Crazy! people are CRAZY!

[xSin]

So a mutual "friend" (I'd probably use the term "acquaintance" moreso) of mine and my OH who never even really LIKED me until she found out I was pregnant, is now suddenly asking for regular updates and today she said "Take pics of your bump and date them! I have to keep tabs on my baby! I mean your baby!"

....and I can't figure out if she's doing it to try to annoy me (since that's basically how our "friendship" works) or if she's genuine in wanting to be my friend now that we have something in common.

I actually have nothing against her ironically I just find it amusing that suddenly its like we're BFF's outta nowhere... LOL I hope it doesn't "progress" any further... its already verging on strange for me because she wants to give me breastfeeding tips (which I'll welcome when the time comes I'm sure) and I also want to pick her brain because she & her daughter do baby sign language which I'm REALLY interested in learning...

I'm just a bit wary I suppose. Seems odd to me the 'inconsistency' of people? I guess I shouldn't be all "Oh gawd she's being nice its so terrible" but I just am caught way off guard LOL

 

[Maviyildiz]

Hmm. Is she just an awkward person? I mean, maybe previously she didn't dislike you, but didn't know what to talk to you about, and now she has an idea? But I have met people like that. One friend of mine, who ended up being sort of a maid of honor at me wedding (an honorary maid of honor, if there is such a thing) used to ignore me, literally for years, until one day we found something in common and then suddenly she started emailing me long emails all the time, and even getting annoyed if she didn't hear from me often, and joking that she was jealous if I hung out with mutual friends without her, since I was her new BFF. I thought it seemed strange at first, but she has stuck by me for along time now and been a very loyal friend. She did amazing things to help my friends on a low budget get to my wedding after we decided to have it near my DH's parents, instead of near my friends and family. She has been incredible. Some people are just intense! On the other hand, it took me a long time to figure her out, and some people are going to be fake just because they want to hang out with your baby. It is hard to say!

 

[Sunshine12]

If you know 100% its only because you are pregnant then I wouldnt bother making any effort with her. If someone only wants to be friends with me because of my baby id rather they werent in my life at all. x

 

[taterbean]

It's possible that she just never knew how to associate with you before, and now that you're pregnant, she feels a connection and has something to talk to you about. She's most likely being sincere and trying to build a friendship on your baby.

 

[caseita]

I agree it was probably because she didn't know what you had in common before. The same thing has happened with me and one of my DH's cousins. We talked before but never very much or even hung out but now that I'm expecting we have lots more in common and are a lot closer than we were. Hope it all works out and you have a new great friend!

 

[loverguts]

I think its probably that she is genuinely super happy to know someone who is having a baby that she can (hopefully) talk to about 'baby stuff'!
I know that lots of ladies feel really alone after having a baby and feel like they lose a lot of friends, maybe that happened to her? I don't think you need to be suspicious of her or anything and you might even find that once you've had your LO, you love having another person to offer advice etc.
She does sound quite full on but she sounds like just one of those people who suddenly want to be best friends because they discover you have one thing in common, hehe

 

[xSin]

Thanks for the second opinions guys... I'm probably just hormonal. It doesn't help much that I've never been a "girls girl" and I don't have a great deal of female friends so now that I'm pregnant and it seems like they're coming out of the woodwork everywhere I'm probably just feeling overwhelmed and a bit out of my element.