can i actually avoid giving my baby a dummy?

[lucy_x]

Iv got this far without one!.
But im starting to question myself, I only ever offer my little finger when i want her to sleep, and as we co sleep this isnt a problem.
Its just everyone is always having a go as she doesnt like to be put down STILL!. im perfectly happy not putting her down. im kinda hoping she will grow out of it, she is only 10weeks.

But if i gave her a dummy will i be able to put her down, or is she just high maintenence, will she grow out of wanting my lap?

 

[HannahGraceee]

Noooo Dont do it! i forced a dummy on ava at 3 months and still has one

 

[Tacey]

Alice never took to a dummy, I was happy rocking her to sleep. We cosleep though, so that makes it easier!

 

[Ju_bubbs]

I gave my eldest a dummy, coz i thought it'd save a bit of time when putting him down, and yes, it did save about 5-10 minutes of rocking or what ever.. but getting rid of that bloody dummy again was a nightmare! He was even still having it when he came home from school at 4-5, I had to 'accidently' drop it out the car window one day, then put up with weeks of tantrums! Needless to say, Ive never loked at a dummy since

 

[special_kala]

tell the people who are having a go at your about not putting your baby down to shut it tbh River hated being put down but grew out of it eventually and is now the most independant 11 month old ive ever seen. We go to soft play and she will happily walk to with kids twice her age and not look back.

To me having a dummy isnt something to just shove in their mouth to keep them quite its a soother so for when they sleep. If your baby is crying when you put her down she needs you not a dummy.

River has a dummy but only at bedtime. It doesnt even leave the room. We will be taking it from her before she is 2 hopefully but it doesnt really matter as its in her mouth for 10 minutes max a day. Also I didnt plan on giving River a dummy she was the sort of baby who had a very strong suck reflex so we gave her one.

My niece never had a dummy, she just didnt want one and she has always slept fine.

 

[New2Bumps]

Just dont give one. She doesn't want to be put down because she prefers it with mummy! I always rocked Ethan to sleep (put him down before he'd properly gone off at least once a day though) and when he was about 4 months he just went down by himself awake, so please don't listen to all of these people who say you're making a rod for your own back by rocking baby!
Ethan was quite colicky so we gave him a dummy at about 4 weeks old to see if it would help. He liked it but never really took to it. He had it in the night to go back to sleep and then spat it out after 5 mins, so we just didn't give it to him again after about 3 weeks. He didn't miss it.
He's always been a great sleeper. Even now. So they don't need a dummy to sleep.

 

[lucy_x]

thnkyou so much girls! you have restored my faith in my parenting once again!

 

[Seraphim]

People will always find something to comment on which will make you question yourself.

You might find LO will take the decision out of your hands though.

I didn't want to give a dummy, then I was desperate for her to find some comfort and she wouldn't take one I'm relieved now, it does seem like it only delays a bit of upset/attention, but it's something only you can decide

 

[HannahGraceee]

thnkyou so much girls! you have restored my faith in my parenting once again!

you dont need a dummy to comfort your princess if she wants to people cuddled that her comfort your doing wonderfully. Just ignore the people who are saying she needs to be put down x xx

 

[NG09]

I don't give my baby a dummy, to get him to sleep I just rock him for a short time then put him in his basket, he usually gets off to sleep himself no prob.

 

[HannahGraceee]

If you do what to put her down while she's asleep, the best thing i ever did, was get something i had worn so it had my scent all over it, say a top from the day before or my pillow case, and wrap it on her moses basket like its a sheet, this way she feels like shes still on you if you know what i mean, cos she can still smell you x which gives her comfort x

 

[~NEL~]

My son is just over 3 months now and I haven't gave him a dummy, my family are fine with it but its just the inlaws are always like give him a dummy, you wont have 2 rock him 2 sleep all the time. But 2 be honest im quite happy rocking him 2 sleep, it gives me comfort and were spending that peaceful time together at the end of the day.

 

[HannahGraceee]

^^ i still rock ava to sleep x

 

[lucy_x]

the thing is, they dont want me to give her a dummy either, they just expect her to cry her self to sleep. i dont think so!..
as far as i see it, in a few months time she will want her independance, im not going to make my little girl have it too early, so im enjoying the cuddles while it lasts!

 

[~NEL~]

I think i will continue 2 rock my LO to sleep as long as he needs 2 be. Sometimes i wouldnt mind him self settling but it doesnt really matter either wasy. I enjoy cuddle time.

 

[Pearl_vincent]

I tried to give my LO (6 mos.) a dummy but he doesn't want it, I use my breast to feed him lying down and he falls asleep. we co-sleep too.

 

[Gingerspice]

I think if you;ve got this far then I wouldn't introduce one. Most babies loose their really strong suck reflex at 3-4 months, and then don't need so much sucking as they have more control of other actions so this one reflex is no longer so prevalent.
I didn't want to introduce a dummy - but we had such bad colic episodes the only way to attempt to sooth them and get them to sleep was to give them a dummy and then rock them firmly, with white noise. I have no idea how that all seemed calming though as it sounds like torture to me given it really was firm rocking and quite loud white noise. I only coped because we did use the dummy so I don't think they're a bad thing - but I think they can be easily abused. We try to only use it for sleep, and have done that from 4 months as I think they can get used to needing it 24/7 and would make it harder to then take away.

 

[Celesse]

My LO doesn't do dummy's even though we have tried almost every type out there. Instead she prefers mummy to come and lie down with her whilst she is asleep and comfort suck the boobie. This includes nap time.

 

[Pickles77]

My little girl has a dummy and she doesn't want to be put down. So I don't think a dummy has anything to do with it. Sometimes they just want to be held. And while its not always convenient for me to hold her all the time, I am trying to enjoy it, because she's not going to be this small forever!

 

[LolaAnn]

my bub has never had a dummy nor been rocked to sleep etc?? you don't have to pick one or the other