Claiming lo for tax purposes

[jaytee146]

I was contacted by fob valentine's day to vist lo.. he comes over and tries to snuggle up with me.. tell him to back off and it's never gonna be that way.

He gets up set and leaves my home, before he leaves he tells me he goes to file his taxes, and the tax preparer pleads with him for him to file "head of house hold" and list our child as he is paying child support and it's his legal right. I tell him through the door, remembering how big of a blow up this was like 6 months ago. You can't claim her, she stays full time with me... he says i know but I can still put her down and I will be regonized as another care giver... my response... chris you don't care for your child.. you don't keep her ask, to keep her nor has she stayed the night at your home... his response it's all your fault!!! and he leaves.. he calls me less than five minutes later asking again, and I say nothing.. he then starts sending me "messages" ment for his girlfriend saying o my bad... well the next day (Friday) he calls and ask for her social.. by this time I've gotten advice from a lawyer who informed me if he is behind, they (the state) Can take his tax return for back wages due to me. what fob was trying to do was claim lo, the money would be taken from him and given to me for back support owed. fob never said any of this.... When he called again I reminded him of the time he called me out my name, and went through my home in search of any document with lo's number on it.. back then he was claiming he wantedto sign her up for some type of insurance... when i brought it to his attention that i told him and he took documents from my home while he was suppose to be watching our child he cursed me out... this morning hecalls me with his girlfriend talking trash in the background and ask me again for the number.. i tld him he already had it and it's not gonna be given my me again. He starts calling me names, my lo hears her dad and grabs the phone in the mist of him calling me bitch..... I texed him pleading that he stops asking for her number and he started sending messages before i sent the first pleading with him. He called me names and blames me for him not being around during my pregnancy... I texted I guess I will see you in court, and then he calls tryin to explain his actions and how it's all my fault.... then he says well tell my baby i love her.... I hung up...

I reallllllllllllllly wanna change my cell phone number,as he and his girlfriend are still playing on my phone. I think it's so sickening of him to walk around saying of Jess I love you but as soon as I tell him I want nothing to do with him he stops coming to see our lo, aside from family events where he wants to show her off like a trophy... I know this is gonna get ugly before it gets better. I'd rather have him to call my mom to check on lo than to call me... also i don't want him coming over to my house any more.

 

[Danie1stbaby]

omg he is am pure ass smh I know this may be hard because it is hard for me in my situation~ The best way to get even with people like that and while saving your sanity,is to distance yourself.He does not care about your child's well-being right now,so until or if he matures save her the disappointment and heartbreak.Yes we all want the fob to be in our lo's life but we could be saving that child from a lifetime of pain.Some men are just good as donors and others are great as fathers/husbands....sometimes those men in our lives are two different men...and that is life.I am taking my own advice right now,it hurts because I still have to look at my baby and remember what he has done to me and her..yet I never felt so damn free not being in contact with that man.I am sure I will call to curse his slack a** out one day and then again maybe I will not.Save yourself the time and energy and put into molding that beautiful little human into a great adult.We will make it!

 

[jocelynmarie]

As far as I'm aware, unless you have an agreement with the courts about sharing, you're entitled to claim her every year.

My OH has joint custody and gets to claim his son every other year, but thats issued through the courts.