Anyone using 'the naughty chair/step' yet?

[Linzi]

I don't know if I'm doing the right thing, Seth has taken to hitting & biting, mostly me & Matt but Im worried he's going to start doing it at nursery.

Last week he did it, we told him 4 times down on his level & sternly that its naughty & you don't hit or bite because it makes mummy sad & it hurts mummy etc. Eventually he got in such a state he was kicking, screaming, lashing out & biting and he got himself into such a state we decided to put him on the naughty chair for 2 minutes to calm down. We got him off, told him why he was sat there and made him say sorry and hugs & kisses to me & matt to say sorry for hurting us, then we moved away from the point & played with some cars to take hs mind off it.

The same thing happened the next day & we put him back on as a last resort, giving him 3 warnings then leaving him for 2 minutes, going to get him explaining why he was there & saying sorry then moving on to play.

The thing is MIL said she thinks he's too young, but she does tend to be a bit soft on him anyway (as grandparents are) and I feel bad, I dont want to do him any emotional damage but it was a total last resort it was the only thing I could think of to calm him down. He is still hitting & biting but stops after 2 warnings.

Ive trawled the internet but cant find anything - is he too young? I feel like a terrible mum I dont know why he's started doing it he's so loving & we're never like that towards him, we dont shout & scream at him but we are firm, maybe thats why

 

[luckyme225]

I don't think he's to young. We have a naughty spot for Connor and it works great for us.

 

[babe2ooo]

i put jack on the naughty step when hes naughty he cries for a bit then hes fine

 

[lcside]

We've started it with Erin too as she has started having screaming tantrums and throws her toys. I think it is working, she calms down quicker now.

 

[Dizzy321]

Not sure if its too young, I cant remember what suppernanny says...but she does say only give him one warning x

 

[Linzi]

Thanks, at least Im not the only one

Ive never watched that Supernanny tbh, only thing I've heard that she says is don't leave them longer than their age in minutes which is why we're only leaving him 2 mins. I also like giving him 3 warnings so he's got a chance to correct what he's doing.

Still hate it though

 

[Vickie]

We've been doing the naughty area with Hannah for 4 months now. I don't think Seth is to young at all. Hannah completely understands what it is for. It sounds like you are doing everything pretty much as we do, except that I only give one warning

 

[Linzi]

Thanks

I wouldn't do it but I know he knows what he's doing because before he hits or bites he gives me this look like "how DARE you tell ME to get away from the plug sockets, who do you think you are?"

Last night he was hitting Matt I thought it might have just been because he was unsettled when we were away from home but I guess not, must be just a phase.

x

 

[Jules]

I think its just a phase my LO has started hitting us and throws stuff, we tell her off and she knows what she's doing is wrong, she says 'sowwy' when she's done! tried the naughty step a few times but she likes sitting on the bottom step anyway she often sits there playing lol

 

[cupcake]

I use the corner usually i just sit him down and if he gets up i say sit down sternly.
i tell him its ow to hit/bite and he usually starts crying, i dont leave him for two min just about 40 seconds does the trick, i turn away and ignore him, then i say come say sorry to mommy and if he wont, i leave him there and try again. he usually comes and hugs me and i say good boy.
its been very important, he hits a lot at nursery and he bites me too, he has even bit my stomach twice. for that he got a smack too though and a time out.
he knows its called time out and we even say do you want to go to timeout and he say no!
cheeky monkey !

 

[Samantha675]

I've started putting Brennan in time out as well. I give him a warning or two, then he has to sit in a corner that's now the naughty corner. It works for us.

 

[charlotteb24]

I've seen supernanny use it on babies from about 18months so hes not too young at all! i guess children are never really too young to learn wrong from right! when noah is a bit older its the method i plan to use. I don't think at 13 months though it would really work as he wouldnt understand it yet!

 

[seeka724]

Sounds like he is not too young

 

[Linzi]

He wont stay on it now

x

 

[marley2580]

With Kaya I've never used a naughty spot as I tend to explain why things are not allowed or I distract. That said, when she does something that is very anti social (usually hurting Blythe) I either put her out of the room and ignore her, or I remove myself and Blythe and we ignore her, the idea being if you can't be sociable then you will be removed from our society. I make a point of having a good time as well lol.

 

[princess31]

https://www.channel4.com/programmes...ask-supernanny-too-young-for-the-naughty-step

 

[Vickie]

Linzi when Hannah did that we just kept putting her back and walking away, not saying anything to her, it was tedious but she eventually realized that she had to sit there

 

[carries]

Im interested in this thread as Oscar has started having the most god awful tantrums! Im not sure he would stay where I put him though...

If he is naughty I usually tell him off then sit him on the floor and tell him he has been naughty which usually ends up in tears. May try using a specific area and see if that helps.

 

[Linzi]

Thanks Vickie we'll just have to do that & keep going!!

He didn't do it last night which is good, but this morning he threw a MASSIVE paddy getting dressed.

Oh and he hit someone at nursery

I feel worse because I feel like it's my fault he's hitting but he's never seen it from me, matt, any of our friends or family before but for some reason I still feel guilty.

x

 

[Lilpalf]

I spoke to my HV this week about disciplining my 20 month old daughter and she suggested a 'time-out' (she doesn't like the phrase naughty step). She also said try it for 2 minutes but if we were finding it difficult to keep her sat for that long then to just do a minute at first. She said to give one warning explaining what the behaviour is and why it is wrong and then if my daughter does again to make her sit in time-out. I said I didn't think she would sit and that it would become a game of chasing her around and the HV said in that case sit her with her back to me and gently hold her until the time is up. That way she knows she has to stop and time-out.

Not tried it yet but needing to do it. She did get a warning last night but then stopped the behaviour so didn't need the time-out