baby stopped develloping at 9+2... pg 9: its finally over... one month later.

[hannah76]

i'm supposed to be 11 weeks this week, but had my first scan and it looks like its a no go. saw the baby but it wasn't moving and no heartbeat.

so what should i expect now? the other threads i see all mc'd at like 5 weeks. i havent' had any bleeding yet so if nothing happens by next wed then i'll get the script to make me bleed.

i just hope its all over before xmas. what timing!!!!

 

[chirp123]

So sorry to hear about your loss. If you don't do it on your own, they will do a d&c. Either way it is going to be uncomfortable and you will bleed quite a bit. I have mc naturally and had a d&c. Doing it naturally was alot easier physically, but having to wait for your body to take care of things is so hard emotionally. I hope that you are holding up okay. Good luck

 

[sma1588]

im sorry hunny nothing i say is going to make you feel better but im very sorry for your loss

 

[shocker]

Im so sorry to hear of the loss of your little one, i was 14 weeks 4 days but i opted for a d&c and the bleeding stopped after just over a week. Drazic posted in here explaining about how her medically managed miscarriage went at 10 weeks if you look back you should find it and it might help if thats the option your choosing.Wish i could say something to take away the pain for you hun but theres just no words, thinking of you

 

[Megg33k]

Omg, honey! I'm SOOOOOO sorry! I know there are no words that could possibly help! If you need to talk, please feel free to contact me. I'm going through reasonably the same thing right now. I wish I had something profound for you. Lots of love to you and yours!

 

[debgreasby]

So sorry sweetie. Take care of yourself x

 

[Diggydog]

Im so sorry for your loss hun. Its the worst feeling being so close to the end of 1st tri.

I went through the same thing last week, i was suppose to be 11 weeks 6 days when i had my scan and was told no heartbeat. I had a ERPC (D&C) booked for 4 days later(This monday), i didnt have any bleeding or cramping upto the ERPC. After the op i only had some spotting that evening and the next morning. Its the 3rd day today since the op im having awful cramps but have taken some pain killers which seemed to of helped.

Take care huni

xxxx

 

[mandy81]

I'm soo sorry hun, bigs ((hugs ))) to you xxx

 

[Liz2]

Oh honey I am so sorry for your loss. I am not sure what to tell you to expect as I had a D&C the day after I found out there was no heartbeat. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this right now, I wish I had words to take the pain away. Let me know if you ever need to chat

 

[SmileyShazza]

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I found out at our 12 weeks scan 2 weeks ago that our little one had stopped growing at about 6 weeks 3 days and it is absolutely heartbreaking especially when you think you have almost made it through the 1st trimester. My thoughts go out to you and your OH.

I can't advise you on the medical management as I decided to opt for an ERPC (similar to D & C) and for me it was the best option, I had no bleeding afterwards and the operation itself wasn't actually that bad.

Sending you a big

 

[hannah76]

thanks so much for your responses, ladies... it really does help. my dr. didn't think a d+c would be neccessary, and will prescribe me the pills to make me bleed next week if it doesn't start on its own. i just hope it happens soon if that's what has to be... i'm getting some sharp cramps today, so hopefully this is it. i called in sick for the rest of the week as i can't seem to pull myself together, and my boss was great - i told her why and she said she understands as she's mc'd too so wasn't upset i'm missing half a week of work before xmas holidays. i think i'm going to do some cleaning now and get my mind off of things if i can... thanks again to all of you who posted.

 

[Drazic<3]

I am so sorry for your loss darling. My babe was 10 weeks and as you and shazza said - that feeling so being so near to the end of first tri and it all going wrong is heartbreaking. All MCs are bad of course, but MMCs are so cruel. I did post as shocker said about my experience of medical management - for us it was totally the right choice, but hopefully my experience might help.

https://www.babyandbump.com/miscarr...rience-medical-miscarriage-may-upsetting.html

Huge

 

[Widger]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a mmc in Jan and hadn't been bleeding so went for the D&C option. I wasn't prepared to still feel pregnant a few days after it and then have positive tests for 3 weeks after op (nobody tells you that in the hospital) but emotionally for me it was the right thing to do and looking back I'm glad I took that option.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do xx

This site is great for support.

 

[sophster]

Hi

I am so sorry. I had similar to you except my dating scan was delayed due to a booking cock-up and so I only found out at 15 weeks; which was extremely upsetting. With me things progressed naturally the next day, I took starflower oil and other natural prostglandins to help things along but these only work if things are ready to progress anyway, as I had already started bleeding on and off it worked for me within 24 hours, and aside from getting recalled for a second scan to get the all clear (as there was something on the scan that they were not sure was retained products/tissue or not) everything went much much better than I hoped. I got a negative pregnancy test the day after actually miscarrying physically; and my period came back within exactly 6 weeks so the physical recovery was pretty much as expected. For me the natural miscarriage was only slightly uncomfortable; but with me the sac had become detached; though a lot more intact than expected and came our first; I have heard its more painful when the sac comes out last. I've only ever had surgery once in my life prior to this and didn't fancy it again so for me the natural option was far preferable and it went better than I expected, but it depends on you and your preferences.

Soph x

 

[hannah76]

ok, now i'm scared... i read drazic's thread, this webpage, and this page. now i know its going to hurt and its going to be graphic (i don't want to see the baby). i was picturing a heavy period with extra cramps, but now i'm scared! it sounds like the procedure drazic described is what my doc recommended, though he sounded like he was sending me home with the pills to use vaginally... he said he'd give me a prescription, not send me to the hospital.

the other thing that's really tough right now is that although dh is usually super supportive and i can really lean on him, he's in exams right now and i feel like i have to put on a happy face for him. at least he's done exams on saturday, because i want him to know we're in for a night or day of me sitting on the toilet in agony next weekend and i'm going to really need him.

i was starting to feel better this afternoon with some good self care time and heavy cleaning of the house, but now i think i've read too much!! is it true that i'm in for a graphic and painful weekend next week??

 

[hannah76]

ok, so i talked to dh and now i feel a bit better... i thought it would be selfish to share my feelings and what he can expect next weekend because i knew it would make me feel a bit better and him more stressed. but he said that he felt better that i was finally telling him what was going on in my head and assured me he was up for whatever i needed him for. i think i'll be posting in this thread in the next couple of weeks while i go through this, hope you ladies don't mind. i don't want to upset my buddies in my preg jnl.

also, thanks to those who've posted their stories here too... it helps to know others have made it out the other side. i'm so sorry for all of your losses...

 

[SarahMelissa]

Hannah i am sooo sorry, sending you massive hugs

 

[Drazic<3]

I'm sorry I scared you darling. I didn't mean to - I think many people won't see the baby and in the hospital they will check everything for signs of the pregnancy. But I looked IYKWIM? Maybe you could consider having a D&C? That way you won't see anything at all, except maybe some blood and clotting later. I was told I could go home if I wanted but decided to stay in the hospital.

Please don't worry about pain. It is no worse than bad period pain just alot more bleeding (again, not trying to scare you. I just think it's more cruel to lie and it come as a shock)

 

[fluffyblue]

i'm supposed to be 11 weeks this week, but had my first scan and it looks like its a no go. saw the baby but it wasn't moving and no heartbeat.

so what should i expect now? the other threads i see all mc'd at like 5 weeks. i havent' had any bleeding yet so if nothing happens by next wed then i'll get the script to make me bleed.

i just hope its all over before xmas. what timing!!!!

HI hun im so sorry for your loss and am gutted for you as I followed your story from TTC etc.

I had a MMC at 9 weeks and had an ERPC however mine was two days after diagnosis and to be honest was a complete blur for two days but helped me recover faster. Have they given you any options for treatment - I think they will recommend an ERPC becuase of how many weeks you are but it depends entirely on you.

Take care hunni xxx

 

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