Changed my mind about a christening :)

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So I was starting to actually think maybe I did want a christening and when I went down to see my family this weekend I asked their opinion and WOW I didn't realise how big a tradition it was in my family!

Basically there is this family church which is VERY dear to me as my Dad is buried there and all my aunts have gotten married there and I just found out them and all their kids were christened there too!! Well I obviously have always ALWAYS wanted to get married there, not only for the family history but also cos I feel like my Dad would be there you know? BUT you can only get married there if you are christened (which I am not) and I simply WOULD NOT get married anywhere else!! So I was thinking ok I wanna be christened then seeing as I was raised a christian anyway and even though I'm not the most religious person I like a lot of what the bible teaches when you think about it in metaphors rather than like 'this ACTUALLY happened'. Also you can only be buried there if you've been christened too.. just an afterthough really seeing as I wanna be cremated but thought it was interesting. So basically I was like well what if Evie wants to be married in a church and what not, saves her doing it later in her life and if she ever wanted to convert to a different religion I would still be behind her but it's like giving her a starting point and somewhere to learn some good lessons from you know?

AND THEN my aunt was telling me about my cousin's school which is like the best in the area, but it's a church of england school and you HAVE to be christened to go there!

I never realised how much of an impact it would have being christened, just thought it was something people did for the party lol. And I wanted her to have proper official godparents too (people I'd already picked out but obvs it wouldn't have been official) and seeing as I wanna be baptised too how special would it be to be done with my baby girl?!

FOB was for a christening in the first place (although not for any real reason which is why I didn't really think about it) so he's up for it too.

Just thought I would share as I had NO IDEA that it could make a difference and thought it might help anyone who's undecided :thumbup:

Oh and the church does christenings for FREE. So aside from the party (which will only be in a hall or at a family members house) it won't cost a penny, whereas I thought they were mega expensive xxx
 
aww hun thats awesome and yes it does have a big big impact on alot of things 2 schools in my area you have to be christened to go too and same for getting married in the church and stuff i know alot of people who dont do it nowadays but i still think its lovely to do for your own kids and i will be for mine x
 
Wow there certainly is a lot you can do for just being christened. It sounds like you are doing it for good reasons though and will be quite a nice event. We are getting Daisy christened at my OH's family church. There is no family history at the church apart from that is where he and his brother were christened. I do not go to church but I think it is really sweet how there is so much family history behind one building. My family aren't really religious and I haven't been brought up that way but it means so much to my OH's family (some of them will be flying in from Italy!) that I couldn't say no. Also it will get her into good schools...
 
:haha: good conclusion!! plus it'll be like her family all together :) xx
 
It's a lovely idea :)

& it's free so even better!
I am thinking about christening my LO, my OH doesn't really mind either way but you've made me want one now! :haha:
 
It will be a nice way to introduce your little girl to your dad too iykwim. I'm planning on taking my LO to where my dad's ashes are scattered quite regularly because we all went there as kids and it's a beautiful place whe LO can run around.
 
It will be a nice way to introduce your little girl to your dad too iykwim.

Yes! I totally hadn't thought of it like that but YES! Another reason :)
And also, in terms of the party/celebration thing, I honestly think it will be the one and only time both sides of her family are in the same place. FOBs family won't be bothered enough to come to birthday partie's and such (my fam will probs be the ones throwing them :haha:) and there won't be many of them left by the time it's her wedding, which would be the only other thing they'd go to. And they'd only go to a christening/wedding cos it's pretty formal so you pretty much have to if you're related lol.

I'm a bit unsure about FOBs friends though, they are complete pricks and if I were him I'd be embarassed to even bring them to something so special as my child's christening, but I'll be inviting my friends so I can't tell him not to invite his :( I guess I'll just say to him that it is completely up to him if he invites them but that if they cause ANY trouble whatsoever I will be holding him responsible.. he'll probably think they will cause trouble and then hopefully not invite them lol

Aaaaaaaaaah christening :happydance: I'm quite excited now!

Oh does anyone if the godparents have to be christened? That was another reason I'm being christened is cos I have to be to have her christened there (hopefully FOB won't come into the picture as we're not together cos he wasn't and wouldn't) but I didn't know if the Godparents have to have been christened. I hope not!! xxx
 
With godparents it usually comes down to the vicars discression, he can decide to be lenient or harsh, I'm sure with your family history then he wont say no to you. Would your godparents be willing to get christened before the service to LO, I've known a few people to have done this and it's literally a 2 minute blessing before the main show so to speak.
 
We spoke to the vicar at my OH's church and he said that they don't have to be christened which is good as the two people we have in mind aren't!
 
When Aidan was christened the Godparents, or come to think of it me and OH weren't even asked if we were. Plus i didn't know you had to pay for christenings in some places?x
 
I've heard lots of people go on about how expensive they are but that's probs the people who wanna go all out on the party and stuff I guess. Don't see how it could cost so much really! I'm planning to have it in the summer so we can have a big bbq, I always enjoy them more than indoor parties, plus we can put the bouncey castle up for all the kids :thumbup:

I think with the fam history they might be lenient with godparents. hope so! I don't know if they would.. possibley but I would hate asking them to cos I think it's a very personal thing and would be a bit selfish to ask them to do that just for me and bubs.. but I don't know! Deal with that when we come to it I guess xxx
 
My chritening is going to work out expensive but only cos of the food and drink as oh has a big family so we have about 80 people coming, as far as I know god parents do as I had to to be godparent for my friends son.
 

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