birth certificate

[hopefully85]

hello im 36 weeks now & im wondering about the birth certificate

if his name is on it as the father what does this entitle him to do? i know it gives him rights & responsibilites but what exactly does this mean?

 

[JA1988]

It gives him equal parental responsibility so can make decisions about religion, school and medical issues. He could also apply for a passport and a bank account/savings acc and if he is named as father then if he took baby or did not return baby after a visit, he would have just the same rights as you and you would have to apply to courts for an emergency residency order to get baby back. I would say wait and then add his name at a later date if you are unsure right now, easier to add than remove.

 

[amotherslove]

i wouldnt add it. i dont plan to add FOB's i intend to tell the doctor at the time that i don't know who the father is just yet if i have to.

 

[emf81]

An issue to be very wary on. I initially wanted his name on - he's the father bla bla bla but since then reading other people's problems I don't want him on there. It also means if at some point you want to change baby's last name you have to get written permission from him!! Grrrr men x

 

[babybambi2011]

im really struggling to accept that i have to go through my ex with everything to do with my daughter. he doesnt really see her yet he has the right to say no to me changing her name! i saw leave it till later.

 

[Snowball]

I've really struggled with this as FOB used his PR over our other 3 children against me when he left so with Louie I've had issues. It's worth noting though that if you are married and you don't put them on then they can then cite you for adultery, get a DNA and have their name on there regardless.

 

[Kacie]

I would wait, not put it on for now and as others say, it can be added later.

I've had absolutely terrors and anxiety over this as, when I left, FOB got more nasty then I ever dreamed he could be and I got so worried that he was gonna get a passport for LO and just not give her back after each visit (still worries me). So I applied for the passport myself and was very relieved when he gave me her birth certificates back (including copies) without even realising!

Anyway main point is.. if he wants to be on the BC, he can apply to court to be put on there and then he'll have the same rights as u.. however, as soon as you go to court u can also apply to have full residency so that the risk of him keeping LO after a visit is reduced. So I'd leave it off for now and deal with all of that if it comes to it.

xx

 

[teal]

It's left blank on my son's birth certificate. Where I am, he can only be added if he's present when you're registering the birth so I didn't have a choice. I got really upset registering him on my own but the girl was lovely and said this way I have him all to myself

 

[Mummy2Liam]

Please, don't add his name.

If my little boy's father wasn't on the birth certificate then I wouldn't currently be dragged through the courts.

I'm pregnant again and he will not be going near the birth certificate. I'm not just protecting myself, I'm protecting the baby.

 

[Lemonflower]

Good thread! I don't think I'll be putting FOB on the birth certificate, he is already threatening me for joint custody - even though I've told him he can see LO regulary!
xx

 

[Mally01]

What about men that disappear now at an early stage and you don't know if you'll ever see or hear from them again? Is it a risk because even someone like that can someday change their mind and want to be in the kids life? I can't see my recent ex wanting to be involved at all in my LO's life but I want child support so want to put his name on the Birth Cert. People keep telling me that even someone who is freaked out about being a father and buggers off can come forward later on to see the baby.Don't believe that myself.

 

[littlelinnies]

I didnt put my ex on my sons birth cerf, im so glad i didnt hes a useless father, if you have any doubts dont do it! u can always add it at a later date if he proves himselfx

 

[littlelinnies]

What about men that disappear now at an early stage and you don't know if you'll ever see or hear from them again? Is it a risk because even someone like that can someday change their mind and want to be in the kids life? I can't see my recent ex wanting to be involved at all in my LO's life but I want child support so want to put his name on the Birth Cert. People keep telling me that even someone who is freaked out about being a father and buggers off can come forward later on to see the baby.Don't believe that myself.

you can get csa without putting hes name on the birth cerficate.

 

[louloubelle76]

I want be putting my ex on the birth cert, he hasnt even bothered with me since being pregnant so not giving him the rights just like that

 

[ange30]

I won't be putting fob on birth certificate either , I will be going to CSa though , he can kick up as much fuss as he wants x