BD Question????

Discussion in 'Trying To Conceive' started by Saxogirl, Oct 21, 2008.

  1. Saxogirl

    Saxogirl Mum to 2 beautiful boys!

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    Okay I have seen loads of threads on here about how often should you :sex: and if you do it too much then does the quality deteriorate etc etc but I have heard (what I think is an old wives tale) and have been wondering (and haven't seen anyone asking this question....)

    Is it better (I mean obviously it's "better" but are you more likely to conceive) if the woman has an orgasm:D or doesn't it make any difference as long as the :spermy: get where they need to be?????

    What do you think?
     
  2. Tracy B

    Tracy B Well-Known Member

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    Cant remember where I read it but did read that it is better.
    Not sure why though???

    What a useless response this is :blush:
     
  3. loz

    loz Well-Known Member

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    dont know if it is true but i heard that its better coz if u orgasm there will be more fluid for spirm 2 swim up x
     
  4. Jolinar

    Jolinar Mummy to Nic

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    I don't think it really matters, there was a TV program ages ago that filmed the cervix dipping into a pool of semen during the female orgasm, they thought it might help the transport of sperm into the uterus. So after would be good, or indeed any time :D Just enjoy ;)
     
  5. honey08

    honey08 mum2two boys/2mc

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    if u dont orgasm when :sex: and this worries u,just use pressed,its sperm friendly,and nice :) it only takes once obvioulsey anyways,think its fellas with low sperm count that r told only2do bd everyother day,but otherwise i think its how u and ur partner are comfy with, when i fell pg (mc sadley) i know that mth i only bd once/twice..maybe!
     
  6. Halle71

    Halle71 Pregnant with number 2!

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    I have heard different things - some people say every day to be sure, others say you should save up some sperm and do it every two days. How about one and a half and mix in mornings and nights?!

    I ovulate at about CD16 or 17 and we BDd on CD11, 13, 15, 16 and 17 and got a :bfp: I reckon it was CD15 or 16 that did it.

    I also stayed still in bed for half an hour before going to the loo. Just in case!

    Good luck!

    Hx
     
  7. honey08

    honey08 mum2two boys/2mc

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    ooohhh congrats Halle71 !!! these are usually the 2days i usually try make sure as i get peaks on monitor,but then always of course like to get as much in as poss..not always possible tho is it!! lol
     
  8. joeyjo

    joeyjo Mum to 2boys, growing #3

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    I heard it is better for the woman to orgasm with or after the man because the contractions help to drag the spermies up and in, but that the difference is next to nothing
    Orgasm before is of no benefit but does not decrease any chances either.
     
  9. joeyjo

    joeyjo Mum to 2boys, growing #3

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    Obviously I mean benefit regarding TTC, the enjoyment benefits are still there!! :happydance:
     
  10. csmummu

    csmummu Home to Charlie.

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    hehe my hubbi and i read that the female orgasm makes a sperm friendly and pushes the spermies upwards - hubby said "i bet that was written by a woman" needless to say he puts the pillow under my bum and then finishes me off :D gotta love TTC lol.

    Good luck saxo!
     
  11. wishingonastar

    wishingonastar Well-Known Member

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    apparently when a woman orgasms it helps pull the sperm up towards where they need to be, whereas if a woman does the pelvic muscle exercises it pushes the sperm away from where they want to be, so for me i sometimes like to make OH laugh by squeezing my internal muscles after we've..ahem..and he's still inside but have now learnt thats bad if TTC

    also an orgasm makes the vagina less acidic meaning it is more sperm friendly

    however don't worry too much as plenty of people have got pregnant without orgasms so its not essential
    x
     
  12. TigerLady

    TigerLady CaveTiger Clan Mama

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    I've researched the same thing, too. Doesn't seem to matter if you BD every day or every other day. Personally, I leave it open to what the mood is. I make sure we get a minimum in, but always encourage more. That way BDing doesn't become a "job" and all about babymaking. We've been trying almost 6 months and no complaints about a "job" yet.

    As for the Big O, it only helps if you O right after he does. That way the contractions will help the little guys out. However, it doesn't help much, so timing isn't worth worrying over (resulting in it not being able to happen at all!). Think of it as a bonus if happens to time itself in favor of the little dudes/dudettes.

    I've also read several places to lie flat for at least 20 minutes, your uterus naturally points down, so the swimmers will have a chance. Pillows aren't necessary, but don't hurt! DH jokes that if the swimmers can't go against gravity when I stand up, then they are the "rejects" and we don't want them anyway. :)
     
  13. Saxogirl

    Saxogirl Mum to 2 beautiful boys!

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    :rofl: lol thats a great way of thinking!

    This is a great thread - am really glad I posted it lol

    BTW the O part isn't a problem :)happydance:) I was just wondering what people thought /had researched about it! - I think I saw some thing about it on FRIENDS which started me off wondering! lol
     
  14. csmummu

    csmummu Home to Charlie.

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    :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl: too funny!!
     
  15. Saxogirl

    Saxogirl Mum to 2 beautiful boys!

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    That's great isn't it!
     
  16. rachelle1975

    rachelle1975 And then there were 3!!

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    Hey hun

    GP told us that female orgasm is quite important when TTC as it can assist conception - also all the fertility books recommend it too.

    When your orgasm your cervix open and draws in the :spermy: so if you can time it right then great - if not then pillow under the bottom, cervix tilted and maybe a spot of manual manipulation :rofl: can help!

    Good luck! :hugs:
     
  17. Saxogirl

    Saxogirl Mum to 2 beautiful boys!

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    Lol, - Well there you go - who knew that friends was accurate and educational!
     

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