Army Advice

[Karuto]

Hi girls, so FOB wants to go into the T.A. which i'm all for however I don't like the idea that he will be gone for weeks at a time during bubz first year. I really want them to bond. It's great that he's taking financial responsibility but I think it's a bit much in the first year.

Your thoughts?
xx

 

[amandad192]

I might be wrong, but I thought TA was weekend training?
I know how you feel though. My OH is joining the army soon. It scars me and if it was my choice he wouldn't be joining. My step-uncle died in a training accident so I'm more than aware of the risks. However it's my OH's life and his choice, I'm his partner and he needs my support not lectures.
I feel like he's going to miss out on so much of Liam's life and our next LO's life. but then I know then when he's home he'll make the most of the time he as with us.
It will also help to put us in a much better financial position and I'm glad he's doing something to help us with money.

Maybe you could go dow to your local TA office and ask any questions you have. It might help you deal with him being away.
x

 

[LoolaBear]

the TA is only a weekend thing. I am an administrator for the TA. its the regular army where your away from home the majority of the year.
with the TA in your first year as a recruit you do 2 weekends, 1 4 day event and then a 2 week event before becoming fully train and qualified soldier.
then once that is sorted then all he has to do is 19 days training a year there after.
its the regular army where you go away from home for longer periods of time for training.
also with the TA you dont have to go to war you basically voluteer yourself for it and you only do 6 months at a time.
so he will be at home to be able to bond. hope that helps and anymore questions feel free to ask. xx

 

[celestek89]

my OH is also in the army, has been for the past year and half and will be away for 8 months of LO's first year!! He's even going to miss her first birthday! He's away alot already and when he was going through training he was away for 6 months without me seeing him, i then saw him for 2 days and didnt see him again till xmas (which was like another 4 months) over which time i fell pregnant. He missed the whole first half of my pregnancy! Its something you get used to, although its not that nice! I see it as my job and duty to make sure that LO is reminded of her father and included in as much as possible when he's not here. We are going to be making things for him etc and sending it away, as well as the use of skype (although i think that'l only be once a week if im lucky!) You have to be strong babe, especially if like my man, he becomes full time. I've alsways been under the impression though that T.A is a weekend thing, with a couple of week trips here and there, which in all honesty is nothing! Your LO wont even notice he's gone! If you need someone to talk to feel free to PM me xox