BFP - Now i'm worried about miscarriage

[Holy p]

Hi Everyone,

i've been worrying about miscarriage since i got BFP on 12th. just looking for some friendly advise and calming words please.

the dr thinks i could be 4-5 weeks but we wont know until midwife appt on 25th...there's so much waiting!!

does everyone go through this? this is our 1st btw


thanks xoxoxox

 

[ttc2yrs]

Hi darling,dont worry yourself ! its normal to worry about loosing the baby , talk to your partner about your worries , just sit bck and relax and make sure you take folic acid ! happy and healthy 9 months to you and baby xxx

 

[Bluewings]

I haven't seen one woman yet who doesn't worry about miscarriage in their first trimester! Unless you have significant symptoms for miscarriage (heavy bleeding, severe almost dibilatating cramps, sharp constant pains) then try not to worry too much until your official MW appointment I'm trying to find relaxing hobbies for me like reading, crocheting. I look forward to a few programs once a week on TV, so I kind of "jazz up" my routine and schedule. God bless and have a healthy and happy 9 months!

 

[jojo_b]

Welcome to stress central! We come here and fret most days so you're in good company! xx

 

[Bluewings]

Welcome to stress central! We come here and fret most days so you're in good company! xx

Hahahah aint that the truth!

 

[Murmers0110]

I found out on the 13th and am right around the 4-6 weeks time frame. We can be bump buddies and hopefully calm each other down if ya want. I fell ya girl. I've been the same way but with each day it seems to get less and less. I do to the dr on Tuesday. I'm anxious for that!

 

[bebe81]

Welcome to the madhouse Holy P!

I'm trying my very best to stay positive now after some MAJOR wobbles (no MS, spotting etc). I'm trying to think whatever will be, will be and the only thing I can do about it is try to be calm and stress-free. I had a little look over older posts from a year or two ago and the ladies were all stressing about all the same stuff as us. Lack of symptoms, cramping, spotting etc but almost all have signatures confirming a happy healthy baby was born at the end of 9 months. I know its hard to accept, but the odds of a healthy pregnancy ARE in our favour. Only a percentage of pregnancies end early and this percentage drops week after week after week.Try to relax and remember stressing out is not good for you or your little one.
I'm sure everything will be just fine!

 

[xdxxtx]

Yep. I've gone through this with both pregnancies, but the first was far, far more scary for me. I swore the entire time that something would go wrong, and now he's a perfect lil 13 month old and I'm 5 1/2 months into my second pregnancy. It's soooo normal to feel this, but please try your best to enjoy your pregnancy. I spent my entire first pregnancy worrying, and that's not an experience I can get back or re-do. If I could change the past, one of the biggest things I'd do is go back and LOVE being pregnant with my first baby instead of being so scared. This pregnancy has been such an awesome experience after my first tri worries wore off.

 

[Linz88]

Holy p i was the same, with my firstbi was a wreck due to 2 misscarriages, this pregnancy im a little more relaxed, but stil a wreck lol, i wish i was like sone of the lucky women who dnt find out until 12 weeks

 

[Linz88]

Yep. I've gone through this with both pregnancies, but the first was far, far more scary for me. I swore the entire time that something would go wrong, and now he's a perfect lil 13 month old and I'm 5 1/2 months into my second pregnancy. It's soooo normal to feel this, but please try your best to enjoy your pregnancy. I spent my entire first pregnancy worrying, and that's not an experience I can get back or re-do. If I could change the past, one of the biggest things I'd do is go back and LOVE being pregnant with my first baby instead of being so scared. This pregnancy has been such an awesome experience after my first tri worries wore off.

I agree.. I didnt really connect with my bump cz i was convinced something would happen, youll be ok though

 

[ttc126]

Yep. I've gone through this with both pregnancies, but the first was far, far more scary for me. I swore the entire time that something would go wrong, and now he's a perfect lil 13 month old and I'm 5 1/2 months into my second pregnancy. It's soooo normal to feel this, but please try your best to enjoy your pregnancy. I spent my entire first pregnancy worrying, and that's not an experience I can get back or re-do. If I could change the past, one of the biggest things I'd do is go back and LOVE being pregnant with my first baby instead of being so scared. This pregnancy has been such an awesome experience after my first tri worries wore off.

Thanks for saying this. Some of us first timers worry sooo much but you are right...we cant get this experience back! Good reminder!

 

[knk2011]

Natural reaction. Now you're pregnant, instinct is to take care of yourself and baby.
It's worse if you've miscarried before. I miscarried a pregnancy about 3 years ago around 6-8weeks (it was unplanned) and I panicked all the way through first trimester. Every cramp and every drop of CM would send me rushing to the loos.

Unfortunately, through what I considered my dangerous weeks (6-8) I was working 6 days a week because of it being Christmas and then in week 8 I had the stomach flu/NoroVirus. Sickness and diahorrea, the whole shebang, I lost 3kg due to it.

I am now 16+2 and feeling baby's nudges most evenings
Everything is fine and I am sure you will be too xx

 

[SisterRose]

First tri is nerve racking! I worried the same with my DD and she was fine, now I'm worrying all of the time with this pregnancy. It's normal to worry, but there's loads of lovely ladies on this forum for support and some piece of mind. X

 

[Yipee]

I'm not super worried, but I'm also trying not get too excited until I get a bit further along. I've never been pregnant, so I don't have any history, but still... I am definitely waiting to tell my mom until I get to at least 8 weeks. I think she would be even more upset than me if she knew and then it didn't stick. She had 6 kids, and my dad has 7 siblings, so hopefully I have good genetics for this.

 

[October2013]

I feel the same way. Since finding out two weeks ago I was four weeks pregnant, mc has been a constant worry of mine (I'm a huge worrier). Every ache and cringe, and every lack of ache and cringe sends me into a panic. I wish I could just go to sleep tonight and wake up 7 1/2 months from now. I will say this, I do feel a tiny bit less worried than I did two weeks ago, even after finding out a have a subchorionic hematoma, which puts me at a higher risk for mc. I pray every day to my late brother and grandparents, and God to keep me and the baby healthy, and if I do end up losing it, I'm sure it was meant to be that way.
Lots of hugs and support!!

 

[lucidc]

Hi Everyone,

i've been worrying about miscarriage since i got BFP on 12th. just looking for some friendly advise and calming words please.

the dr thinks i could be 4-5 weeks but we wont know until midwife appt on 25th...there's so much waiting!!

does everyone go through this? this is our 1st btw


thanks xoxoxox

This is what happened to me. I thought I would just be joyful instead I worried myself sick. I found after a few days I was planning for a MC instead of planning for a baby. I realized how unhealthy that was. How I dealt with it.. took a break from forums, stopped googling every little symptom or lack of. It's hard when everything you look up in first trimester mentions it at least once. You know there is a risk but you don't need a constant reminder of it. I'm 8 weeks and I just now decided I feel ok to come back and chat

It is rough but it gets better, I think positive thinking goes a long way. It us impossible to stop thinking about it but take a break and enjoy the fact you did it, your pregnant. Congratz and hope you feel better soon!

 

[Proserpina]

Hi Everyone,

i've been worrying about miscarriage since i got BFP on 12th. just looking for some friendly advise and calming words please.

the dr thinks i could be 4-5 weeks but we wont know until midwife appt on 25th...there's so much waiting!!

does everyone go through this? this is our 1st btw


thanks xoxoxox

Honestly, having a kid kind of means getting used to being worried.

For the first trimester, you'll worry about miscarriage.

For the rest of the pregnancy, you'll worry about miscarriage or stillbirth, or worry that something will be wrong with the baby. You'll worry that the baby isn't moving enough and that you need to be checked.

When the baby is born, you'll worry about SIDS. You'll constantly check on the baby to make sure it's still breathing.

When your child gets older, you'll worry about him/her getting hit by a car or drowning in the bathtub or getting kidnapped.

And so on.

Statistically though, first trimester miscarriage is far more likely than any of those other possibilities, so it's okay to be worried right now. The best I can tell you is that the farther you go, the less likely it is to happen.

Also, enter your statistics into this miscarriage calculator. Do it every week and watch your chances go down as the pregnancy progresses. I've found it comforting.

 

[knk2011]

That's the biggest thing for me!

I STOPPED GOOGLING.
I have been so much better for it since. I'll google the little things like "what quickening feels like" but I stopped googling about cramps or things that I just knew would depress me or make me worry for no reason.

Whilst TTC we rely on google for all of our answers, and helping us to conceive, and so often it gives us the answers we need, so we find it really difficult to stop relying on it when we finally become pregnant.

A psychic I saw last february told me that just because I couldn't imagine something happening, it didn't mean it wouldn't. I remember it everytime I think "I just can't imagine myself with a baby!"

You just have to ask yourself, out of the millions and billions of people that have had baby's in this world, why WOULDN'T you have one?! xxxx

 

[Holy p]

thank you so much everyone. you've put my mind at ease

still have all the symptoms...sickness all the time (morning my a*se) sore boobs niggling cramps cravings.....the lot!! TMI alert - the brown discharge has gotten much less now and i did a urine test at the drs and that came back fine today phew!


still worry every time my tummy gurgles or a feel wet in my pants but i know now that if a was mc then there would be a LOT of blood and pain!! not just little cramps.

i think once we've had a scan and heard the heartbeat i'll relax and properly start enjoying this pregnancy xxx

 

[knk2011]

i relaxed so much after seeing the baby on the scan.
heard the heartbeat from 10 weeks but as they say, seeing is believing.
almost like i needed solid proof that i was pregnant and not crazy lol