lisaf
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This is mainly for US girls, since I know baby showers aren't common around the rest of the world.
I'm kind of confused on what to do about my baby shower(s). There are a few things going on that make it more complicated.
I'm from Northern california and have lots of family up there. But everyone is pretty far spread out.
My best friends who want to throw me a shower are 5-7 hours away from me. My mother in law also wants to throw me a shower.
I figure, ok, fine, I'll have 2 showers, one up north and one down here.
I just don't know want it to end up being pathetic.
I don't have tons of friends, those I do have are all spread out. I don't want to invite people just for a gift grab, but I don't have that many people to invite anyway (I'd be inviting them just so it was fun and more than a few people, not for the gifts if that makes sense).
The shower up north will be the 2 friends throwing it, and basically family. There are 2 friends that I think are in range geographically, but I haven't seen either of them in ages and I don't know if they'd come (we're in touch more on facebook but haven't seen each other in a long time). Even the family is a few hours away and may not want to come just for a baby shower. A few would definitely come, I'm just saying it may be my friends hosting and 5 other guests.
There are a few friends of my friend that I really got along with and would probably be friends with too if they didn't live 7 hours away. But it seems weird to invite them to my shower.
As for the shower down here, again I don't have tons of friends who would probably drive here and only one who lives in town... I have a few work friends but haven't kept in touch with some of them and it still feels like a gift grab to invite those I am in touch with. So it will be mostly in-laws and family. The few friends I have in town... well its a long story but there is a lot of tension between them and my in-laws over one of them dating my brother in law years ago and his best friend stealing her away etc.... its stupid and it happened 10+ years ago and its totally blown out of proportion etc but they're stubborn and holding a grudge.
If I combined the showers, there would be lots of people who wouldn't come just because of the distance involved.
Feeling kind of sad/pathetic about this and almost don't want to bother
I can only compare to my other friends who had showers and they had tons of friends at their showers or family etc.
I can think of throwing a co-ed shower so there are more people and it feels like more of a party... but I don't want to add to the expense of those throwing the part either
For the record, I do wish I had a few more friends that I could see locally (every time I make a friend they move away because its very expensive to live here)... but I'm not the type to have a ton of friends in general.... I prefer a few close friends.
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Sorry for the rambling, its not really even clear what I'm asking for advice on, I am just a little anxious/sad about this situation and can't think of any way to make it better.
Perhaps I'll invite people and they'll all come but right now I'm just afraid people will think of it as a greedy gift grab if I invite them but don't usually see them often
I'm kind of confused on what to do about my baby shower(s). There are a few things going on that make it more complicated.
I'm from Northern california and have lots of family up there. But everyone is pretty far spread out.
My best friends who want to throw me a shower are 5-7 hours away from me. My mother in law also wants to throw me a shower.
I figure, ok, fine, I'll have 2 showers, one up north and one down here.
I just don't know want it to end up being pathetic.
I don't have tons of friends, those I do have are all spread out. I don't want to invite people just for a gift grab, but I don't have that many people to invite anyway (I'd be inviting them just so it was fun and more than a few people, not for the gifts if that makes sense).
The shower up north will be the 2 friends throwing it, and basically family. There are 2 friends that I think are in range geographically, but I haven't seen either of them in ages and I don't know if they'd come (we're in touch more on facebook but haven't seen each other in a long time). Even the family is a few hours away and may not want to come just for a baby shower. A few would definitely come, I'm just saying it may be my friends hosting and 5 other guests.
There are a few friends of my friend that I really got along with and would probably be friends with too if they didn't live 7 hours away. But it seems weird to invite them to my shower.
As for the shower down here, again I don't have tons of friends who would probably drive here and only one who lives in town... I have a few work friends but haven't kept in touch with some of them and it still feels like a gift grab to invite those I am in touch with. So it will be mostly in-laws and family. The few friends I have in town... well its a long story but there is a lot of tension between them and my in-laws over one of them dating my brother in law years ago and his best friend stealing her away etc.... its stupid and it happened 10+ years ago and its totally blown out of proportion etc but they're stubborn and holding a grudge.
If I combined the showers, there would be lots of people who wouldn't come just because of the distance involved.
Feeling kind of sad/pathetic about this and almost don't want to bother
I can only compare to my other friends who had showers and they had tons of friends at their showers or family etc.
I can think of throwing a co-ed shower so there are more people and it feels like more of a party... but I don't want to add to the expense of those throwing the part either
For the record, I do wish I had a few more friends that I could see locally (every time I make a friend they move away because its very expensive to live here)... but I'm not the type to have a ton of friends in general.... I prefer a few close friends.
.
.
.
Sorry for the rambling, its not really even clear what I'm asking for advice on, I am just a little anxious/sad about this situation and can't think of any way to make it better.
Perhaps I'll invite people and they'll all come but right now I'm just afraid people will think of it as a greedy gift grab if I invite them but don't usually see them often