Back to work :(

[_Lexi_]

So I go back to work tomorrow after being off with hyperemesis since 5 weeks. I'm dreading going back. I'm still being sick, constantly exhausted and keep getting migraines. I work in a call centre, which may not be physically demanding, but it's mentally draining. I sell home and car insurance and there's so much legal scripting that I just can't remember. I'd only been there 6 weeks before I found out I was pregnant, and 3 weeks of that was in training. It's such a stressful environment. Very strict figures to hit hourly/daily or you get shouted at, they listen in to your calls and shout if you're not bring pushy enough, which I'm not. If someone says no, I'm not going to keep asking. Only allowed to be off the phone for 5% of the day for toilet breaks, I'm going every 20 mins at the moment!! IRS just, if I need to be sick, I need to be sick. I can't just hang up on someone, and the phonecalls can go on well over an hour. I hated it before, and I just know it's going to be even worse. Because of how early I went off sick, I haven't completed my probation, and to be honest, I don't really care if they fire me. My life is such a mess at the moment. Me n oh have broken up, but I can't afford to move out, so still living together/sharing a bed, and I just have nowhere to go. Just feel so alone and lost at the moment. Sorry for the rant xx

 

[Button#]

Sounds like you're having a hard time at the moment and I really hope that tomorrow goes better than you're expecting.

 

[crimsonsky]

Maybe you need more time off? X

 

[Natalie1a]

If your not fit to go back to work then maybe you should see your doctor about getting signed off again. These days the doctor will give you a fit note, if you need more flexible working etc then your Dr should be able to put this into your fit note and your employers might be more lenient.

Also sorry to hear about you and your OH big hugs to you Nx

 

[_Lexi_]

My doctor said he doesn't want to sign me off anymore. Even though I'm still being sick 30 times a day. My main worry at the moment is where to live. He's kicking me out on 9th October I think and I have nowhere to go xx

 

[katree]

I have been off since week 6 with this 2 its awful I'm lucky my doctor is lovely and is happy to sign me off, I don't know why he wont sign you off if your still so ill?? As for the housing situation, can u go to your local council and put yourself down as homeless, I know its not ideal but maybe its a start. Good luck 2u and hope your feeling better soon and things work out xxx

 

[_Lexi_]

He just said he shouldn't sign me off anymore. I've applied to the council, they don't have to help until 11 weeks before the baby is born. Its just such a mess, I really don't know what to do. Everyone keeps telling me to leave, and I want to, I don't deserve this, but I have nowhere to go x

 

[topsy]

Hi hun,

I am also from Norfolk

I suffer with this too, i have been off for nearly 10 weeks and its not giving up yet Are you on any tablet my sweets?

Can you possible see another Dr at your surgery? If your Dr wont sign you off again hun?

I didn't think they could sack you if you have any time of, with anything thats related to pregnancy- but I am not sure if that is different if you are on probationary contract. The CAB maybe able to tell you.

I second what somone said about going to see the local council hun about somewhere to live.

I am sorry you are going through all this, hope you have some supportive friends and family around you chick.

xxxxx

 

[BrightLights]

If you are not fit enough to go back get signed off hun, its not worth putting you in so much stress if your not well enough.

I have been signed off the rest of pregnancy as me and baby have been quite unwell (baby had hydrops) and I keep fainting. Work have been really good about it which is weird cos when I was off originally they were horrid they seem to prefer me being signed off long term then going back when I was too ill.

xxx

 

[katree]

Well if u still feel so ill he has to sign you off, I know exactly how you feel and there's no way i could of been in work especially with everything else you have going on.
As for everyone telling u to leave I totally understand easier said than done, its his house is it?? What a dick (sorry don't know situation but he doesn't sound very nice) expecting his pregnant girlfriend ex or not to move out with no where to go. I don't know bout the council but surely they cant leave u pregnant and homeless even if they just put u in a b+b til they can find u somewhere. xxx

 

[_Lexi_]

I went to cab, they're not allowed to offer advice?! Just give you phone numbers, the phone numbers she gave me were for women who didn't know whether to keep/abort their child. I don't want an abortion!! The council have put me on the waiting list, but not seen as a priority until 11 weeks before edd in case they give you a house, and you have an abortion. Grr. I'm going to have to go in tomorrow, hopefully they'll see I'm not fit to be there. I'm just getting so stressed and depressed about everything. He is being a dick, he's spent today with his ex wife and their kids, normally he'll take them out on his own and his home at 4.30, hes not home and not answering his phone. I think because I'm on probation, they can make an excuse to get rid of me. I hope they do, because then the council will do more as I'll have no income. I've just never felt this low. It's meant to be such a happy time and it's far from it. He doesn't even want me telling people I'm pregnant as he doesn't want people to know. He woke me up this morning with cuddles and kisses and we had sex as I thought he was showing me he wanted to try again. Straight after he got out if bed, and said he was going to see his ex and started an argument with me. I just feel so used. I just spend most my time in tears with the stress. My friends were supportive, but it seems they're just getting bored of it to be honest xx

 

[bababel]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. You are definitely being used by your ex OH. Don't let him take advantage of you like that as it is certainly confusing and upsetting. You deserve so much better.

As for your housing and work situation, I don't have any advice but I do hope that everything works out for you. I know things eventually will! Please keep us posted and best of luck to you! xxoxoxox

 

[tink30]

I would definetly go see another doctor in the surgery and tell them u feel terrible with the sickness and they should sign you off... cant see how they cant?? ive been signed off for 12 weeks so far xx

 

[Mabythistime]

I went to cab, they're not allowed to offer advice?! Just give you phone numbers, the phone numbers she gave me were for women who didn't know whether to keep/abort their child. I don't want an abortion!! The council have put me on the waiting list, but not seen as a priority until 11 weeks before edd in case they give you a house, and you have an abortion. Grr. I'm going to have to go in tomorrow, hopefully they'll see I'm not fit to be there. I'm just getting so stressed and depressed about everything. He is being a dick, he's spent today with his ex wife and their kids, normally he'll take them out on his own and his home at 4.30, hes not home and not answering his phone. I think because I'm on probation, they can make an excuse to get rid of me. I hope they do, because then the council will do more as I'll have no income. I've just never felt this low. It's meant to be such a happy time and it's far from it. He doesn't even want me telling people I'm pregnant as he doesn't want people to know. He woke me up this morning with cuddles and kisses and we had sex as I thought he was showing me he wanted to try again. Straight after he got out if bed, and said he was going to see his ex and started an argument with me. I just feel so used. I just spend most my time in tears with the stress. My friends were supportive, but it seems they're just getting bored of it to be honest xx

I never say this, but he is a D!ck! Lexi, I hope you find your way out, generally these situations do have a answer. Not that a place to stay will fall from the sky, but I am sure you will find a solution. Nope, they cannot make an excuse to fire you, although....it might be best they do. Like you say, it might speed things up.

xxx

 

[_Lexi_]

I didn't think they could send me back if I wasn't well enough. I'm on tablets, they did work, but no so well now. I don't know if my increased stress would effect the sickness?? Spent most of today in bed with a migraine, which touch wood has passed now. I just can't really afford to be off much longer. x

 

[topsy]

Oh hun my heart goes out to you, BIG HUGS. xxx

I am sorry your OH is being so horrible. I am sure your friends care about you lots hun, but post on here as much as you need, i am sure you will get lots of support.

I don't know much about housing, or benefits I am afraid, I am trying to learn bits about MA. I really thought the council would help you, thats so bad.

xxx

 

[topsy]

Hi Hun, just wondered how you got on today?

xxx