being too attached ?

[QuintinsMommy]

I have had 3 non parents tell me (over a few months) I'm soo attached to quin ? or I only care about quin etc..which to me sounds fine but they have said in rude ways
I'm in school full-time, and I'm spending alot less time with quin, I miss him when he isnt around, and I don't like to be without him
I really don't think this is odd?

 

[AirForceWife7]

I don't think this is odd at all either? He is your child! You created him .. he loves you & you love him! What's not to be attached to? Gosh, people are dumb.

 

[QuintinsMommy]

I just think maybe they say things like that cause they don't have children? or maybe they are offended I much rather hang out with a toddler then people my own age

 

[AirForceWife7]

I'm the same way! Hahahaha I honestly have like 2 friends in my life right now This is kind of bad, but I honestly try & avoid people .. I like being by myself There is an air force wife who doesn't have any kids & it seems like everything I do in regards to parenting is wrong to her I think she's just jealous because she wants kids really bad & her DH doesn't

 

[QuintinsMommy]

I know my friend was asking if i made some friends at college, and I said no, i havent even tried and shes like "what?? oh well "

 

[AirForceWife7]

Hahahaha I hate people

 

[QuintinsMommy]

me too

 

[sma1588]

um arnt u supposed to be attached to your child? its the parents that hardly see there child then go party is what gives people bad out looks. i think there is something wrong with people who can just leave there child behind all the time for friends or to party

 

[x__amour]

Haha, what?! How can you be "too attached" to your child!? They're our CHILDREN, we LOVE THEM!

 

[faolan5109]

Not at all. I am just as attached and I see Lane more then you see quin. I dont know how you do it to be honest. I am only gone one day for school( the others days are during his nap and I am home before he gets up).

 

[BrEeZeY]

what Shannon said! lol ive had ppl say that Aiden is too attached to me but im his mommy isnt he suppose to be?! i mean id be attached to the person who fed me and kept me warm and loved me too lol

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Everyone says this about me and my kids, particularly OH. But that's where I like to be I'm happiest with my children.

 

[aliss]

There is no such thing as being too attached.

Attachment implies you are fulfilling your child's need. When you are holding the child back from the independence it wants/craves for your need, then that is an issue.

Some people feel that a parent is "too attached" because they respond to an infant's cry (need for attention) or because they bring a toddler into bed at night because they've had a nightmare (need for security), that's not over attachment.

"Overattached" is, for example, refusing to allow your child to socialize with other children in a safe environment because you have an irrational fear of germs/abduction/boogeyman, w hen your child clearly wants to play independently with their peers. THAT is holding a child back for YOUR need, not the child's.

 

[Rhio92]

Tell them to stfu, how can they say anything if they dont have kids? x

 

[rileybaby]

They cant judge if they dont have kids.. I agree with aliss

 

[pinkribbon]

I have had 3 non parents tell me (over a few months) I'm soo attached to quin ? or I only care about quin etc..which to me sounds fine but they have said in rude ways
I'm in school full-time, and I'm spending alot less time with quin, I miss him when he isnt around, and I don't like to be without him
I really don't think this is odd?

I am like this. I don't like being away from Jake at all, but I do leave him to go to work and uni. I think it's normal and the best way he misses me andI miss him what's so wrong about that?

 

[bbyno1]

No such thing as being too attached
Aliyah has always been attached to me 24.7 lol

 

[lauram_92]

I'd be worried if you weren't attached to him? Some people are stupid. He is your baaaby.

 

[Lauraxamy]

I'm the same! LO is with me 24/7 it's very rare she's away from me. I've had people say the same 'Ahh you spend too much time together, she's too attatched' but I honestly just ignore them. They're our babies and we should make the most of it before they start school and then before they are all big and grown up

 

[EllaAndLyla]

He's your little bubba! of course you will be attached, i think every mum is! I would much rather be attached than not. Hate it when non parents comment on things they know nothing about!! xx