arrrgggghhhh my MIL!!

[Carlyp1990]

so...

OHs mum lives down the same street as me, she works part-time, has saturday, sunday and monday off everyweek and works half days 3 days a week then all day wednesday. she NEVER comes round to see katie... never!! my mum works 5 days a week and my dad works 6 days most weeks and they come round atleast twice a week to see katie.
OHs mum keeps complainin to OH that she hasnt seen Katie for ages and when hes comin round says things like 'give her a kiss from me' OH tells her shes more than welcome to come round but she goes on that before i moved in i said id like people to ring before they come round, she has my number so why doesnt she ring? OH thinks its because she likes to be invited first but im not gunna sit in ringin her all the time to see if she wants to come round for her to say shes busy. what gets me is that she doesnt invite me and katie to her house either she just makes funny comments to my OH.
OH invited her round a few weeks ago, at about 6:30 he text her and told her to leave it because katie would be goin to bed soon, she knows katie goes to bed at about 7 but left it too late anyway. last nite he asked if she wanted to come round n she no, he said he would take katie round this mornin but she said no because shes busy.
what would you do? i really cant be bothered with the hassle anymore and am waiting for her to ring and see if she can come round but she never does. i dont like katie goin to her house because theres dog hairs everywhere which means i wont let her go on the floor, if she comes here though then katie can still play with her toys etc.
am i in the wrong for waiting for her to ring? should i make more of an effort?
xx

 

[Nats21]

From the sounds of it shes just moaning to your OH but not willing to do anything and make an effort. You could maybe ring her on the one occasion and see if she wants to come round to yours in the day, if she says no its her loss but if she says yes then it might make her more willing to phone you and ask if she can visit xxx

 

[southerngal2]

My MIL does this too! She doesn't work at all and my FIL is laid off from work right now. She calls and complains to my husband that they never get to see the baby!
We told them one time that they could not come over and that was because they called at 8:30 at night and wanted to come over at 9:00! We were tired from working all day!

Sorry! Don't want to start my ranting and take over your thread!

The way I feel about it is this - If they want to see the baby, then they need to make an effort to see the baby. I should not have to make sure everyone gets to see her, and I should not have to bring her everywhere to visit people.

 

[windswept]

A different perspective... My MIL lives right next door and waltzes in at all times of day and night, never knows when to leave and has an opinion on everything i do. I'd prefer it your way. Keep her sweet by going round in your terms, for as long or as short as you want. I'd play it that way if I could!!!

 

[Laurenmomma]

I no how u feel! My mum n dad work same as yours yet see Eden every day nearly, oh mil works 30 hours and drives yet has seen dd once since may! All I asked was that she txts me first so I can stay in Cos once she turned up at 8am when I was only just Gettin up with baby! She visits her other grandchild who lives 2 mins away every week and puts £100 a month in her bank, (she's 2) yet Eden has had nothing besides nappies for her first xmas!

She tells people she's not welcome at my house and we make her feel not wanted! It's all about her! She hasnt even text me or oh in months to ask how dd is!

Iv just ignored her, it's her loss she's missing out on dd growin up so her loss! I'd ignore her she's losing out and Katie will know she's not interested!

 

[shellie]

My MIL never comes around to see our son and I doubt she'll come around to see this baby either once he's born and she only lives literally around the corner.

My parents on the other hand spend half the year going to and from their house abroad and half the year in their house 15 miles from here when they work, and they still see us once a week, if not more.

I don't even bother asking my MIL to come around as the way I see it is that she knows she can walk around here whenever (it would take her less than 5 minutes) but she doesnt, so the only one missing out is her. xxx