bestfriend is having a girl..

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So I am now about to turn 17 weeks and my best friend is about 21 weeks and just had her gender scan. She is having a girl, even though the tech couldn't see between the babys legs, she told her that she had girl anatomy parts though? Not sure what that means, but anyways I'm having a hard time not being jealous of her. I know I have no clue what I'm having yet but she knows I really want a girl and keeps saying I am having a boy because everyone we know seems to be pregnant with girls. Also, she knows that I am naming the baby Vaeda if its a girl and now she is saying her and her boyfriend like the name Vera. It's getting me so flustered and I know I shouldn't be, cause I am just grateful to be pregnant.

Any words of wisdom? I feel like I need to come back down from this attitude and just let things be, but its harder than I thought.
 
Me and my friend are due 2 days apart and she thought she was having a boy, and I was convinced I was having a girl. I really wanted a boy deep down and we had our gender scans on the same day, and I was secretly dreading it because I knew I was going to be so jealous if she had a boy and I didn't.

It's normal to long for one or the other but even if you are initially disappointed, it will become irrelevant when you have your precious baby in your arms :) also there's a good chance you are having a girl too so don't worry! :) and stick with the name you chose even if she's chose a similar name because it's lovely!
 
That's tough, but remember you will have your baby forever, and you don't know how long you guys will be friends (hopefully a while though!!) so choose the name you like!
 
Thanks ladies! Ugh everything you said makes sense and I know I'm overreacting. I will love this baby boy or girl and already do! :) thanks so much.
 
I don't think you're overreacting. Your pregnant, little things are allowed to upset you. That's what we're here for, to screw your head back on right (Though I do think she's being insensitive telling you you're having a boy while knowing you want a girl)! It will all work out in the end! :hugs:
 
I think that you need to focus on your own pregnancy and your own baby and not worry about her baby and what they are calling her. Just because everyone you know is having girls doesn't mean you're going to have a boy and anyway does it really matter if it is a boy? if you want a baby then gender isn't important, I do understand though, I have a girl and a boy already and now I'm 18 weeks I'm leaning more towards wanting another girl. Try not to worry about it and relax :) xx
 
i agree with other girls...an also agree she shudnt keep sayin urs is a boy when she clear knows u wont a girl :( hugs to u xxx
 
In my first pregnancy me and a close friends due date were a week apart. It took a long time for me to get pregnant and if I am honest I could only ever imagine having a little girl. Then I found out she was pregnant with a girl, and a couple of days later I felt sick to the core before my scan. When the tech said baby was a little he, I could not believe it - but I was shocked at my reaction as I was actually pleasantly surprised that we were having different sexes, and just fell head over heels in love with this amazing little boy hubby and I created. Now - well, he is the absolute love of my life (god crazy hormonal women on board - it makes me cry how much I love it). Boys are amazing, that is all - honestly truly amazing, he is 9 mths old, and completely makes my day, he makes me laugh so much, he is so loving and has just started giving me kisses (or sucking my face). Dont be frightened of having a boy, if it is a little boy you will love him to the end of the world.

Also completely agree with another poster. Name your baby what you want, the name that is in your heart completely. You arent copying anyone, it has to be a name you and your other half love.
 
The two names sound nothing a like to me, other than the fact they start with the letter V. Both names are actually pretty common, I've had more than a few clients choose those names with their daughters.

If you have a boy you will love him, just as much as you would a daughter. Boys are wonderful, they love their momma's so much.
 

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