Bridesmaids...

[Serene123]

Everyone knows we're going to be planning our wedding soon I'm not quiet about it because I'm excited. Now every Dick and Harry is asking to be a bridesmaid. I know who I want to be bridesmaids, how do you tell people they can't be??

 

[Vici]

People are asking to be BM? Thats terrible! I'd never dream of asking anyone if i could be their BM and i know if someone asked me, they'd be bottom of my list!!

Have you picked who you do want? If so, just tell those rude people who are askign that you have already chosen your ladies x

 

[Serene123]

Yes, all family members apart from my MOH and everyone knows my best friend will be my MOH. I just say "no, only family are bridesmaids." They full on get the hump though!! I can't have 500 bridesmaids!!

 

[Vici]

I'm still shocked people actually have the cheek to ask - i can't believe it

 

[honeybee2]

just say "thankyou for wanting to be supportive for me on my big day but i have already chosen my maids!" i cant believe they asked either. One girl who is NOT my BM anymore asked when we were dress shopping if her little girl could be flowergirl because she would look cute in a dress!!!! she made the whole day about her so i dumped her!!

 

[Serene123]

My sister even had words with me about how her friend has known me for ages and will be gutted if she isn't a BM....

 

[honeybee2]

oh crap! its our wedding...its about us not other peoples feelings. i hate that!!

 

[Serene123]

Have you ever had the, "but you were going to be one of mine," line?

 

[honeybee2]

yes! yes yes!!!

Ive asked bridesmaids simply because they just HAD to be asked, it was expected...let me explain......

I have a 20 yr old sister with a 1 year old daughter and also a 7 year old sister and a 23 year old close cousin, so they HAD to be asked simply because they're family and I cant have just one sister without the other and my mum would be heartbroken if my neice (her grandaughter) and 7 year old sister couldnt be all gorgeous & cute in their dresses.

I wasnt actually going to have flower girls but because of that, now I have 3!!


as for the others....

I had to ask my best mate from school because her boyfriend and brother is best mates with my fiance and best men & ushers, I had to ask my old housemate because we're very close, I also had to ask my closest & best friend at uni (and all round just amazing person to me) simply because it wasnt even a second thought....but then I had to ask her 7 year old daughter to be flower girl because she's at the wedding anyway and i see her all the time.

So now Ive ended up with 5 adults & 3 flower girls!!!!


Ive also dumped 2 BM's before hand because they were making it about them or just being uninterested! so i had 7 big ones before that!

 

[MissMummyMoo]

I had someone do this to me too!

A girl I was quite friendly with said 'can I be your bridesmaid?' I was so shocked I just kind of nodded

In the end I never saw her for 5 months and we never really spoke about it so it was kind of never mentioned again

She was due to get married in July and never asked me but I wouldn't have dreamt about asking her if I could be one ... didn't really matter anyway as her OH called it off as he had an anonymous letter about her shenanigans!

Just say to them you have already choose your bridesmaids x

 

[honeybee2]

oh my gosh!!! her shennigans? poor girl!!!! I mean i know its bad but thats horrific lmao!!

I had a friend who is alot bigger than me and she was lovely but because of her weight she'd put me down in front of others to make herself feel better. Also she was never interested in my wedding and always had it against me because she liked my finace before we got together (i had no clue) it all sounds very childish but of course she is, and when i called her about a problem her reply was "i really dont care" ...so i dumped her, and our friendship!

 

[Serene123]

Caitlyn will be flower girl. My best friend will be MOH. My sister, Rich's sister and my niece will be bridesmaids. It really isn't going to be open to discussion. They all fit together nicely and they're all the people who actually make an effort with us and are in our lives regularly! x

 

[FierceAngel]

we're having this too but my issue is family! they think because they are family they are entitled!!

my moh will be my best friend of 16 years and now i have at least 5 bm!!!

 

[MissMummyMoo]

oh my gosh!!! her shennigans? poor girl!!!! I mean i know its bad but thats horrific lmao!!

I had a friend who is alot bigger than me and she was lovely but because of her weight she'd put me down in front of others to make herself feel better. Also she was never interested in my wedding and always had it against me because she liked my finace before we got together (i had no clue) it all sounds very childish but of course she is, and when i called her about a problem her reply was "i really dont care" ...so i dumped her, and our friendship!

Yeah she had a hot tub part for her hen party and she had the hot tub guy xx

 

[honeybee2]

ye i know what you mean- all my BMs are very supportive & patient with me. Plus they all know & get on with my OH well & are important to our lives!

 

[honeybee2]

oh my gosh!!! her shennigans? poor girl!!!! I mean i know its bad but thats horrific lmao!!

I had a friend who is alot bigger than me and she was lovely but because of her weight she'd put me down in front of others to make herself feel better. Also she was never interested in my wedding and always had it against me because she liked my finace before we got together (i had no clue) it all sounds very childish but of course she is, and when i called her about a problem her reply was "i really dont care" ...so i dumped her, and our friendship!

Yeah she had a hot tub part for her hen party and she had the hot tub guy xx

OH MY GOSH!!!!!

 

[Serene123]

Noway!!

 

[MissMummyMoo]

Noway!!

Yesway!

She even had them come to the house 2 weeks later (1 week before the wedding when her OH was on his stag do) after a night out in town and wanted me to stay with her as they were bringing friends round Needless to say I went home and left her to it! She had me talking on the phone to them and they were saying the were going to f*** us and all sorts. I put the phone down and walked out of her house!

 

[Serene123]

That's a joke!!!

 

[MissMummyMoo]

I wish it was! OH couldn't believe it when I told him and barred me from going over her house again Haven't really spoke to her much since. She text me on the Monday saying the wedding was called off and the wedding was the following Sunday.

I phoned to find out why and she said her OH had recieved an anonymous letter about the hot tub guys and apprently she was having an affair with another guy on their estate oh yeah as well as doing coke. She never really denied any of it to me but I know the hot tub and coke thing was right so I expect the other guy was right too!

She went on their honeymoon alone and she still lives with him now but don't think they're getting married xx