Best friend is less than excited

[KiwiMOM]

I told one of my best friends the news yesterday and she wasn't so nice about it. I know not everyone is over the moon about teens getting pregnant but idk.. it made me feel like she thinks I'm going to be a bad mother or drop out of school and become a baby machine or something I feel like because we are so close I can't be like "WELL I don't care what you think!" So I just said, maybe it isn't exactly part of the plan but it is happening.

How do you all deal with friends/family saying not so encouraging things?

 

[ssamantha]

I'm sorry your friend reacted that way. Maybe she'll get better about it once the news sinks in. You'd think a close friend would know you well enough to realize you aren't going to be a bad mom/drop out of school/become a baby machine. This is one reason I'm worried to tell people. I don't do well with people not being supportive of me.

 

[KiwiMOM]

I'm sorry your friend reacted that way. Maybe she'll get better about it once the news sinks in. You'd think a close friend would know you well enough to realize you aren't going to be a bad mom/drop out of school/become a baby machine. This is one reason I'm worried to tell people. I don't do well with people not being supportive of me.

Until now everyone has been super supportive, I guess that's mostly why I'm so shocked now that someone isn't and I don't know what to do about it..

 

[Ramen]

I'm sorry you're going through that.

I found the best thing was to cut the negative people out of my life and hold at arms length family I couldn't get rid of until they had something positive to say. I didn't speak to my Dad from 6wks-20wks pregnant and we're not talking much to one of my future SIL's now for the same reason.

 

[ssamantha]

I'm sorry your friend reacted that way. Maybe she'll get better about it once the news sinks in. You'd think a close friend would know you well enough to realize you aren't going to be a bad mom/drop out of school/become a baby machine. This is one reason I'm worried to tell people. I don't do well with people not being supportive of me.

Until now everyone has been super supportive, I guess that's mostly why I'm so shocked now that someone isn't and I don't know what to do about it..

Maybe you just have to distance yourself from this person for a little while and rely on those who are being supportive.

 

[hot tea]

Pregnancy is sadly the time when you learn who your true friends are. It is always surprising to realize there are so many around only for "fair weather".

 

[KiwiMOM]

she lives in america so avoiding her will be pretty easy.. but she was meant to come and visit me next year

 

[hot tea]

So sorry to hear it. It really sucks.

 

[young_n_proud]

Try not to be too broken up over it. She may have gotten angry to deal with the shock. It's not fun and it definitely sucks but perhaps give her some time. Show her that you are actually really excited about this baby and then if you decide you still want her in your life let her know that you would really love her support because becoming a mom no matter what age you are can be the most scariest, most exciting time of your life. And supportive friends and family are always encouraged and appreciated

 

[Desi's_lost]

My friend, who i'd know since we were in 6th grade so 11! And who was supportive at the beginning of my pregnancy has now started telling people that I got pregnant just to keep fob close (SO not true), that she feels bad for my daughter etc....
What i'd love to do is smack the shit out of her but all you can really do is keep your distance. If she's really your friend she'll come around. Otherwise i'd ready yourself to not count her as a friend anymore.

 

[x__amour]

Pregnancy is sadly the time when you learn who your true friends are.

Couldn't agree more with this. So sorry hon.

 

[youngmummy94]

It really shows you who your true friends are, I've found alot of people are just not interested anymore, and TBH you don't need someone who will treat you bad.

 

[trinaestella]

that's probably her way of being upset that she's going to lose a bestfriend forever.. when my closest cousin got pregnant i was so upset because we did everything together and then i felt like a baby would change everything and she'd never be the same, which isn't the case so i was negative about her pregnancy because i was jealous and i in a way hated the baby for ruining things.

now i'm pregnant my best friend she cried on the phone, and then was all negative about how teenage pregnancy is wrong blah blah, yet she had an abortion only cos she was scared what her mum would say otherwise she would have kept it. still to this day i'm 5 months along she wants to be negative, she said how my life is over blah blah and when i said i'm having a girl she's like "eww boys are much cuter and better" what bestfriend would say that that's why i don't really talk to her much because she's not the friend i want in my life, she called my baby racist names too because it's going to be half pakistani.

if she's just gonna be negative about your pregnancy i'd suggest you don't really stay close to her because you don't need people like that during your 9 months xxx

 

[trinaestella]

Pregnancy is sadly the time when you learn who your true friends are.

Couldn't agree more with this. So sorry hon.

so true and i'm glad i got pregnant and lost certain friends, otherwise i would have been the loser to still remain friends with them thinking we were "bestfriends for life"

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Aw, give her time hun, if you were so close, she may feel like you're leaving her behind, or things will change between you both. I'm sure, in time, she'll come around it's a big shock for her I expect that's all! Chin up lots of people didn't say exactly nice things when I was pregnant, I lost 99% of the people I used to hang out with, but you know what, you can make new friends. You just have to put your chin up, be proud with the responsible decision you've made to keep your baby and do the very best by him or her.

 

[Shanelley]

That is very sad to hear that one of ur close friends reacted like this. And in all honesty, you will get people that won't approve. It does hurt when they are close to you. And hopefully she will realise and get over it and support u.

 

[Cassie_x]

Oh that's horrible ! Teen pregnancy really shows who your true friends are. Most of my female friends drifted away, whenever they talked to me, they found it awkward. As though I couldn't talk about homework or hair or gossip because I had two little boys inside me. My true friends stayed close, and I'm still BFFs with Matt & now I'm engaged to my other BFF Lewis & he's Ali's father! It'll all work out, promise!

 

[Blondie91]

Like some of the other girls said, just give her some time. It's definitely a shock at first, and I know my best friend reacted sort of the same way. After talking to her about it, I realized she was just sad that all the plans we had together were either going to be put on hold, or stopped all together. If she truly is your best friend, she'll come around and support you. I know mine did, and now she's excited ! Hope it all works out for you girl

 

[MTB]

I defintily agree that you find out who your true friends are during pregnancy ! when i found out i was pregnant me and my best friend were living together, i was in two minds at the beginning and when i told her i was keeping my baby she tried to talk me out of it ! and said i was making the wrong descision ! once she had acepted it she acted excited for a few days then slowly started drifiting herself away and now 20 weeks down the line we dont speak, and if i do happen to see her she acts as if im just someone she knows like we were never close ! i think she was more worried about loosing her raving partner then about how i was feeling ! But im not sad if 'friends' are going to act like that then there obviously not as true as you thought they were are you definitly deserve better then that !

xxx