Cant take any more

[maybe11]

I ve had ten weeks of arguing. Been accused of cheating, babys not his (it is!), told to go to hell, wishes of baby coming to harm. I just cant take any more.
He wont move out.

I m so worn out and FED up of crying.

Loads of family and friend stuff going on so no one knows and I have no support.

Someone please tell me it ll get better and I ll be ok with my dd and lo.

 

[Lulu1982]

Sorry you're having a rough time

Is the house in both of your names? If you really wan to be apart maybe contact the housing office to see if they will help you move?

I'm sure both your little ones will give you more than enough love x

 

[Jims_Girl]

Oh god! Are you still having problems... Obvious question but has you sat and talked with each other? Or is everything rolling into one?
Whatever happens you will be more than ok!!

 

[Ellie Mary]

At the moment you need to surround yourself with people who love and support you. Chuck him out, you and your baby will be better off on your own. I really feel for you.

 

[bababel]

you and your lo will be fine without him. If he is making your life this miserable, you don't want your baby being exposed to it. Go stay with a friend or family member and give your relationship time and space. If he doesn't come around and start treating you better, wipe the slate clean and begin a new life without him. You and baby don't need poison in your lives. Best of luck!

 

[baskinps]

Take his shit and put it on the curb.

 

[BeachyBronzer]

Oh my God I thought i was having a shit day. Hang in there girl. If my fella behaved like that i'd pack his stuff up, put it out the front door and change the locks.
You need a break from that now.

 

[maybe11]

Oh god! Are you still having problems... Obvious question but has you sat and talked with each other? Or is everything rolling into one?
Whatever happens you will be more than ok!!

yep.... he wont talk to me. its a living hell.

 

[maybe11]

you and your lo will be fine without him. If he is making your life this miserable, you don't want your baby being exposed to it. Go stay with a friend or family member and give your relationship time and space. If he doesn't come around and start treating you better, wipe the slate clean and begin a new life without him. You and baby don't need poison in your lives. Best of luck!

I would but they ve got big problems of their own taht why I havent even told them.

 

[maybe11]

Oh my God I thought i was having a shit day. Hang in there girl. If my fella behaved like that i'd pack his stuff up, put it out the front door and change the locks.
You need a break from that now.

Unfortunatel, we privately rent and both names are on contract so I have no way to MAKE him go.

 

[gigglebox]

I could be wrong but I think you can break your end of the contract with the leasing office/person. Please look into that...or speak directly to the leaser and see what you can do. The last thing you and baby need is to be in a stressful environment. In the meantime, please keep record of any conversations you have, rude e-mails, voice mails, etc. All the fuel you can get will be helpful later if you have to sue the ******* for child support or have to fight for custody.

 

[BeachyBronzer]

Oh my God I thought i was having a shit day. Hang in there girl. If my fella behaved like that i'd pack his stuff up, put it out the front door and change the locks.
You need a break from that now.

Unfortunatel, we privately rent and both names are on contract so I have no way to MAKE him go.

Oh hun. Have you family or friends to go and maybe stay with for a short time? Even just a night away might help clear your head. Thinkin of u x

 

[maybe11]

I could be wrong but I think you can break your end of the contract with the leasing office/person. Please look into that...or speak directly to the leaser and see what you can do. The last thing you and baby need is to be in a stressful environment. In the meantime, please keep record of any conversations you have, rude e-mails, voice mails, etc. All the fuel you can get will be helpful later if you have to sue the ******* for child support or have to fight for custody.

I hadnt even thought about the fight for custody... I want to curl up and die.

 

[Jen_xx]

I don't have much advice, but I am so sorry you're going through this.

 

[gigglebox]

I could be wrong but I think you can break your end of the contract with the leasing office/person. Please look into that...or speak directly to the leaser and see what you can do. The last thing you and baby need is to be in a stressful environment. In the meantime, please keep record of any conversations you have, rude e-mails, voice mails, etc. All the fuel you can get will be helpful later if you have to sue the ******* for child support or have to fight for custody.

I hadnt even thought about the fight for custody... I want to curl up and die.

oh hun no!!! That wasn't my intention to make you feel that way right now it doesn't seem like he would put much of a fight up. And honestly, it's such a long time before baby is due, so many things can change. Right now I think the most important thing would be to remove yourself from the situation. Please stay strong for the life growing inside of you; someone has too!

also, something I've learned is that people who truly love you will never find you as a burden. You mentioned friends/family that may be able to help but had their own stuff going on; I'm sure you don't want to add to it but please realize that it's OK to need people's help, and it's OK to ask for it.

 

[Natilly20]

oh hun, im so sorry your going through this! I know exactly how you feel, I was in the same position as you with my first pregnancy (now a 2 1/2 year old boy!) My ex oh was a complete tos**r!!! He told me to get rid of the baby right from the start. He was a nasty piece of work, called me names and emotionally abused me. I eventually left him when my ds was 4 months old and it was the best thing I ever did! Extremely hard at the time though of course, even though they treat you like crap its still just as hard to walk away. I only wish I could turn back time and leave him at the very begining!

Im so happy now and am with someone who treats me like a princess and will have my second baby in about 20 weeks time!

I know none of the above will make you feel any better but it will all turn out for the best and you will be absolutely fine!!!!

 

[Jims_Girl]

I'm so so sorry you're still going through this shit! This man sounds like he's being a complete selfish twat! What is he trying to achieve - either he wants to be with you and his children; which means trusting and talking to you.... Or he doesn't; which means he needs to sod off so you can sort your life out with money etc..... He sounds like he's trying to punish you! What a twat - what sort of bloke would want that for his pregnant girlfriend....
I think if I were you I would get it straight in my head what I wanted... Do I want him? Do I love him? Do I want us? Not need, want! If you decide 'no' then you need to give him the opportunity to move out, but have up you sleeve what you can do if he doesn't move, wether it's private renting, emergency housing, living with parents.... But have a option so that when/if he says no, you will say "ok, I plan to be living else where in 2 months" etc....
If you decide you want him in your life, then he has to discuss the problems with you.... Wether you write your feelings and concerns in a letter or actually getting him to talk....

...the important thing is deciding what YOU WANT... not waiting for him to decide.... And be empowered.... Find out your options... (citizens advice bureau?)

You'll get there.... Whatever happens... But make your life choices be your choice xxx

 

[tink30]

I really think you need to tell your family.. and move out and then sort it with the letting agent or landlord.. get some friends around to pack up yr stuff... you could look into storage.. and then concentrate on getting yr own place xxx