Itsychik
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I know it's often the other way around, but I'm wondering if anyone's OH is ready/pushing to start TTC again but you want to wait? Some personal questions...
How are you guys handling that?
What have you decided?
Did you reach a compromise?
Why does he want to TTC and why do you want to wait?
We have 2 children and I've always said to DH that I'd like 3. DH would be happy staying at 2, but is willing to have a 3rd because I want to. But neither of us really "love" the newborn phase and DH just turned 36 (I'm 31) and he would like to start TTC to "get the baby phase out of the way asap" and before he gets much older.
But I don't particularly like pregnancy (I had m/s the entire 9 months with my DD) and I had a HARD time adjusting to 2 kids plus PND for 6 months PP, and am worried how I would handle 3 with such a small age gap between the last 2. I'm also still breast feeding and am afraid pregnancy would kill off my (already) low supply, not to mention being pregnant/nauseous again with a baby under 1 and an active toddler on the loose...
To compromise we've agreed to NTNP (and I'm avoiding DTD around when I think I might be ovulating) but it got me wondering how other couples in a similar situation work this out?
Thanks
How are you guys handling that?
What have you decided?
Did you reach a compromise?
Why does he want to TTC and why do you want to wait?
We have 2 children and I've always said to DH that I'd like 3. DH would be happy staying at 2, but is willing to have a 3rd because I want to. But neither of us really "love" the newborn phase and DH just turned 36 (I'm 31) and he would like to start TTC to "get the baby phase out of the way asap" and before he gets much older.
But I don't particularly like pregnancy (I had m/s the entire 9 months with my DD) and I had a HARD time adjusting to 2 kids plus PND for 6 months PP, and am worried how I would handle 3 with such a small age gap between the last 2. I'm also still breast feeding and am afraid pregnancy would kill off my (already) low supply, not to mention being pregnant/nauseous again with a baby under 1 and an active toddler on the loose...
To compromise we've agreed to NTNP (and I'm avoiding DTD around when I think I might be ovulating) but it got me wondering how other couples in a similar situation work this out?
Thanks