(first of all sorry for long post)
Well I have been in touch with him yesterday and he has said that he does not want me or the baby in his life ! he said its bad timing that i have got pregnant just as he was about to call an end to the relationship but he says he will have nothing to do with me or the baby. He is simply not interested.
We have been together about 14 years and the man i saw yesterday is not the man i know ! i cant believe he can be so cruel and heartless. I know he didnt want a baby as much as me but i cannot believe the way he was with me yesterday. I have been crying for literally 24 hours solid. I said i dont want to do this alone and he said well thats up to you and if i dont want it then i should "sort it out".
i am in shock ! he also said that he has been seeing someone else for about a month ... but i felt he was just saying this as a way of getting rid of me (coz he has spent so much time with me lately, i cant see how he could fit anyone else in). I am heartbroken that the man i loved and thought loved me could treat me like this.
At the beginning of the year we had several problems but for the last four months, i felt we had got things back on track, and that he loved me and we were trying for a baby. He said he hasnt been happy for months but all i can say is that he put on a very good act if thats the case
I am obviously so depressed and upset about this but to be honest, I am more worried that he will get in touch with me in a day or two and say - i didnt mean it, i was just shocked about the baby ... lets carry on. But i just cant forget those awful things he has said to me and what he has put me through since last wednesday. I keep thinking i am trapped in a very bad nightmare.
sorry for the long post but i dont have many friends i can confide in. I have spoke to my sister who has said i am better off with out him but if he comes back to me all upset and apologising (we dont live together at mo) - i am not sure i can be strong enough to go it alone but i dont want to risk this happening again. How can you forgive and forget when someone has treated you so badly ?
Posted previously ... Yesterday i was on cloud 9 !! My oh was home really late last night so i didnt tell him the good news till this evening ....
i knew he didnt want this pregnancy as much as i did (hes 10 years older than me and already has a child of 15) but i wasnt expecting what i got tonight ....
i told him the news and he was ok about it sort of ... wasnt over the moon but i expected that .... then he sat down and said its bad timing coz tonight was going to be the time he was going to tell me he didnt feel the same about us .... and hasnt done for a little while ....
can you imagine how i feel now ?? i honestly expected him to be nonchalant about my news but i feel like i have been smacked in the face.
we have had some problems over the last few months but i thought things were going ok .... obviously not. he hasnt said that he wants us to definetely split up but says if i hadnt had given him the news tonight, then this might have been going to happen ....
i have wanted this baby for so long and he says that we have to stay together coz of that now anyway but i didnt want him to be feeling like this. i love him so much but want him to feel the same about me ... which he says he doubts ....
we have been together a long long time and he says he has only just started feeling like this ... i hope we can work it out but after talking to him tonight, he just didnt seem like the same person i have known all these years. i wonder if the baby news has just sent him over the edge ....
i am hoping that when the news has sunk in tonight/tomorrow that he might apologise abit and say that its just the shock of it happening etc .....
need some baby bump hugs tonight thats for sure ....
Well I have been in touch with him yesterday and he has said that he does not want me or the baby in his life ! he said its bad timing that i have got pregnant just as he was about to call an end to the relationship but he says he will have nothing to do with me or the baby. He is simply not interested.
We have been together about 14 years and the man i saw yesterday is not the man i know ! i cant believe he can be so cruel and heartless. I know he didnt want a baby as much as me but i cannot believe the way he was with me yesterday. I have been crying for literally 24 hours solid. I said i dont want to do this alone and he said well thats up to you and if i dont want it then i should "sort it out".
i am in shock ! he also said that he has been seeing someone else for about a month ... but i felt he was just saying this as a way of getting rid of me (coz he has spent so much time with me lately, i cant see how he could fit anyone else in). I am heartbroken that the man i loved and thought loved me could treat me like this.
At the beginning of the year we had several problems but for the last four months, i felt we had got things back on track, and that he loved me and we were trying for a baby. He said he hasnt been happy for months but all i can say is that he put on a very good act if thats the case
I am obviously so depressed and upset about this but to be honest, I am more worried that he will get in touch with me in a day or two and say - i didnt mean it, i was just shocked about the baby ... lets carry on. But i just cant forget those awful things he has said to me and what he has put me through since last wednesday. I keep thinking i am trapped in a very bad nightmare.
sorry for the long post but i dont have many friends i can confide in. I have spoke to my sister who has said i am better off with out him but if he comes back to me all upset and apologising (we dont live together at mo) - i am not sure i can be strong enough to go it alone but i dont want to risk this happening again. How can you forgive and forget when someone has treated you so badly ?
Posted previously ... Yesterday i was on cloud 9 !! My oh was home really late last night so i didnt tell him the good news till this evening ....
i knew he didnt want this pregnancy as much as i did (hes 10 years older than me and already has a child of 15) but i wasnt expecting what i got tonight ....
i told him the news and he was ok about it sort of ... wasnt over the moon but i expected that .... then he sat down and said its bad timing coz tonight was going to be the time he was going to tell me he didnt feel the same about us .... and hasnt done for a little while ....
can you imagine how i feel now ?? i honestly expected him to be nonchalant about my news but i feel like i have been smacked in the face.
we have had some problems over the last few months but i thought things were going ok .... obviously not. he hasnt said that he wants us to definetely split up but says if i hadnt had given him the news tonight, then this might have been going to happen ....
i have wanted this baby for so long and he says that we have to stay together coz of that now anyway but i didnt want him to be feeling like this. i love him so much but want him to feel the same about me ... which he says he doubts ....
we have been together a long long time and he says he has only just started feeling like this ... i hope we can work it out but after talking to him tonight, he just didnt seem like the same person i have known all these years. i wonder if the baby news has just sent him over the edge ....
i am hoping that when the news has sunk in tonight/tomorrow that he might apologise abit and say that its just the shock of it happening etc .....
need some baby bump hugs tonight thats for sure ....