She's gorgeous! I work with children with feeding tubes and other unusual equipment and I know people don't always know where to look or what to say, in my experience once they've seen it a few times then it soon becomes normal to them, but at first they may avoid you and Robyn slightly as they're afraid they'll say or do the wrong thing. I doubt it's malicious, if you show them it's nothing to be scared of they'll soon follow suit!
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I agree. I have worked with children with feeding tubes and various other disabilities in mainstream day care. People really are scared of what they don't understand. We found having the parents explain the situation to the staff really helpful, because we could then explain to the other parents if needed (it was an over 2s room). On the first day we explained the situation to the other children at a level they could understand and they were fab. These children were the most sociable, smart and fun kids.
Maybe the leader can give you a chance to explain that although Robyn has feeding tubes she is able to socialise and have fun with other kids or maybe you could invite one of the mums to come for coffee so she can get to know you and Robyn. One drop in the ocean creates many ripples ( in other words it could lead to lots of friendships).
Good luck
Thank you.
I still working on the how much to say part. I find if i do start sometimes one thing i sy will lead into explaining another issues and then before i know it i have overshared and they see her as even more delicate that when i started lol Its worrying for me as one of her surgeons said to me take her home and treat her like your son. If you treat her like a sick baby she will act like a sick baby. But when people see how small she is and how old she is they always look worried, especially when they are sitting with a baby of the same age and obviously they inevitably compare them, and i end up trying to justify the difference with she was in hospital for months after four surgeries etc
The parents kept it very simple for us. They explained that the child needed the tube to feed and that it was very robust so daily activities were no problem. There was no need for special treatment and they would appreciate it if the child was treated the same as everyone else. Of course they explained how to fix any issues as the child was left with us but, you don't need to go into that just need to say that if something was to happen you know how to deal with it. Short and sweet
Pity some of us aren't in your baby sensory group.