Arrrrrrrrrrrrgh parents in law!!!

[Swanny]

Sticking their nose in!! Me and Hubby had a huge argument last night and again this morning. They are causing a lot of aggro between us lately.

I know they are just excited about becoming grandparents but to me it seems like they have completely lost the plot!!

Did anyone watch that programme the little house a week or so ago?! Well it's totally reminding me of that.

They have offered to look after baby full time once I go back to work (bearing in mind this is all ages away I'm only 17 weeks pregnant) we said that's great but that baby will also be going to nursery 2-3 days a week money permitting, just because we think the baby will get so much from nursery and it will be good for the baby a few days a week.

WELL.....you'd think we had comitted the biggest crime EVER by the reaction. They seriously will not shut up, Oh don't put it in nursery, what's wrong with us like, do you know how much it will cost, they won't look after the baby etc etc and they will NOT let it go!!!

It's not just that either, they just keep on saying things like you will NEED to get carpet down in the nursery!! I don't want to wasn't planning to, what's it got to do with them!!!

I can't think of everything off the top of my head but I feel like they are smothering us and the baby isn't even here yet.

I HAVE to go back to work after about 6 months I don't have a choice but I feel like the baby isn't even born and it's being taken away from me. I almost feel like they are acting like I'm having the baby for them!!!

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp!

 

[MangoCoconut]

Say. 'I appreciate your comments and definately appreciate the fact we are leaving our baby with you but it's our wish that our baby goes to nursery'. If they kick off, just say 'We have talked it through a lot, thankyou for offering full time care, it's very kind, but we feel this is the best decision for our child.'
x

 

[Swanny]

I know, I think I need to build myself up to it cause I tend to get over emotional and end up crying lol. My hubby is standing up to them but I feel like if they keep on pushing it I'm going to explode and I certainly don't want to fall out with anyone.

Oh and his mum said don't come round here and leave us the baby with any bumps or scratches cause grandad will go mad! She said he used to go mad at her if when my hubby was a baby he fell over or anything!! I thought WTF!!! Who's baby IS this?! If my baby has an accident while under my care that is for me to deal with??!

 

[WeenieWoo]

OMG - my MIL is JUST LIKE THIS. always buttign her nose in telling us we NEEd to do this for baby, we NEED to buy this for baby. She went out and bought a moses basket after i told her which one i liked and was getting - without telling us. then said hers cost much more and is more classier so she wanted baby to have her one instead. she bought lots of teddies and when i told her i'd bought a cute one from town, she said - oh i've already bought lots of teddies so you'll have to decide which you want but mine are really nice - like the ones i had bought aren't nice.

ARGGHHHH - i could throttle her at times.

I really feel for you hun - i hate it when MIL alway telling me what i should and shouldn't be doing. I'm getting sick of complaining to DF as it just feels like i'm moaning all the time and i don't want to do his head in

 

[Swanny]

It's awful isn't it. I mean don't get me wrong, I know we are very fortunate to have a family that want to be involved and that are offering the opportunity to give childcare but it's just suffocating. I actually don't even say anything most of the time which isn't like me at all I just sit there stunned.

I said to hubby last night I actually don't want the next 5 months to go quickly cause the time that I am pregnant seems like the only time I am going to get baby to myself!

 

[MangoCoconut]

Swanny I will slap them for you, don't worry hehe. They sound so irritating! x

 

[sammiesmile]

my mil is the complete opposite i mean with wanting to do anything my 1st son is nearly 8 and she has never ever been involved in his life at all its sad really as her other grandkids she sees them everyday it really pisses me off , i can honestly say i hate her my hubby wants to go there for xmas but i dont see the point it feels to false, my 4 kids sit there getting ignored whilst her and her hubby play with the other grandkids arrrrrh it makes me mad sorry for goin on xx

 

[sammiesmile]

thats y i wont tell them im pregnant as really wat do they need to know for as they dont seem to care anyway with the others i mean. she will prob then say y not tell us wen she finds out an ill just av to say well you havent been to bothered with the others av u !!

 

[WeenieWoo]

yeah - they can be so mental at times. I also love the faxt that my MIL wants to be so involved but she is literally trying to take over and thinks she knows best about everything and that i can't possibly know how to bring up my own baby

well - thats me all ranted out for the day (well for now anyway lol)

good luck girls xx

 

[0400772]

Say. 'I appreciate your comments and definately appreciate the fact we are leaving our baby with you but it's our wish that our baby goes to nursery'. If they kick off, just say 'We have talked it through a lot, thankyou for offering full time care, it's very kind, but we feel this is the best decision for our child.'
x

agree with mango here. Just keep repeating yourself. You may feel like you sound like a broken record but come on... i totally agree they are pushing it too far!! xxx

 

[ILoveShoes]

I'm really sorry to say that this doesn't get any easier
If I were you,I would put my foot down sooner rather than later!
Xx