Bad attitude/behaviour/demanding... Something more or just her age??

[RainbowDrop_x]

My DD is a very happy little girl most of the time. She's happy to play either with other people or on her own. She's very loving, loves sitting and having cuddles (albeit on her terms lol) and loves social activities.

But just lately her behaviour has changed, she's gone from asking for things nicely (example; please may I have juice please) to "I want juice", she demands things constantly, and if it isn't done straight away she has a huge tantrum about it. When I remind her that she has to ask nicely she does, it's almost like she feels she doesn't have to IYKWIM??

Another example, we've tried potty training but she just isn't interested at the moment, she asks to sit on the tumble toilet (we have a spotty toilet seat, association with things and all that ) and if she asks we let her, yesterday I was doing some washing up and said oh mummy needs a wee, to which she grabbed my trousers, pulled me back and started crying "I need a wee first". She got really aggressive about it and that seems to be happening quite a lot, she just melts down over things at the click of a finger and I'm starting to wonder if there's more to it.

There is a history of behaviour issues on DHs side so I'm wondering if I'm just finding links where there aren't any but DH seems to think its just her age... Does it sound normal?

 

[lozzy21]

Yeah that sounds like Niamh!

 

[hattiehippo]

Sounds totally normal for her age tbh.

Tom's attitude and behaviour really changed from about 3 months before he was 3. He got much more demanding and we had to be a lot firmer with him about asking politely and waiting. Lots of tears and meltdowns too. He's a bit better again at the mo but still has days where it's like living with a very stroppy 13 yr old!

 

[Jchihuahua]

It sounds normal to me too. Daisy was very challenging all the time pretty much from when she was 2 until when she was 3. I was sure she had a behavioural disorder at one point because of her meltdowns.

For the last month she has been a delight though. No meltdowns at all, can be reasoned with, accepts being told no and is generally a very well behaved girl. I am so relieved her terrible twos seem to have passed (fingers crosed!!).

 

[OmarsMum]

An age thing. Like JC we had a challenging year from 2-3 yrs, but now he's easy going in general. He's demanding & he orders me around, but I repeat what he says in a polite way & I request him to ask nicely again to get what he wants.