Awkward moment..

[emalou90]

So I went for a walk, got chatting to a lady and she asked if I knew what I was having
I said "a girl"
She followed up with "aww my daughter has two girls"
I said "yes I have a 4 year old too"
She then says "ah well nevermind"


I don't think she knew how she sounded...

 

[Sarah lo]

Lol my MIL said the same thing when I told her my midwife had said the heart beat sounds girly.

why do people always assume everyone wants one of each? I'd love to have 2 little girls!

 

[Misscalais]

It's funny that everyone has an opinion on it. I'm so sick of people's opinions on me having 3 boys. There's nothing wrong with 2 or more of a kind. Sure I'd love a mix of boys and girls but gods blessed me with 3 lovely little boys.

 

[bookworm0901]

I got a lot of "you're so lucky" comments when I found out I was having a girl after having a boy. I know gender disappointment is very real for people and can take some time getting over but I didnt really like people thinking I would be devastated with another boy. In fact, part of me was kind of sad because my DS is only 20 months and I think another boy could be his best friend. (Not that a girl couldn't, his different relationship)

 

[emalou90]

I'm glad it's not just me that has had such a random comment like that!

I was shocked, I just smiled at her!

 

[brownlieB]

I'm getting the "aren't you lucky" and "How wonderful, a full set" comments for carrying a boy when I have a girl. At first I didn't understand a baby is a baby boy or girl I'm happy.

Then I realised after a while I suppose there are some people out there who would've loved a girl/boy and got 2 or more of the same instead. So If like me they aren't going for anymore, then in sense yes I am lucky to have one of each. I'll never have to wonder what it's like to have the other sex.

I think with the elderly too back when they were having babies it was an achievement to have a boy and carry on the family name, pass down the family business to etc. xx

 

[Eternal]

I get loads ask, this is my 4th on as many years, all boys this far, so people assume we were desperately trying for a girl, In fact we are not bothered, this baby wasn't planned lol. We don't know what it is, we suspect girl but whatever's it is on fine but I always get comments now that I'm very pregnant and have three small children lol.

 

[little moomin]

when someone asked what i was having (a second boy, which we were secretly hoping for and are thrilled about!) i got a 'ah well you can always go for a third'?!!! wtf lol

 

[Nikki_lou]

We have had the same thing too! DS will be 18 months when this one is born and we were over the moon to find out he will have a little brother to grow up with. The day we found up we were shopping and bumped into a lady we both used to work with (nosy cow that seems to know everyone's business). When we told her we were having another boy she patted me on the shoulder as if to comfort me and said "oh no that's such a shame"

 

[emalou90]

Everyone seems to think having two boys or girls is the end of the world haha!
Or they make that comment of "always try for another!"

 

[Blizzard]

People are odd aren't they? I really wanted a second boy, would have been adorable. I don't know what to do with a girl!

 

[josephine3]

Im getting the 'aww one of each' comments, and lots of 'well thats it now u dont need to have any more' !! Me and oh both wanted a sister for our lil girl.. apparently im the only one who wud have preffered it! I dont get it. Seems people just have to comment either way.

 

[Snow Owl]

I got a lot of "you're so lucky" comments when I found out I was having a girl after having a boy. I know gender disappointment is very real for people and can take some time getting over but I didnt really like people thinking I would be devastated with another boy. In fact, part of me was kind of sad because my DS is only 20 months and I think another boy could be his best friend. (Not that a girl couldn't, his different relationship)

This! Honestly I'd have loved another boy but am very happy with my pink bump

However I am getting fed up with 'you must be so relieved' or 'your so lucky'. Grrrrrr

 

[emalou90]

Relieved?! Haha it's their choice of words which is silly.

You're relieved that baby is safe and healthy, not that you have one of each

 

[Starry Night]

I get the "ugh....girls....they're so much harder than boys" from pretty much everyone when I say my DS is getting a little sister. I am one of those who was desperate to have one of each so it's annoying that no matter what you get that people are going to dump on your parade. I do get some of the "aw, one of each" and that makes me happy because that's how I feel.

So yeah, I would have been one of those gender disappointment people but that is why I wanted to find out at the 20 week scan (get crap about not staying team yellow too) so I would be over it before the baby came. I've had several losses so in the end I knew I would be happy with whatever gender by the time baby was born. I still am mentally preparing myself for the u/s being wrong. We have a boy's name picked out and every once in awhile I try to picture what my baby would be like as a boy.

 

[Spaggy37]

I have a DD followed by 2 DS and expecting another boy, and if i hear one more time "I guess you wanted another girl to even it out" Grrrrrrr Although i usually reply "Nope what i want is another healthy baby" i find it usually shuts them up

 

[Natnee]

I've found people ask me what i'm having and sometimes say nothing when I say another girl. I had this yesterday and I found myself almost justifying why it was good. That DD will have a sister, which is true and I wanted another girl partly for this reason.

A few people have asked me if I'm having another, wtf. Let me have this one first. And anyway, I don't think so, i'm 38 now and I don't think my body will take another pregnancy, this one has been torture enough.

Oh and another thing a couple of people have said/asked, 'oh I suppose you will be moving now' Well no we're not, unless we win the lottery or you're prepared to give us a spare wad of money! If we could have afforded to move, we would have done it by now anyway, regardless of having a 2nd baby! It's not a HUGE house but has 3 bedrooms, yes 2nd dd has a tiny box room but we have a roof over our head and thats the main thing!

 

[tuppance]

See I would love another boy for my DS as they could share common troubles etc (obviously if I have a girl I will be happy too). As I don't know the gender I feel such a pressure to have a little girl from everyone, that people are actually shocked when I say I'd actually be thrilled with a boy. It makes me really angry!

 

[Tasha]

People are stupid aren't they?

My mil told my DH that he had to get the snip or she would use bricks on him after our second as we had both types. When my third baby died, his aunt wrote a condolence card saying to be grateful as we had the perfect family now with one of each

 

[emalou90]

That's so awful Tasha!

Some people just think it's ok to say absolutely anything.