Arggghhh!!! Everyone seems to be announcing they're pregnant!!!

[tj1980]

Hey

Been going through so much stuff over the last two weeks and eventually starting bleeding on Sunday, which I was expecting but still it's very difficult to cope with. But in the space of 6 days two sets of our friends have announced they're 3 months pregnant. They do not know that I'm going through a mc but all I want to do is scream....arghhhhhH!

It's just not fair....what did I do wrong? I wanted this baby so much.

Is this normal what I am feeling? I'm really happy for them but can't help feeling bitter when I think about what me and my husband are going through.

Apologies for the rant x

 

[tj1980]

Oh and if people aren't annoucing they're pregnant then all I see around me is pregnant women...whether on tv, or in the shops or walking past me in the street......arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

 

[misscs]

Im so sorry for your loss x

Its completly normal to feel like this - I do too! I had a missed miscarriage and discovered during my 10 week scan baby had no HB (10days ago). Had no symptoms previous no bleeding or pain so complete shock. Had a EPRC one week ago and still not over the loss. Completly agree everything seems to surround me with pregnancies - someone at my work announced they are pregnant, a friend gave birth on friday, TV adverts all seem to be babies (even the one at the bottom of this page grrr), TV shows all seem to be pregnancies! Its very frustrating and I think everyone feels some jealousy - I still can't bring myself to say congratulations to the woman at work becuase I feel I will just break down at cry! And I know it won't get easier as I see her bump growing....but we can hope. Life is not fair sometimes and all we can hope is that we can grieve for our lost little ones and that things will get easier as time passes - gone but never forgotten. Hopefully one day our turn will come

xx

 

[annmc30]

this is happening to me 2 every1 i work is pregnant its not fair

 

[hippylittlej]

It is normal to feel like that. I feel the same way and I am avoiding pregnant friends. I have however told more people about the MC than I did about the pregnancy and everyone has been very supportive and many have shared their sad stories with me.

 

[sequeena]

Everything you are feeling is PERFECTLY normal

 

[lilwelsh1]

I have been feeling the same way too. a friend of mine got pregnant a few weeks before me and so did my husbands half sister and his aunt and my cousin, I try so hard to be supportive but all i want to do is scream and rant and rave that I should be getting excited about up coming scans too! Even the chemist had a massive advert for clear blue conception indicators and fertility monitor aaarrrrgh!! sorry just venting

big massive to you all. Its quite comforting to pop on here and see my feelings are normal and im not the only one feeling this way.

 

[mlyn26]

I must say on my bad days i become extra vigilant to preg women in the streets, i see them all. Sometimes on particularly bad days i even get a lump in my throat and well up!!! How embarrassing! x

 

[ncmommy]

Yes, very normal! I remember after my first m/c I had to have a D&C and we had a beach trip booked for a few weeks later with friends. I decided to still go cause I thought being around friends would make me feel better, keep in mind they ALL knew about what had happened. Yet, on the first night gathered at dinner a couple decides to announce they are pregnant. I did not know what to do as eveyone seemed to be starring at me. It took ALL my strength not to go running from the table! The whole weekend was spent talking about pregnancy and all things baby, it was horrible!

I'm so sorry you are going through this, stay strong!

 

[tj1980]

Thank you so much for your posts which make me think what I'm feeling is normal.

Yesterday was very difficult for me when I found out the news about my friend. I had been so strong about the mc the last few days and had the mindset that I've grieved already and to look forward. But when I found out, I was speechless and felt like someone had punched me in the stomach. I ended up going to bed at 9pm and cried myself to sleep in my husband's arms. Poor thing was so sweet when I all I did was sob and wipe my tears and snot over his arms...bless!!!

But today is a different day....got to look forward again!!!!

xx

 

[babysimpson]

It's a totally normal feeling. When I went in for my scan on Monday to confirm the miscarriage, a student was in before and came out in tears because the midwife confirmed that she WAS pregnant. They didn't think to announce it to their friend AFTER leaving the reception and the whole time she was getting seen her two mates sat laughing in the waiting room while I was there almost in tears and shaking because I knew deep down what the result would be.

This the the 4th baby I've lost and believe me, you will constantly notice pregnant women, hear announcements of pregnancy and birth and you will noticve all the pregnancy testing ads on tv. There is no easy way to move on but you do have to give yourself time