At my wits end with swearing.

[FayDanielle]

This is embarrasing for me to even admit, but I am so ashamed of myself too.

Mia is 2 years 8 months and she swears like a trooper. She picks up words/phrases so easily. She could hear something in passing and she'll repeat it.
I'm so careful with what I say around her. I'm not innocent, she has heard me say a few words and picked up on them. For instance, I was in the kitchen a week or so back and burnt my hand on hot steam and said bollocks.....I then heard her repeating bollocks, bollocks over and over and shouting it at the tv.

I went to the local shop the other day and a youngish teen lad came in and shouted P**i (racist word) C**t (horrible word) at the guy working there because he wouldn't serve him. Mia said that once or twice too.

She even sticks two fingers up, thanks to her Dad He picked her up once and carried her out of the door. I shouted Bye beautiful and he turned around and said do this to your Mum, giving me the V's. She tried to copy but couldn't quite do it. She returned hope being able to do it. Yet the week before he sent me a horrible text asking why she says 'cock'. I asked if she was watching TV by any chance, he said yeah, so I told him she's likely to be asking to watch 'Tickety Tock' because thats what she calls it at home too.

I tell her every time she says something its naughty, and No, but she does it all the more. I've sent her up to her room when she's taken the mick and repeated something over and over even after being asked to stop it, that its naughty. She just won't listen to me I've tried ignoring it, hoping she'll get bored of saying it, but she carries on. I told her about 10 minutes ago 'If I hear you say that again, your going to your room' she ran behind the couch and started rather loudly whispering it. Ran upto me and said 'did you hear that?' Shes obviously testing me.

I'm hoping she'll start nursery in September when I start college. I don't want to send her there F'ing and blinding. Ultimately, its going to look bad on me!

I'm at my wits end. Help?!

 

[chubbin]

When jj copies a swear word, i either give it no attention or i slightly modify it depending on what he says, as he doesnt get it right straight away,mercifully.
Like you, i dl my best not to swear, but we are all human. Acting like its nothing will ensure your lo has no reason to carry on repeating it xx

 

[seoj]

I have no great advise hun- just ignore is the only thing I can think of. She just isn't really going to "get it" at that age- to them, words are just words, and if you react she may see that and continue longer. IDK. Sorry-- but I'd just ignore best you can. I just had this talk with hubby the other day- as he got frustrated and said the F word-- and I know I've said it too (like when I stubbed my toe last week and bruised it so bad I couldn't help it in the moment)-- but we NEED to work on this as LO is starting to repeat words-- so I know any day she could repeat a bad one! eek.

on a side note- bollocks doesn't even sound like a bad word- lol. I know it's a UK thing, but no clue what it means. It seems no worse than saying shoot! LOL. I'm sure it is-- but sometimes I have to giggle a little cause if my LO said that no one here would even get that it was a bad word... not sure if there are things we say here you'd feel the same about though? not trying to make light of it-- but, this too shall pass.

 

[mummylove]

My daughter is same but me and oh dont swear around her but when we are out this si when she picks it up. We was on the bus going pre school and we are on the one with the school kids. I heard this one girl say oh yea shes a fucking ******* she was talking about someone they know and then summer come out with fucking ******* i was gob smacked i told summer off and said it was wrong but how can u really punish her when she just heard it from someone else obviously thinking it was ok.

 

[hayz_baby]

on a side note- bollocks doesn't even sound like a bad word- lol. I know it's a UK thing, but no clue what it means. It seems no worse than saying shoot! LOL. I'm sure it is-- but sometimes I have to giggle a little cause if my LO said that no one here would even get that it was a bad word... not sure if there are things we say here you'd feel the same about though? not trying to make light of it-- but, this too shall pass.

Lol sorry that made me lol! Please don't take offence tho! Bullocks is..erm.. Testicles! Lol and again I understand that u don't know the word but it is one of the slightly worse words as such.

But yes op ignoring is always the best way forward or when she originally copies the bad word just explain that it is an adult word

Hope it gets better x

 

[All Girls]

They are going to do what they see and hear. I don't know what your OH was thinking showing her how to make the V sign. I'd be having words with her.

My 3 year old would say cow shite last year because she hears my OH say it as we live on a farm. She has been told it's a bad word and we don't say it etc and that daddy was bold to use that word too. The child knows no different if they are hearing adults do it. If strangers do it and she mimics it i would say they are very bold and we don't say those words. I would hate to hear my child say bollocks so i just wouldn't use the word. I'd rather shit or feck than that.

 

[clever_blond]

My dd got the phrase damn it from my dh and now says it all the time as she thinks its funny. I have modified it to dang it and prompt her to say that instead as its slightly better. She also says cock instead of clock and the other day said for f*** sake (not sure wherr this came from, was out of the blue and neither me nor dh say it). They dont know any better and just copy what they have heard. I tend to go with ignoring it or modifying it.

 

[Toms Mummy]

Not as bad as swearing but I don't like it nontheless... My son keeps saying things and people are stupid. He has got it off ice age as the little possums say it to each other. I have tried ignoring and telling him not to say it but it doesn't work. We are now telling him that it is not very nice to say it to people as it upsets them and it's not nice to upset people. He's starting to get it now x