join the LLTTC #1 w/o assisted team? It seems like we are all on the same page!!!!!

Hi Titi - how do I join the team??

 

[Titi]

Hi there
I would like to join you all....i am 43...will be 44 in August and have been ttc for almost 3 years now.......i met dh late in life after a very abusive marriage. We both have had all the tests...infact i had an hsg test...performed very badly and was told both tubes were blocked...i was devastated...but i ended up seeing another consultant who did a lap and an hsg and it turns out my tubes are perfect!!!! Anyway the only problem that i may have is that i am borderline for ovulation.....my 21 day tests have shown a level of 28 and i am told that it should be 30 to signify ovulation...but i have very very regular periods..every 28 days. I have had clomid and i have 2 cycles levtover from last year..i am unsure wether to take them...it does make me ovulate though...i have had progesterone levels of 68 when i have taken it. I have had a break as my mum died from mad cow disease...and we are just about to move into our new house next week. Anwya enough rambling...good luck to everyone here xxxx

Hi Twinkle-I'm so sorry-I missed your post yesterday.

I'm sorry about your recent lot-that is a lot to have gone through.......so sorry about your mum.

That is great your tests have come back good! It does sound hopeful. So far we know for sure we have male factor but I haven't had either of those tests done yet myself. DH really wanted to wait and see if his changes would help us before moving on.

Would love to have you here.

 

[Titi]

Hi Titi - how do I join the team??

Reba (and Twinkle & others interested)

I know I double dipped here kinda starting a thread in each section-but I was afraid that LTTTCers might not be browsing in the TTC buddies section.

I don't know if this link will work- https://www.babyandbump.com/ttc-buddies/315164-ltttc-1-w-o-assisted-teammates-needed.html

But the team, in TTC Buddies, is LTTC #1 w/o Assisted.

We were thinking of coming up with a better team name (liked Long & strong, lol) but also wanted it to be clear what the team was about for new members-so maybe we should just keep it.

Anyways-someone saavy will need to make us a logo. : )

 

[Isi Buttercup]

Hi ladies.....can I join

I'm 32....will be 33 next month. I have been ttc for about 17 months. It might not seem long to some, but it seems awful long to me. I thank God for a very supportive husband, but it eats me up every time I get the dreaded AF

I have one good tube, and an almost perfect 28 day cycle. My DH is in 100% condition. was put on clomid and HMG shots in March.....to ensure I'd ovulate from my good tube. My scans were perfect....my doc was even teasing me about having triplets....but it didn't work out. I rested the next cycle and was meant to start again this cycle......but I am not quite ready for that emotional roller coaster....so I have decided to defer my 2nd round of clomid to my next cycle, at the end of the month.

I am not entirely averse to IUI or IVF. I'd totally rather not, but the way I feel now, if nothing happens by the end of the year, I might consider one of those options.

I'm so glad I found this thread

 

[Titi]

Hi Isi-welcome! We'd love to have you!-the thread is actually over in the ttc buddies-LTTTC # 1 w/o Assisted teammates needed!!!! I just put a note up here in LTTTC in case some girls never go over to the ttc buddies. I'll add you to p. 1 over there. Thanks for sharing your story. Do you want me to put some of that data next to your name on p.1?

17 months does seem long to me! I'm similar to you-just slightly older, married about same time and I am at end of my 17th cycle and its killing me. I guess mostly b/c I am afraid that chances are probably higher than I'll be ttc for much longer.

 

[Isi Buttercup]

Thanks so much Titi, you can definitely put my data in the other thread as well.

I am alo so very worried about having to be on this ttc journey for long. I don't know for how long I can keep up this happy face. It gets worse for me every cycle. This past one was the worst. I have been down in the dumps since AF showed last Friday. Gosh, I really pray this journey ends soon.

Thanks Titi

 

[Titi]

Hi Titi- I am on my 4th cycle of clomid after over 5 years of TTC- and I certainly feel like it will never happen! It is so hard to think of anything else- I think about it every minute of every day!

Hey babyloulou-how are you feeling? Do you have a journal, I'd love to stalk it. I was thinking maybe you could pop into our LTTTC w/o assisted team thread and share your story-it would be so inspirational!!!! Just in case you aren't subscribed here anymore I'll send you a pm.
Thank you

 

[Titi]

bump!