baby #4 or uni?!

[MrsEngland]

I am so torn, i have three gorgeous girls aged 4, 2 and 14 months and we definitely want one more. I am currently at college and applying for uni to do midwifery so if i get in im torn as to if i do uni , qualify and then ttc but there would be a big age gap.
Or do i defer uni for a year and have them all close together?
I am so unbelievably broody and feel like one more would complete our family. anyone else in a similar situation?

Of course i may not get in and then decision is made!

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Alot would depend on your age etc... I know how you feel though, I would love to go to uni but we decided to just have one more. I'm happy with the decision; it means I don't have to take time off from a job after working so hard to get to my dream career etc
The age gap!
And of course; you can always get a degree; having a child is on a ticking clock. I don't mean that to be taken like "hurry up or you will go infertile" lol. It's just a perspective


Personally I would defer for a year
Make a pro/ con list !

x

 

[aimee-lou]

I think your age does play a lot into this decisions. I'm 31 and I have always planned to go back to Uni to re-train/progress. Hubby and I have now decided no more but we said that we would have all the children together, to grow up together and allow me to go back to Uni without then having to take a backwards step. However, if time is on your side, I think that you could do your course (which is 3-4 years) and then take a break to have another baby without it being too detrimental.

Bear in mind though that Uni is difficult with children, as is work, and you never know what the future will bring. There's always that chance that something could go awry. Just take the path that makes you happiest. Uni isn't going anywhere, but you may appreciate the time to yourself before stepping back into the baby days. I would play it by ear. Make your applications and see what happens and go from there. If you're in a position to be quite fluid about the whole thing, then let it play itself for a bit.

Good luck x

 

[MrsEngland]

Thanks
Im only 23 so i have plenty of time, if i went this year i would be 27 when i qualify so still young enough to have another baby but i do worry about the age gap as im still in the baby mind frame now...wonder if it would be more of a shock in 3 and half years time

 

[callmedan]

if i was you i would apply for uni and if you do get in, i think you will truly know if that is what you want or if you want to defer and have another baby! you do have time also to have babies after uni and although its a lot bigger than your other children its not like its a 10 year age gap which some siblings do end up with!
good luck with everything

 

[MrsEngland]

I had my first interview for uni yesterday so we shall see what happens!

 

[aimee-lou]

Ooh exciting. Good luck x

 

[MrsEngland]

Thanks
Got another interview for another uni in march too!

 

[callmedan]

That's great, sound like a great opportunity! I'd love to do midwifery more like the home visits and appointments side of things x

 

[MrsEngland]

Yeh its the community side that really interests me...would love to specialise in home births

 

[catty]

A girl on my course was pregnant whilst at uni and took a 6 month break whilst looking after her baby. She then went into the class that was 6 months behind our one so she didn't miss anything. I imagine it would have been hard doing that though but I think uni will be more difficult when you have children regardless.

 

[aimee-lou]

Thanks
Got another interview for another uni in march too!

How did the interviews go? Any news?

 

[MrsEngland]

Hey, ive got a place at uni and just waiting to hear back from the other uni!

Uni is definitely what im going to do now...once i qualify il still be young enough (27) to have a fourth and we will be much better off financially too!

 

[aimee-lou]

Well done!! Have fun. My hubby just finished (well, he's now doing teacher training so not quite but almost!) his 4 year degree. It was so worth it to take our lives forward.