Shellyvet2007
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Is there any smiley that shows more anger then a growl mad.
I have had it up to here with my OH sisters (or my sister in laws - but they ARE SO NOT MY SISTERS).
Me and OH have been married now for 6 years and for 6 years I have had to put up with their crap, and have been kowtowing to them trying to keep the peace among us for the sake of my OH as well as his mum. But this is the last straw.
Basically the back ground info is that during my degree course i got pregnant in my third year of school. Me and my other half got married. Prior to this I had no contact with his family at all except for on one two occasions where I met his mum (so I had no idea what I was getting into).
Anyway, his mum graciously agreed to help watch my son so I could finish the degree course. Which was great and also the start of the bane of my existence.
Since the day they entered my life they have been hell. OHs mum and his two sisters have repeatedly tried to take control of my son, usurped my role as his mother, as well as just plain out say they think I am a horrible mother and dont deserve him. On one occasion the *^*%* had the gull to say to me that I never wanted my son anyway... wtf.
There has been major blow outs between us every 1 to 2 years where I can not take there crap anymore and say we are having nothing to do with them anymore, but someone they always weasle there way back in by playing on my OH's emotions as well as the fact that my OH sees them as a way to save money on child care while I was at school and then work.
On one major blow out I said I was dropping out of school because I couldn't take them anymore, in a bid to keep me in school so I could get my degree my husband put LO into care but that only lasted 6 months, then my dad came over for 3 months. At the end of that my husband said he couldn't get a place and sent him back to his mum.
On the last occasion we moved (closer to other family for help), I worked nights full time so I could be home during the day, and tried to minimize there time with my LO. Which seemed to work very well, occasionally they would pick him up for school, but I had him most of the time.
Anyway, my LO2 was born 8 weeks ago and at the same time LO1 has been off school. They have asked for him every weekend, saying they wanted him to enjoy his summer hols and knew it would be hard with the new baby.
All I asked was that they ask me before they make plans so I can decide.
Anyway, It got ridicoulus and at one stage they wanted him 3 times in the week, and always brought him home late. On Sunday we went over for dinner with his mum, and as soon as I walked in the house they started changing his clothes saying they were going out for a picnic with auntie. WTF. I said no as no one asked me first, plus it was a cloudy drizzling day, and my dad who was visiting from the states was leaving in 48 hours and wanted him to spend as much time with him before he left.
They had a fit. THe one sister actually had the audacity to say that the last time we had an argument they didn't see him for 6 months. SO WHAT??? He ain't your kid, and my dad hasn't seen his grandchild for a year.
Except it gets worse.
The one auntie who always wants to take him out, had such a tizzy over it she called social services complaining that we neglect our son. WTF. If anything I spoil my son, and love him to bits. I would do anything for him, even give my own life for his happiness. But it is even more absurd what the things she said were problems
1.) That when he is at school he doesn't eat his lunch. WTF. Do I have any control over this anyway. And he always eats his sandwich.
2.) That we don't feed him when he comes home. Let me just state that I don't get along with my SIL's so much they have NEVER been in my home, so that wouldn't have any idea what happens when my LO comes home from school. He is a picky eater but i feed him appropriatley. I actually feed him better then they do, as all they ever want to feed him is pasta.
3.) That we just had a new baby and he is neglected because he feels left out. WTF... should we be like China and only be allowed one child as it is now neglect to have two.
Luckily, the social worker who took the call thought the caller was a bit of a wackadoodle... and didn't take it very seriously, but said it was her job to contact us and offer help anyway.
ARRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I just want to scream.
I feel bad about it though, as they both are unmarried 40+ year old women who still live with their mum. They will never have kids of their own, and would of like to be able to have a relationship with them. But they have become way to attached to a child which isn't theirs, and have overstepped some major boundries which I can no long and will no longer ignore.
They are certiantly no welcome around my LO anymore unless I am present, and I feel even that in this instance is generous.
I guess I also feel bad, as my OH's elderly mum is bullied by them as well, and she is going to miss seeing her grandchildren as I highly doubt that they would be accepting of her coming her to see them at my house, and that is the only way I see her having a relationship with her grandchild as I am certiantly not sending my children over there alone after this.
There is so much more to this story, SO MUCH MORE, accept I wanted to make it short.
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
