Unexpected212
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I had gender dissapointment with my son. I had always seen myself with girls and never imagined having a boy. I had a feeling I was having a boy but when It was confirmed at my 16 week scan I felt so sad and down and was grieving for the little girl I thought I'd never have.
Of course over the rest of the pregnancy and when he was born I just fell completely and utterly and hopelessly in love with him. He is the sweetest little boy, he's always slept through the night, he eats great, he's incredibly intelligent and he's always been very affectionate. I couldn't ask for a better little man and as soon as he was in my arms I thought 'I wouldn't swap him for the world!'
Then we decided to try again and I was trying a girl sway. I got pregnant within a month but sadly had a very early miscarriage.
I then decided to stop girls swaying just incase I was doing something detrimental. Also because I just wanted to be pregnant. It wasn't about the gender anymore it was about the baby.
I'm mostly at peace with my gender dissapointment now. I really will be happy if it's a boy. But of course I would be ecstatic if it was a girl. I love the idea of one of each.
However people's comments are bringing my gender dissapointment back. Everyone I've told including friends and family keep saying 'I hope it's a girl' 'It better be a girl' EVERYONE
This makes me feel under pressure to produce the girl that I already really want. It also makes me feel like they will be dissapointed if it is another boy and that if it is another boy he won't be fussed over like my son was and everyone will just be like 'oh another boy'
Also my MIL who doesnt like me and knows I want a girl keeps saying 'I know it's a boy' just to wind me up!
Why do people have to make so many comments on the gender? Can't they just want a happy healthy baby for me?
I'm so greatful to be pregnant and just want a healthy baby at the end of it, but I feel like another boy will be a huge dissapointment to everyone else
The only people that don't really mind seem to be my mum and my husband.
Of course over the rest of the pregnancy and when he was born I just fell completely and utterly and hopelessly in love with him. He is the sweetest little boy, he's always slept through the night, he eats great, he's incredibly intelligent and he's always been very affectionate. I couldn't ask for a better little man and as soon as he was in my arms I thought 'I wouldn't swap him for the world!'
Then we decided to try again and I was trying a girl sway. I got pregnant within a month but sadly had a very early miscarriage.
I then decided to stop girls swaying just incase I was doing something detrimental. Also because I just wanted to be pregnant. It wasn't about the gender anymore it was about the baby.
I'm mostly at peace with my gender dissapointment now. I really will be happy if it's a boy. But of course I would be ecstatic if it was a girl. I love the idea of one of each.
However people's comments are bringing my gender dissapointment back. Everyone I've told including friends and family keep saying 'I hope it's a girl' 'It better be a girl' EVERYONE
This makes me feel under pressure to produce the girl that I already really want. It also makes me feel like they will be dissapointed if it is another boy and that if it is another boy he won't be fussed over like my son was and everyone will just be like 'oh another boy'
Also my MIL who doesnt like me and knows I want a girl keeps saying 'I know it's a boy' just to wind me up!
Why do people have to make so many comments on the gender? Can't they just want a happy healthy baby for me?
I'm so greatful to be pregnant and just want a healthy baby at the end of it, but I feel like another boy will be a huge dissapointment to everyone else
The only people that don't really mind seem to be my mum and my husband.