Co-Bathing?

[Eskimobabys]

Sorry im popping over early hahah but,

i saw this story else where wondering ur take?

someone found out a family member of hers was bathing with her LO when she was babysitting..now mother doesnt AT ALL think there was anything "creepy" going on, but just the fact that she didnt feel comfortable she brought it up & she told the Family member it made her uncomfortable and they freaked out on her and basically said as a family member, they had a right..so what are your thoughts?

 

[Raven24]

personally if it made her uncomfortable then the family member should respect that, no one has a right to do anything with your child without your consent

 

[moomin_troll]

my oh has baths and showers with zane all the time and zane loves it as he wants to do everything like his daddy, its really cute.
Once when my sister had zane sleeping over, zane decided he was going to be scared of bathrooms so my bil (with shorts on) jumped in the bath with zane n i had no problem with it but if the parent had a problem the person should respect that

 

[emmat79]

me and DH take lo in the bath with us, but we're his parents. I wouldn't be happy anyone else taking him in with them, family or not x

 

[CharlieP]

I wouldn't like anyone other than me and my husband bathing with our little one.

I agree that the family member should respect the mum's feelings on the matter.

 

[Buffy71]

Hmmm I know first hand that family can't necessarily be trusted, so apart from me and hubby, I wouldn't be keen on, or allow, anyone bathing with my lo.

I used to bath with my mum and dad (separately lol - that would be one big bath!) and I loved it. Great fun.

 

[Nats21]

I know that my family would always ask if they were babysitting and wanted to have a bath with LO, me personally I wouldn't mind any of my family members having a bath with Callum but I do think that a family member should ask beforehand xx

 

[Lara310809]

I dunno. If I or my OH bathed with her, that would be normal. It would be less normal if my parents, IL's or brothers bathed with her. I'm not sure how I would feel about it; I can see their reasons, that it's easier, and a nice thing to do, but it's not necessary, so I would probably mentally question it.. not sure I would actually say something though, unless it happened a second time.

 

[K1mberley]

Me & my OH have had a bath with Mason but dont think i would be too keen on a family member bathing with him especially if they didint ask!

 

[AP]

If it was me, well, id think it was out of order. Its a bonding thing imo, between parent and child.

I cried for days and days when OH took LO into her first bath (he was in swimming trunks) and OHs whole family came in an took pictures

(sorry i need to kinda break that wee bit down and say that it was a mega massive jacuzzi type thing in a lodge up north on holiday! Not your average bathroom!)

I was so broken hearted that her first time was shared with them when it should have been a bonding thing for OH and her(and me)

As a 'family member' they do NOT have rights about anything regarding LO. I cannot stand people who think they have 'rights' over a child thats not theirs, related or not

 

[moomin_troll]

i was with my oh when he and zane had a bath togther for the first time and i cried my eyes out as zane did his first real laugh.
its awful that ur inlaws took that away from u

thinking about it my little sister had a bath with zane also and i didnt blink an eye lid, but if it was someone like my mums bf id of gone nuts

 

[AP]

aw moomin i swear. I got a photo of LO in the bath a few months later in a christmas card, to tell you the truth I found it insulting,like it was a present!

All I can say is I got cuddles for more than 12 weeks before they even did so neh!

Na, if I found anyone but OH co-bathing it'd be a deal breaker for me. Just why on earth would someone do that, boggles my head

 

[moomin_troll]

aw moomin i swear. I got a photo of LO in the bath a few months later in a christmas card, to tell you the truth I found it insulting,like it was a present!

All I can say is I got cuddles for more than 12 weeks before they even did so neh!

Na, if I found anyone but OH co-bathing it'd be a deal breaker for me. Just why on earth would someone do that, boggles my head

id of gone nuts!
but guess im lucky as my inlaws dont really so emotions lol but the mil did try n give zane a drink of coke infront of me, i was about to shout when zane spit it out all over her lol

 

[Eskimobabys]

Hmmm I know first hand that family can't necessarily be trusted, so apart from me and hubby, I wouldn't be keen on, or allow, anyone bathing with my lo.

I used to bath with my mum and dad (separately lol - that would be one big bath!) and I loved it. Great fun.

Exactly! me and DH are the only ones allowed to bathed with my LO but my DH said he prolly wont bath with our LO. he would if we were having a boy. but either way i feel comfortable ONLY with my DH and i bathing with her.

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

I used to bathe with DD but have stopped now as she prefers to splash in the bath but if someone else other than me or OH bathed with her I would not be happy. Especially without asking.

 

[lemily]

When I was round at my mum's in the bath a few months back, she shouted through and asked if she could chuck my toddler sister (18 months at the time) in with me as she'd got mucky. I felt fine about it, and my sister even washed my hair for me! Head massage and all!

We've always been a very open family though to be honest, but I can totally understand how hurtful it would be without permission, or outside immediate family.

 

[mommyof3co]

I personally would not be ok with other family members bathing with the boys...at any age. We teach them about privacy and that me and daddy can see them naked but that's it, it's a safety thing. And while I"m sure with that situation there was nothing bad going on, and I don't think any of our family would EVER do something bad to the boys I trust them fully, the fact is most cases of molestation are done by family members or close family friends. So we have a rule that they don't undress, bathe or anything like that with other family, that stuff is private. Now if they were staying the night they could take a bath in front of grandma or whatever but not with....

 

[Blue_bumpkin]

Ive had baths with adam but im not sure how id feel on another family member bathing with him. Would depend on the family memeber i guess

 

[cleckner04]

DH and I have bathed with Emma. Now that Emma is old enough to be curious DH wears swim trunks or boxers in the bath with her. And I still bathe with her regularly. But I would never let a family member bathe with her.

 

[Vici]

Imi baths with Shaun and I all the time - its very hard to bath her in our bath without being in there as its a double bath!! If my mum or sisters were over here looking after her i also wouldn't worry if they did it. When she stays at my mums she always has a bath and its normally with my neices which is also fine. I'm not sure i understand the mentality between bathing (whether in or out of bath), changing bum, looking after) - they are all the same to me