Broody and ready to TTC but OH not there yet... Anyone else?

[ttc_lolly]

Hi ladies haven't used the boards in a while but I've been feeling so overwhelmingly broody lately I thought where better than to come and chat/vent/ramble about it all!?

So as the title says really... Anyone else currently in the same situation? I'm just holding out hope really that he does come around/change his mind, I know his feelings mostly stem from how difficult our youngest was for the first 7 months (shes still a lot of hard work now actually, so can't blame him!), so hoping time will be the great healer and he'll agree to start ttc soon.

 

[SarahLou372]

Hi there I know how your feeling

Im wanting to ttc for out first baby but OH doesn't seem to be ready. We discuss it the other night about ttc in May 2014 but he has changed is mind and said he is in to much debt and he wants it to be right when a baby arrives. I have PCOS so I find it hard to cope and im extremely broody right now to. But I suppose with my fertility not being so good it gets me down. My OH is 30 next birthday (February 2014)

 

[lucy_smith]

I'm in a similar position, we could be ready, we are financially stable, I am sooo broody but bf isn't ready to ttc our first yet. We are hoping to build our own home end of next year so maybe that's what is putting him off :/

 

[ttc_lolly]

I'm glad I'm not alone, but at the same time I'm sorry there are others in this frustrating situation

SarahLou - that's tough I'm back on here after taking a break and tracking my cycles as I have pcos too and last time we were ttc I was being referred to a fertility specialist but ended up treating myself with natural stuff and luckily conceived, but it took almost a year and it scares me we'll go through all that again. On the other hand, it may not and we could conceive really quickly this time so can't use that as an argument to start trying ASAP I hope he changes his mind x

Hi Lucy :wave: has he said that's the reason why he's not ready? It is difficult in that kind of situation, do you have room for a baby now where you're currently living? We are buying somewhere much bigger and move in end of Jan and I think that hasn't helped my broodiness because now I know we have the extra space and we'll finally be settled too. My OH never mentioned how many kids he wanted when we started out getting serious, tbf I made no mention of it either. It's only after our youngest that he's adamant he only wants the 2, but our youngest was hard work in the first 6 months, she still can be actually, so I think she's kinda put him off anymore! He says he just wants to get our lives back now and concentrate on us and our girls, but I hate the finality of it all I dunno, maybe I'm crazy I just really feel like I need another baby. And I definitely don't want 4 kids so I know this will be the last... But he also thinks I won't stop wanting more if he lets me have another

 

[lucy_smith]

We live in a 3 bed flat, with a nice garden . so plenty of space for now so space isn't a problem! He just says he isn't ready , but won't say what it is in particular. So its a waiting game for me
U never no, he may come round to the idea once you move! Fingers crossed

 

[ttc_lolly]

That's strange... He won't go into it anymore? Maybe he's just not "ready", but to that I say who ever is ready to have a child!? You're not really ready until baby's sat there in front of you and you can't do much more than be ready then

I'm hoping he will. Space wasn't a problem before mind, we are in a 3 bed house but it's rented. I'm hoping that with our own house he might feel a bit more secure probably me being too optimistic though!