Anyone's OH really driving them nuts??

[KendraNoell]

My OH does not understand why I am constantly tired and emotional, I try to explain it to him but it does no good. I told him to read up on early pregnancy symptoms and why they show up but he says he doesn't learn anything when he reads so it would be pointless. I don't know how else to get it through his head that him constantly being sarcastic and snotty to me for sleeping a lot or not wanting to have sex is making me stressed out and is not good for the baby. Anyone else's husbands or significant others extremely happy about being pregnant but are complete idiots when it comes to trying to make you feel better?

 

[wavescrash]

Mine is. I've actually kicked him out of the house a few times so I could just get some peace and quiet as well as the entire bed to stretch out and sleep in haha. He wants to cuddle when we sleep and fails to realize how miserable I feel and how him crowding me doesn't help any. How my body is so uncomfortable that I don't want to be held down by his arm while he sleeps since I'm tossing and turning to get comfortable all night long.

And he's just driving me up a wall the rest of the time haha.

 

[KendraNoell]

Thank God I am not the only one lol. I am sitting in my bedroom in the dark, have been for the last couple hours, just enjoying the entire bed and the quiet.

 

[wavescrash]

Definitely not alone. In fact, I got him to leave the house last night and tonight. I worked until close tonight and it was so nice to come home to a quiet house and an empty bed. I didn't have to talk about my day at work, I don't have to do anything but sit here like a bum until I feel like laying down.

 

[swood9]

You ladies are making me feel lucky! I can't believe how understanding and awesome he is being. He rubs my feet and massages me all I like!

 

[cricket in VA]

Mine is driving me crazy in a different way! We just found out I'm pg, and already I'm getting constant questions like "should you be eating that?", "are you allowed to do that?", "shouldn't you be going to bed now?". I'm sure he's just nervous after the last one ended in m/c, but it's driving me crazy! He's very supportive though, so I can't really complain!

 

[SouthernC]

Mine is driving me crazy too.. In different ways.. hes unemployed right now, and I worked a 10 hour shift today at work, he was asleep when I left and is asleep still (mind you hes still from 4 a.m. till now its 12:27 p.m) was up all day and night the day before playing Gears of War 3 (video game) has fallen out of the bed and is now sleeping in the floor, if I wasn't so tired I swear I would go in there and drop kick him.. haha

 

[Jennifurball]

Mine was, he is getting very slightly better in understanding the tiredness and mood swings because a few lads at his work are expecting also so he is asking them all if I am normal.

I must admit, in that sense he is really good, kisses me on the head when he thinks I am asleep, holds my tummy, he is even reading my pregnancy mags and books!

But the side of him that really bothers me, is him wanting to carry on going out as he was but I can drive him everywhere and drop him off places. His mum & dad have said he needs to make the effort not to drink so much around me as it isn't fair and he needs to sacrifice some things. I have told him this will NOT happen unless we are invited somewhere as a couple, NOT so he can have a messy lads night out!

I told him those nights will have to die a death towards the end of the pregnancy because I need to rely on him to be there if anything happens and I could give birth 2 weeks each way and due dates very rarely mean much, think I scared him.

I have given up almost everything I enjoy to make sure baby is safe, so him carrying on enjoying himself is not good for my mental wellbeing! He needs tp prepare himself for what is to come when baby is here!

We are also having a few rows about who gets up in the night.

 

[wavescrash]

You ladies are making me feel lucky! I can't believe how understanding and awesome he is being. He rubs my feet and massages me all I like!

My OH would do that if I wanted him to... he'd run out to the store to get me whatever I want. All that good stuff... but I don't want any of it. I guess because I've been pregnant before, I know what to expect and all that fun stuff and want to take care of things on my own. I'm not going to break, I'm not incapable of doing things for myself, etc. I feel so uncomfortable as it is, I don't need someone rubbing my back. I just don't want to be touched haha.

 

[KendraNoell]

I wish my OH was a bit more supportive... even if he would just read a tiny bit on what I'm going through... he has an app on his phone as a tracker but it doesn't give a ton of information.

 

[sunbaby777]

My OH is usually really good about taking care of me, but for some reason, he hasn't been very understanding about my pregnant condition. He still expects his meals cooked and everything else to be done like normal - even when I'm not feeling well. When I ask him to help out, he does it - but grudgingly or with outright attitude. I'm already irritable, so when he acts like that, I get really pissed. I think HE thinks I'm milking it. It's really out of character for him, so I don't know what's up.

 

[TxMom2Be]

Mine is driving me crazy too.. In different ways.. hes unemployed right now, and I worked a 10 hour shift today at work, he was asleep when I left and is asleep still (mind you hes still from 4 a.m. till now its 12:27 p.m) was up all day and night the day before playing Gears of War 3 (video game) has fallen out of the bed and is now sleeping in the floor, if I wasn't so tired I swear I would go in there and drop kick him.. haha

Your post made me LOL! I would be frustrated too!

 

[TxMom2Be]

My DH has been supportive, but he's gone back to school this semester (in addition to working full-time), so he has a heavy load on this shoulders which is causing him to be just as moody as me....not a good combination! Oh how I love that man!

I want him to hold me at night, and he does, but 2 minutes later I'm on fire!

No m/s for me yet, but these hormones and hot flashes (and waking up throughout the night) are all signs this baby is a-growin'!

 

[Leila Fae]

I'd just like to have DH at home as he's been working away for the last 8-9 months and I sometimes he can't come home on a Sunday - I'm not seeing him for 3 weeks for example. Ordinarily this wouldn't bother me but I'm so exhausted that I'd love to have someone at home to at least cook dinner with me (or cook it for me) - and I know he would if he was here.

This morning was awful because I'm coming down with a cold and all I wanted was a hot drink in bed but there was no-one to make it for me

He's coming home soon though and won't be doing much more travelling

 

[I-want-1-2]

Mine was, he is getting very slightly better in understanding the tiredness and mood swings because a few lads at his work are expecting also so he is asking them all if I am normal.

I must admit, in that sense he is really good, kisses me on the head when he thinks I am asleep, holds my tummy, he is even reading my pregnancy mags and books!

But the side of him that really bothers me, is him wanting to carry on going out as he was but I can drive him everywhere and drop him off places. His mum & dad have said he needs to make the effort not to drink so much around me as it isn't fair and he needs to sacrifice some things. I have told him this will NOT happen unless we are invited somewhere as a couple, NOT so he can have a messy lads night out!

I told him those nights will have to die a death towards the end of the pregnancy because I need to rely on him to be there if anything happens and I could give birth 2 weeks each way and due dates very rarely mean much, think I scared him.

I have given up almost everything I enjoy to make sure baby is safe, so him carrying on enjoying himself is not good for my mental wellbeing! He needs tp prepare himself for what is to come when baby is here!

We are also having a few rows about who gets up in the night.

I totally sympathise with you, we had the same chat on Friday night! I finished work early and came home to an empty house, rang DH and he was enjoying a pint after work - asked if I could pick him up in 3 hours!! Needless to say, I had a mini-breakdown over the phone (hormones!!) and he said he'd get in a taxi but I went and picked him up so I knew he was on his way home! He's now agreed that he was being unreasonable (I told him I felt like I was having this baby on my own) and he's going to totally cut down on the beer - I love my wine, so it's been difficult seeing him drinking away when I'm on oj. We'll see how he lasts - I don't want him to give up, just realise that he can't keep on going out all weekend like we used to!

 

[KendraNoell]

My OH is usually really good about taking care of me, but for some reason, he hasn't been very understanding about my pregnant condition. He still expects his meals cooked and everything else to be done like normal - even when I'm not feeling well. When I ask him to help out, he does it - but grudgingly or with outright attitude. I'm already irritable, so when he acts like that, I get really pissed. I think HE thinks I'm milking it. It's really out of character for him, so I don't know what's up.

That is pretty much how things are here. I think I should be entitled to milk it a little bit, not having to do so much around the house/have him fend for himself more at home for meals and stuff since sometimes I'm not hungry when he is, etc.

I am hoping it will get better especially after he sees it on the ultrasound himself.... hoping hoping hoping

 

[TxMom2Be]

Hang in there ladies, we'll soon be rewarded with a bundle of joy!!

 

[Iwant2beamum]

He has drove me crazy but he's defo getting better. He seems to be understand a bit more this past week but my moods take it out of him. And he doesn't understand or remember everything I say about this pregnancy but he trys. God men are stupid x

 

[KendraNoell]

He has drove me crazy but he's defo getting better. He seems to be understand a bit more this past week but my moods take it out of him. And he doesn't understand or remember everything I say about this pregnancy but he trys. God men are stupid x

The comment about "everything you say about this pregnancy" reminds me of my DH telling me every thing that other people comment to him about pregnancy. Someone even told him to tell me to drink castor oil- I was like, how old is this person? Since castor oil has been found to not be good!

Anyway, maybe DH secretly read this, cause he helped me put groceries away today, folded my laundry for me and has been nice and quiet. Now I feel bad for having it out with him earlier LOL

 

[SouthernC]

Mine is driving me crazy too.. In different ways.. hes unemployed right now, and I worked a 10 hour shift today at work, he was asleep when I left and is asleep still (mind you hes still from 4 a.m. till now its 12:27 p.m) was up all day and night the day before playing Gears of War 3 (video game) has fallen out of the bed and is now sleeping in the floor, if I wasn't so tired I swear I would go in there and drop kick him.. haha

Your post made me LOL! I would be frustrated too!

Thanks lol I'm telling you I have no patience anymore, and I'm just waddling away..