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My DS is called Zayden. At first I had some doubts about this name, but I grew to like it as he grew and his name fitted his personality.

I'm now almost 36 weeks pregnant and in the middle of my pregnancy me and DH kind of agreed on the name Zaion for DS2 (pronounced the same way you say Zion), basically because there wasn't any other name that we both liked (I liked Ocean or Phoenix for a boy but DH didn't like those two).

Now I'm not really sure again about the name, but I feel like it's too late because I told many people already that the baby will be called Zaion and my DS is so set on the name. I even asked him if he wanted to change it and he said no. He says the name with so much love when he talks to the belly that I don't have the heart to change it.

If our third child is a girl she will be called Zelda (DH's lifelong dream of having a Zelda -.-''). We are planning to have at least 4 kids ( hopefully 2 boys 2 girls). However if our 4th is a girl I really don't want to name the baby another name starting with a Z. I'd rather name her something more delicate such as Lila or Violet. Will I have to name my 4th child a name starting with a Z too since the first 3 will be with a Z?
 
I think once you have 2 or 3 Zs it's probably best to continue, however definitely not necessary if you don't want to. I think you're getting ahead of yourself though...I'd just focus on Zayden and Zaion together (sounds awesome! )

There's cute Z names for girls too such as
Zuri
Zaida
Zara
Zina
Zory
 
You don't have to do anything you don't want to. There are no rules or laws about naming conventions (well, except in countries where they rightly don't allow you to call your baby Facebook or PimpinHo), so if you want to call your last baby something completely different, go for it.
 
It's very generous of you to keep giving your OH naming rights! It sounds like you were unsure of Zayden... and now you're unsure of Zaion... and you have no say in your first daughter's name... Zelda?! Sounds like DH is calling all the shots - and you're the only one compromising. I'm not trying to be rude. But I would never name my baby a name I don't love.

All your name choices are very lovely: Ocean, Phoenix, Lila, and Violet. In my opinion, if he gets to name 2... you should get to name the other 2. (So, no... I definitely don't think you have to stick with a "Z" theme.)
 
I have a friend who did 3 J names and then her last kid's name starts with an O. I thought it was weird for like a second, but in the long run I don't really think it matters and I actually think it's kind of weird when several siblings have the same first letter (like 19 Kids and Counting), so for me four kids all starting with Z would be kind of pushing it!

My DH really pushed for Zelda too but it wasn't happening as I like traditional names. Men. :haha:

If you really love one of the other names then I would urge your OH to think about a compromise since he gets naming rights for a future girl. I think Phoenix goes really well with Zayden (and someday possibly Zelda) and it's not too "out there" so I don't think you'd be asking too much for him to consider it further.
 
You don't seem to have considered that your third child might be a boy! Would you name a third son another Z name?
 
The fact that your son is hooked on the name does make it more difficult. I'm sure there's a way you can change it delicately if you really want to. In terms of your 4th, I don't think you HAVE to give your child any particular type of name. I don't really get the idea of having to have your children's names "match." They are their own people and childhood, where they're all part of the same nuclear family, is only a small fraction of life. Give your children whatever names you want, without worrying about how the name compares to your other children.
 
I think zayden and Zaion are very similar for siblings (maybe I'm mis pronouncing zaion) ? Anyway I think your oh is being abit unreasonable .. From what your saying you don't actually have a say in your children's names, x
 
Zayden was chosen by me because at that time dh didn't rly help me with name choices so I just chose the only name that sounded ok. Zaion was chosen because that's the only name we ish agreed on. He doesn't mind us changing it to something else but since my son is so hooked to it I don't want to break his heart.
 
I don't think you make your name choices based on your 4 year old's feelings on it, to be honest. He'll get over it a heck of a lot sooner than you will if you name your child something that you don't love.
 
If you have doubts then listen to them. you little boy will get over it if you change it. you could make a game to make him think he gets to choose the new name too. Im not much of a fan of matchey names myself if they just so happen to match and you chose because its names you love i thnik thats different. Dont choose a name based on how well it goes with your other child. i do think it might look a bit odd having 3 z names then the last one not. I would think that child will ask later why they get a totally different name lol . you have to be set on it just as much as everyone else . I would speak up to your DH more and tell him your feelings regarding the name
 

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