Can two people safely co-sleep on a queen bed?

[F0xybabe]

My best friend (who is also a mother) is coming over to spend the night this weekend and I co-sleep with my little girl, I've never put her in her crib before and I don't really want to start! But I don't really have an extra place for my friend to sleep, do you think we could both sleep on my bed with my baby? My best friend co-slept with her little girl so I know she's aware when there's a baby in the bed.. but I'm not sure that the "awareness" stays when it's not your own baby??

I'll probably end up finding a way to have her sleep somewhere else. I dont feel comfortable making my baby sleep in her crib yet hehe

 

[hubblybubbly]

Personally I wouldn't bed share with a friend and willow, especially at your Los age, she was aware of her own baby but may not be of yours and that's not worth it in my opinion for the sake of one night. (and I do bed share with willow, and daddy so I'm defo not against bed sharing with more than one adult, but I do believe it takes a long time to develop awareness and pattern sharing)

Could you make up a bed on the floor?

 

[F0xybabe]

Personally I wouldn't bed share with a friend and willow, especially at your Los age, she was aware of her own baby but may not be of yours and that's not worth it in my opinion for the sake of one night. (and I do bed share with willow, and daddy so I'm defo not against bed sharing with more than one adult, but I do believe it takes a long time to develop awareness and pattern sharing)

Could you make up a bed on the floor?

I could, but it def wouldn't be comfy! Do you think she would mind sleeping on the couch? I just feel bad that she would have to sleep somewhere uncomfortable because I dont want to put my baby in the bed that was made for her

 

[Sproglet]

Could you get a bed guard and let LO sleep between you and the guard so not next to your friend? That's what I did as Oh is a deep sleeper and I didn't feel right with Robyn next to him when she was little.

 

[hubblybubbly]

Meh if it was my friend that wanted t bed share with her baby, I'd happily sleep on the couch whether hugely comfy or not, baby safety comes first.

 

[F0xybabe]

The bed guard thing is pretty smart! It would come in handy too as I'm sure I'll need it when she's older and in a toddler bed.. hmmm

 

[missk1989]

I would either get a guard, which we find very useful anyway or ask her to sleep on the couch. That's where our visitors usually sleep and noone has ever complained.

 

[MindUtopia]

Size-wise, yes. My husband and I co-sleep with our daughter in a double (though he now mostly sleeps on a mattress on the floor because it's not that comfortable). You can definitely fit, but it will be very cosy for your friend! My husband pretty much gets pushed off the other side at night. Safety-wise, your friend won't be as aware as you that your baby is there. If you're having baby sleep on the outside, with a bed rail or co-sleeper attached to your bed, that probably won't be as much of an issue. I'd never put the baby in between the two of you though. That's not safe. It's not even safe with a dad who's used to doing it every night. More than anything though, your friend probably just would appreciate having her own space. Being woken up by a crying baby or you moving around to do feeds probably isn't going to mean she gets a great night of sleep. Why not put her on the sofa or have her bring an air mattress so she can have her own space and be more comfortable? I certainly wouldn't want to share a bed with a friend and her baby. If she's a mum herself, she'll probably appreciate a nice quiet night of sleep!

 

[Guppy051708]

two ppl can totally cosleep in a queen. Up until last week, actually, DH and i only ever owned a queen....

...with that said, if she is not a cosleeping mom (and maybe even that isn't enough), i would not recommend it bc as you said, she wont be aware of your LO and could roll over onto her. It's one thing if it's a partner and they are used to it, but if she isn't i would have reservations (which i think speaks volumes bc we always cosleep w our children). i would probably suggest the couch first.

 

[Kirsty1003]

We co sleep in a double with izzy, like others have said get a guard of some sort, what we do is push the cotto the edge of the bed so she can't roll off then I sleep in the middle, oh at the other side! I definitely think itsfeasible but I also dont think she would mind sleeping on the couch

 

[Seity]

We have a queen bed and we have a side sleeper attached for the baby. Just moved him to his crib a week ago although I still have the sleeper there for early am feeds. A guard rail would work perfectly fine. We've had all 4 of us in the queen bed together no problem.

 

[icklemonster]

I certainly wouldn't mind sleeping on the couch if visiting friends with children, in fact I'd probably expect it. I also think I'd get a better night's sleep on a couch than in bed with a baby I'd be worried about rolling onto xxx

 

[Emz1982_in_uk]

Baby should never go in the middle of two people so if baby is on the outside with a guard and you in the middle then it should be fine. But like others have said the person on the other side normally gets squashed like my husband ha ha so might be comfier for her on the sofa.

 

[EmmaRea]

Both hubby and I are vertically challenged so we sleep width-wise in our bed when we feel cramped!

 

[greenbeans12]

Honestly, I wouldn't do it. Your baby is only 3 months old and can easily be smothered or have a piece of the blanket get wrapped around her face. All it takes is one false move and your friend could roll on your LO. I co slept with my DD until she was 4 months old and never had issues but I would not ever do it with another person in the bed. It's too risky IMO.

 

[bumpbear]

She has no bond with your baby, so no, I would never share! I'm sure she'll be fine on the couch or on a campbed on your floor or something?

 

[F0xybabe]

She did sleep on the couch, and in fact she said she hasnt slept that well in forever!

 

[Guppy051708]

Glad it worked out so well!

 

[amotherslove]

I would not allow anyone else to sleep next to my daughter. I don't know how light or heavy they sleep. If they move in their sleep etc.. Not to mention they'd probably wake my LO as she's a light sleeper.

If I were staying with someone I would expect to sleep on the sofa.. That's normal to me. And don't feel bad because LO doesn't sleep in the bed that's "made for her". She sleeps where she's happy. Babys happiness and safety is always first.

 

[SarahBear]

I think if she co-slept, she'll be understanding if she has to sleep elsewhere.