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so i want to breastfeed and i think i want the baby to sleep in the room with us for ease of nighttime feedings. not in our bed but beside us in the bassinette. everyone we've mentioned this to or has asked about it says "NOOOOOOO you will NEVER get your child out of your room. EVER" mind you not one of these women ever had their baby in the room with them, they all started them off separate. so i dont really appreciate their advice seeing they dont know what theyre talking about. i would appreciate some feedback or advice from women who actually cosleep/start baby in their room. are you happy you did this? how long to get baby into their own room? did it disturb your OH too much and you end up going into the other room to feed anyway? ive read a few books on attachment parenting and they described cosleeping as magical that they were so intune by having their baby close by they would end up waking up jus before baby would start to cry for food, feed, and baby goes back to sleep without making any noise... can it really go that well? or are you really better off keeping your bedroom off limits?
 
I had LO in a cot in our room and I found it so much easier. Most of the time my OH didn´t even know how many times I got up with her as I could get to her so quickly and snuggle in our warm bed for her feed before back to sleep. She went in her own room at 6 months as we were disturbing her when we came to bed and when OH´s alarm went off in the morning. No problem whatsoever with her going into her own room.
Do whatever you feel right and what works for you and baby, different things work for different people. xx
 
It is actually recommended that your baby shares your room for the first 6 months to reduce the risk of SIDS.

My LO started off in her moses basket right beside my bed although she slept in with us a fair bit. At 15 weeks she was too big for her basket so OH bought her cot into our room. She's now 6 months and co~sleeps because I think it is easier to feed/comfort her straight when she wake up rather than getting up and walking to her nursery. And yes I love having her close to me and will put her in her room when she's ready.
 
Our baby still sleeps in our room so I can't give any advice on whether or not she'll ever want to leave. I just wanted to say, don't listen to other people, if you want your baby in your room, go for it! I love my LO being near, I wake up before she ever cries. My OH isn't big on sleeping but if he was, he'd sleep through her wake ups. It's nice and easy to breastfeed lying down in our bed too then I just pop her back in her cot once she's gone back to sleep :)
 
I don't know about the ease of breastfeeding (not a mommy yet) but I'm one of 6 kids. Each one of us slept in mommy and daddy's king sized bed until we were at least 9 or 10 years old. I had a bad seizure due to a high temp when I was a baby and my older brother stopped breathing one night as a baby. I don't think mommy would have noticed if we weren't in bed with her and she definitely wouldn't have known if we were in a different room.
 
Sorry, didn't read your whole post, but having your baby in a bassinet near your bed for the first few months is very normal. Don't listen to the naysayers. Do what works for you. That may mean trying something and then changing it based on what feels right. I think both you and your baby will be happier if you sleep in the same room.
 
My LO slept in a Moses basket next to my bed until 10 weeks. He was then getting too big for the basket so we moved him to his cot and I slept in his room on a sofabed. Just last week (4.5 months) I moved back into my own bed and left LO in his room in his own, as I think I was sometimes disturbing LO (and getting uncomfortable on the sofabed!)

Getting him to sleep in his basket in the early weeks was a challenge, but the transition to his cot was fine. He was also fine when I stopped sleeping in his room. Night feeds are definitely easier when you're both in the same room, especially if they're up a lot and difficult to settle in the early days. My LO is just up once (or twice) a night now though and goes back down fairly easily so I don't mind carrying him back through to his cot.
 
My son slept in our room for the first four months, sometimes in Moses basket and in the first couple of months quite often in the bed because he settled better in the bed. It definitely made it easier as he woke up so often in the first few months that I wouldn't have got any sleep at all if he was in another room. I had planned to keep him in our room for six months but we ended up moving him at four months as he became very sensitive to noise and we were waking him up coming to bed. He had absolutely no difficulty in adjusting to sleeping in his own room and he actually slept better because we weren't disturbing him.

My daughter is also in our room. She is a good sleeper and although she wakes during the night for feeds she never actually gets as far as crying because I can just feed her and she goes straight back to sleep. OH asked me the other day if she was still waking during the night - yes at least two or three times but it literally never disturbs him at all. You really do get very tuned in with their sleep cycles when you're breastfeeding and have them sleeping beside you and I often wake up just before she does. I'm hoping to keep her in with us until six months but I'll play it by ear as I did with my son.
 
Ashley slept in our room in his moses basket until 4 months and then I brought his cotbed into our room. He went into his own room at 7.5 months and I had no problem at all with moving him. He loves his room as he's used to playing in there and having his bedtime story in there. I have also had him in my bed when he's going through rough patches with his sleep and when he's been ill and I have no trouble getting him back into his cot in his room afterwards.

It's so much easier to have them in your room when you're breastfeeding and I agree with a PP, it actually disturbed my OH less when he was in our room as I caught him when he stirred rather than having to be woken up by him crying over the monitor. It's also recommended in the UK to have them in your room for the first 6 months to reduce the risk of SIDS.

One more point - it's your baby and you can do what you like!
 
I sleep in the same room as my lo. normally in the same room as dh. if it's a very bad night I do move in to the other room. Dh doesn't kick me out I just find it easier not to have to try and be quiet. Plus dh is a horrid snorer and I can't wear my earplugs anymore. It is easier to be in the same room to breastfeed. Just don't listen to these other people they obviously know nothing. U do what feels right it's your child and follow your instincts.
 
In the UK its recommended to have your baby in your room for the first 6 months minimum. My LO is still in our room at two, were thinking about moving her to her own room after christmas. It felt wrong to move her untill she was able to come into us if she needed us.
 
I don't know anything about moving them out or any kind of magical bond, but Joseph sleeps in bed with us and I do end up waking just before he does for a feed, roll him onto his side to feed him and he just falls back asleep without a sound. I don't remember when we first brought him to bed (we certainly didn't make it a full 2 weeks), but that night my husband was "amazed he's already sleeping through". I was like, "B*&ch, please! He was up every hour to eat and you're welcome!" Now it's so streamlined I couldn't tell you for sure whether I had to feed him last night or not and some nights I wake up to see DH staring at me just before Joseph starts to stir because he wakes just before I do sometimes.
It definitely won't be that easy at first, though. Joseph pooped during every feed in the beginning, so there was both a feed and a diaper change (or two) every 1-2 hours. I think you should give yourself time after birth just staying near baby and doing what feels right without worrying about how you'd like things done 6 mo on. You won't form any habits that early and it will give you time to figure out what works for you. Someone on here whose parenting philosophy I really admire said this and I find it really is the easiest thing for my family at this point: just go with the flow.
 
We coslept by having a cosleeper bassinet put next to the side of our bed. As a FF mom I also found it very convenient having her right there next to us as sometimes all she needed was her pacifier and reassurance to get back to sleep. Instead of having to get up and go into another room I could stay in bed and go right back to sleep. My husband wasn't nuts about all the sounds she'd make in the night as she was quite a noisy sleeper and he says he may be spending some nights on the couch when our second's arrived.:lol: It didn't really bother me though, to be honest, but I'm not such a light sleeper like he is. As for how long she stayed in our room - 5 1/2 months. I had no plan as to when I'd like to have her in her own room I just let that come naturally. She became a very light sleeper like her dad and woke up every time we went to bed no matter how quiet we were. She would be so awake it'd often take a bottle and another half an hour to get her back to sleep. Every little movement disturbed her sleep. We knew then it was time to make the move and I'll say it was much harder on me than it was on her. I don't even think she was very bothered by it. So, just because you cosleep in the early days doesn't automatically mean they'll never be ready for their own room! The cosleeper worked out well for us anyway and I'll happily be using it soon again. :)
 
Lily has to sleep in our room as we only have a 1-room apartment at the moment. Even if we didn't, we would still have her in here. She sleeps in a Rock-N-Play at the foot of our bed. I would be too paranoid to let her sleep in her own room right now.
 
I shared a room AND a bed with my son until he was 28 months old. He had no problems going to sleep by himself in his own room.
 
In the UK it is the norm to have baby in ur room for the first few months! It's also SIDS guidelines to have them in with you for the first 6 months (which I did ) at 6 month I moved house and moved my lo straight into her own room and she was totally undisturbed by it!
To be honest I just can't imagine coming home from hospital and putting baby strsight in their own room, it would have felt so strange being apart from her after carrying her for 9months! I used to keep her downstairs with me until I went to bed for the first 8-10weeks aswell!
 
My baby sleeps in the bassinet at night in our room but I put him in his crib for naps so he's used to it. Granted he's only three weeks but so far so goof
 
thanks for your feedback ladies!! im all for educated advice its jus frustrating being a firsttime mom and have people come at you from left and right with baseless naysaying:wacko:



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My older son slept in a bassinet by the bed and I sleep with my younger son still at a year. I love it! It happened out of necessity. People always have their opinions on them I tell them I couldn't care less a its none of their business. You have to do what's best for your family no one else's concern. You guys will figure out what works best as you go. It is recommended that they sleep in your room for at least 6 months.
 
I could not imagine not having my baby near me during those newborn months! I was constantly breastfeeding, it would have been more exhausting having to go into another room. I had a cosleeper attached to the bed. I had everything planned out: use the cosleeper for 6 months and then move LO into own crib, then transition to own bedroom. LO had other plans! She refused the cosleeper and I ended up bedsharing for 4 months. We recently moved her into her crib and we are going to put her into her room next weekend. SIDS recommendations state to wait until 6 months, but she has become a light sleeper and we now keep each other awake. So do what YOU think is best, but do not worry- having your LO stay in your room does not mean he/she will be sleeping with you for the rest of his/her life!
 

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