At work.. crying. Need advice.

[LHill2010]

Okay, so my DH just texted me and asked me if I would drive him to a friend's house tonight, drop him off, and then pick him back up. I get off work at 8 p.m.,and won't be home until about 9 p.m., and i'm exhausted. Well, I told him i'd rather not b/c i'm tired and to pick a different day to do that. He is furious... and drinking. He needs me to drive him b/c he is drunk. Anyway.. I am really upset, and I told him he has other people to think about now besides himself. He told me that he wouldn't be home when I got there. So, I said fine, well me and your baby won't be there when you get back (thinking he would just apologize for being completely insensitive and an asshole) and he said GOOD. Okay, that seriously made me cry. He's trying to text me, and I won't answer. What a jackass! I don't care how drunk you are, that comment made him look like a shitty father, and he isn't even a father yet.

 

[mislaww]

Sorry hon. I hope he smartens up! And I'm sure he will - looks like he's trying to let you know he's trying to smarten up anyway.

 

[holly2234]

i really hope things calm down by morning! I dont blame you though, i wouldnt go driving around after a day at work nevermind him wanting to be picked up again at all hours

 

[mislaww]

Oh and for advice? Every relationship is different, but if it were me - communication is key. I'd answer his messages. Do what you think is best, of course. Good luck!

 

[lisabee]

Men are such big babies sometimes....unfortunatly they r born that way, he will apologise when he has sobered up and hopefully feel ashamed!! You have to look after yourself and bump so your right to stick to your guns!!!

Thats why we have babies you see...imagine that lot left to create, mankind would die out!!!

Hope everything is ok, you can get your own back when in labour

 

[Sevenladybugs]

I'm so sorry hun! I'd tell him you'll talk to him when he's sober.

 

[Armywife]

Im sure he just said it as a knee jerk reaction sweetie. If he's trying to make it up to you that shows he must be sorry. Take it easy for your sake and for baby's-men just don't think sometimes, i'm sure he loves you both very much xxxxx

 

[18singlemom2b]

sorry he was making you upset, i know how you feel, im always so tired and he should have made the plans a couple days in advance with you. or got his own safe ride home or drank close enough to home to be able to get a cab.

 

[Lilly12]

I hate when my husband is drunk, thankfully he hasn't been drunk in months!

I'm sorry he was/is so rude to you tonight. I'm sure he doesn't mean anything he says , and it's just him being a drunk asshole.
Doesn't mean you have to just take it all in though.

Whenever my husband was drunk I'd always go to bed early, after I yelled at him, cause he's usually an ass when drunk.
I told him to grow up and that he has responsibilities now.

I hope he sobers up quick and apologizes tomorrow.
Don't think there's much you can do right now..
Wait till tomorrow!

 

[babypowder]

Men and beer hey! People know how t hit where it hurts their loved ones when they row, doesn't mean you should choose to use that tactic but it does happen. It's rarely meant. Hope you've sorted things out now x

 

[LHill2010]

Thanks girls! Oh, he was kicking himself last night before I even got home. And he kept apologizing. This morning he woke me up apologizing too. Doesn't excuse it, and I think it's hard for us too because you know we just had to quit drinking all together with no "time to get it out of our systems." And he said, "he's getting it out of his system." I do have to say that he has gotten a lot better. Last night was just an awful night. He really said the WRONG thing to his pregnant wife! But he knows it and knows he better not do it again! Men are dumb!

 

[Armywife]

Glad it's all sorted hun! Sometimes they just need a good kick! xx