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LO is born...
If labour goes ok and im out the same day we are asking no visits till about 2-3 days time to let us bond and settle into being parents.
Plus ill be breastfeeding and want to get used to that dont want them turning up then 5 mins later im leaving the room to feed LO....
What is everyone doing x
 
Ive asked family to stay away for a week or so! then me and oh can have time together with our new baby! hopefully everyone will listen but cant see that happening!x
 
Have you seen the similar thread as this in 3rd tri? I want same as you - a couple of days just us and baby wihout even our parents visiting so we can bond and get over the initial shock of it all!!! x
 
Ill pop over and have a look sorry didnt realise there was one on there x
 
we have a large close family so it was full on when we had DD, she was born on the friday morning and her half brothers and sisters came to see her straight after school, but i wanted them to be involved from the start. when we got home we had visitors the second day home and mum was home when we came back fro hospital to take pics of us three arriving home for the first time, she then took all our washing and left us to it. pretty sure it'll be the same ths time but hope to b out of hospital sooner and don't want to disrupt DD too much so will be out and about back at mother and toddler groups as sson as we can! x
 
ive asked for no visiting for 2 weeks...i really want to bond with my baby before others come in and fuss over him which i know they will do...x
 
i know my mom, my OH and MIL are gonna be IN the delivery room when i have the baby, but i think i only want a couple hours alone before visitors. i wanna share my baby with my family and his!! and i'm not embarrassed at all about BF in front of anyone :)
 
i'm on my own so my mum will have alot of involvement after the birth.

but as for others deffinatly not for at least the first day home, and then very breif visits possibly after that until we're settled :)
 
i don't want anyone in the delivery room except for OH and i'd prefer no visitors for at least a few weeks after. For the delivery of my daughter I was very young and the whole thing became a public spectacle. I'd like this time to be more intimate.
 
I'm all about having my family present...before/during/after our little guy is born. There is going to be loads of time when it's just our immediated family, but I like the excitement everyone has when baby first comes into the world. Personally I think it's a bit cruel to make a grandparent wait...as much as we love our children, there's something special about a grandparent's love for their grandchild.
 
i hadn't even thought about all this. My In laws are local and I know will expect to come to the hospital as soon as possible, my parents are about 2 hrs away and will respect whatever I want but realistically they'll come to the hospital. I think when we're home I'll be okay having brief visits on our terms.
 
our family is very close and i think if i even suggested that we were thinking of having no visitors for a couple of days they would be devestated, i like the fuss and everyone cooing over baby telling me how beautiful my children are LOL il be lapping it up. (if i have baby towards the end of a week ie thurs/fri im off down the pub for lunch on the sunday haha)
 
our family is very close and i think if i even suggested that we were thinking of having no visitors for a couple of days they would be devestated, i like the fuss and everyone cooing over baby telling me how beautiful my children are LOL il be lapping it up. (if i have baby towards the end of a week ie thurs/fri im off down the pub for lunch on the sunday haha)

not to get drunk just so i dont have to lift a finger:winkwink:
 
I've told my best friends (3 of um) that if they're not waiting in the waiting room I'll be in a piss LMAO! Also I want all my family to come see my gorgeous one ASAP!!!!!!!!! I'm all about the people, plus when its done it starts to slow down and settle in.
 
I couldn't wait to show Thomas off after he was born! I am an only child so he was my Mum and Dad's only Grandchild, they were so over the moon that I wanted them to meet him and bond with him as soon as possible. Will do the same this time.
 
This will be the first baby of this generation in my family, and my parents first grandchild, so no way I would shut them out for a long time after the birth.

The day after, I expect a short visit from everyone I know, then I'd like to be left alone for a day or two.
 
I think as long as they know the boundaries then visitors right away are ok. My mom will be here right away and I will enjoy the help as Im sure I'll need a ton of sleep.
 
I would love a few days after birth before visitors... All of our family live about 4 hours away so when they do visit it will be at least an overnight... I'm a very private person and I plan on breastfeeding so to have a bunch of people at my house is really going to stress me out... (My mother and I are not close) Not to mention I can't handle people telling me what I should and shouldn't do (which has already started) and I find that if I'm face to face with MIL and shes telling me stuff, I won't want to say no. I would love to have no visitors for a month but I know thats not going to happen because its the first grandchild on both sides!
 
im having my sister at the birth and my mum will be bringing my little girl afterwards but im on my own so thats fine but friends and extended family im waiting a few days my mum said she got really down when i was born because they all descended on her the next day!!!
 
Personally I have decided I would prefer it to be imediate family only for the first few days as I know I won't have to get up and make drinks and everything for them or be overly polite I can just leave them to it and I know they will not over crowd me.

Regarding friends and other family I think I will say leave it a week and then they can come. Gives me OH and immediate family time to settle in and bond before everyone comes. Plus Im due 27th November so Im hoping most people will be busy working and X-mas shopping to stay to long lol
 

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